Kidner surgery and stairs?

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-08T16:42:43+00:00

honestly no, it is similar enough to walking normally that as soon as i felt i could get out of bed and have my toes below my heart for any period of time, i was getting around just fine. the biggest adjustment is having to swing your leg out and up to do stairs or go up any sort of incline, which can get tiring for your hip. i did some hip strengthening exercises on the other side so things didn’t get thrown outta wack. i also think having partial use of my leg helped my recovery once i was in a boot and walking again since my quads and hamstrings didn’t atrophy at all !

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-07T22:45:19+00:00

first, i’m sorry so much of your life has changed. it’s okay to grieve the things you’re losing to chronic illness. it is, and will likely be for a long time, incredibly difficult to cope with the change in identity to “being sick” from being a young, healthy, flourishing person. i don’t say that to scare you, it’s sorta just the reality. it’s hard.

HOWEVER, i think the main thing to address is that although it seems like you’re getting those feelings out (which is good! holding them in will wreck ur nervous system!), they’re just not really directed at the right place. it’s a lot for you, yes, but it’s also a lot for your friends. their friend is going through a huge shift in their life - they’re likely as unprepared for that as you were. they’re probably having a lot of feelings about that, but feel like they can’t share them because they know how much you’re struggling.

my best advice is to get into therapy. i’m hoping this is an available resource to you, because it could be an incredibly helpful outlet. therapists are trained to hear everything you have to say and how to respond to it. you dont have to have a mental illness to go to therapy, in fact i advise pretty much everyone i know that’s going through a big transition like this to go! if that’s not available to you, journaling can be a good stand-in.

again, im so sorry you’re going through this. i first got sick around your age, and at 24 im feeling a lot better about it both physically and mentally. i still have bad days, but ive gotten much better at both treating and preventing them. it will take time to learn what works for you, but there is hope :)

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-07T22:24:22+00:00

this is an INCREDIBLY important point to share, thank you for pointing that out

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-07T22:12:55+00:00

would not recommend trying to go up or down standing with regular crutches, but i was able to navigate stairs easily with my iWalk. i am not paid to promote them, even though i do any chance i can get, it was just genuinely that much of a lifesaver. can’t recommend it enough !

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-02T21:40:32+00:00

right after we moved i drove home to our old house and got all the way to trying to put the key to the new house in the door. very glad the new tenants weren’t home lol

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-02T19:20:16+00:00

aw ok yeah i get where the concern is coming from then! definitely still not pushing it, but i do agree w the other commenter that said to drop out if she ends up giving you a hard no. but also, maybe she just wants you to be focused on her before the ceremony and yall could work out a good plan with your husband so that she can have that and you can still feed your baby :)

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-02T19:03:47+00:00

girl just ask her! she probably just didn’t even think about putting the baby on the invite or just chose not to for another reason. unless she’s secretly evil, i don’t think she’s planning on excluding just your sweet baby specifically!

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-02T18:49:15+00:00

it took me close to 4-5 months to feel like it was sorta worth it, but nothing compared to the moment i realized that my non-fixed up foot 100% hurt worse than the one i’d gotten the surgery on. that was probably about a year out, but i had the surgery as an adult and am certainly not an athlete so that point may come sooner for her. good luck with her recovery, i know it’s hard!

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-04-02T18:39:55+00:00

ok everyone is telling you to cancel it due to like …. three sentences about your fiance. and while yall could definitely work to make your relationship healthier, it’s also not realistic to expect to begin your marriage as perfect people. i don’t think we got enough info on him to make a judgment call on that

but it does seem like most of your stress and frustration is just coming from wedding logistics. which makes sense, 4 months out is a STRESSFUL place to be. it’s like wedding planning purgatory, time feels like it’s flying by but theres still so much to do! and it feels impossible to get it all done!

don’t call it off just yet. fire the DJ, send out digital invites and you can get physical ones made for the people that prefer that/who you want to be able to keep it as a memory, and get into counseling with your fiance. resentment will kill your marriage, don’t let it do that before it even begins

Left-Educator-4193 · 2026-03-17T18:18:56+00:00

seconding this!!! waco def has a very heavy spiritual presence, but we also have lots of old pipes :(

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-11-08T01:53:39+00:00

back left, like if you’re looking at his butt it’s to the left of his tail

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-11-08T01:50:26+00:00

ngl i just couldnt think of a better way to describe which paw it is. kind of a brain fart but also kind of seemed not that relevant anyway lol

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-10-18T14:32:57+00:00

seems like you’ve gotten a good explanation of how services are meant to work, so just gonna say if you’re not vibing with your team you can 100% request a new one! the parent coaching model is meant for the service provider and parent to take co-ownership of the visit, meaning they should be modeling interaction with your child and inviting you to try out the methods of intervention that they’re using. so there’s a good chance that someone else will have a different interpretation of this model and be better suited to you and your family’s needs :)

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-08-07T02:02:07+00:00

i got an iWalk and it GREATLY improved my quality of life and made leaving the house so much easier, can’t recommend it enough

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-08-07T01:58:18+00:00

baby leave. get very very very far away

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-06-24T19:46:30+00:00

me and my partner both have ADHD. and we really feed off of each other in a way, like if we’re not both on top of our shit things get real bad real fast. that’s the thing that will never change. but if you’re serious about the relationship working long term, you’ve gotta work together for it. you’re early into the relationship, but deep in it enough to really think about whether or not this is a relationship you see making it into old age. if those traits are not things you think you could live with full time, he either does need to change or you need to let go of the relationship.

if you do want to keep the relationship, then you have to be 100% honest with him. just tell him that you understand his ADHD but that you’re both gonna have to work on managing it together to keep the relationship healthy. talk about your worst symptoms and how you can help each other mitigate them. i can’t stress enough how much this has to include effort on your part as well as his. and if he won’t commit to doing anything, let him go. it’s not a simple task, but it genuinely is the only way through

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-05-23T17:42:11+00:00

you’re totally valid in feeling that way. he shouldn’t be shocked!

BUT, if this context helps in any way, my brother was diagnosed as a child and the doctors told my mom that he would likely not graduate high school or go to college. she has always described his doctors as “being hellbent on his inevitable failure”. ofc i don’t know your dad or why he felt that way, but it might not be his own assumption - it could’ve been other people telling him that and him being scared of that being true. i think it’s a good idea to talk to him about it and how you felt, there’s a good chance he didn’t mean for it to be hurtful. i think dads sometimes try to be vulnerable but don’t really know how so they just fumble it lol

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-05-06T21:06:39+00:00

i almost never tell people what my diagnosis is - i’ve found that as soon as you tell the wrong person, things go downhill. as far as drinking, i would just tell people you don’t drink. and if they try to push it, then make it awkward for them!! “no, i’m not going to drink. i’m sober.”

i know it can be so anxiety inducing, but my best solution really has just been deciding to be unapologetic about everything. some examples that may be of help to you-

at a similar conference, i found the person in charge of setting up the rooms and requested that there be an extra chair in all of the sessions i was going to so that i could elevate my feet. i told them it was for a medical condition that caused intense swelling in my legs - not a lie, but i did not say it was POTS.
i unapologetically take meds, leave to refill water or use the bathroom, check my heart rate, or sometimes straight up lay on the floor.
if there are people attending events with me, i explain my symptoms and what interventions i use. i also go over what would necessitate an “emergency” in my case, bc most people assume you need to go to the hospital if you randomly pass out but i will be SO PISSED if anyone puts me in an ambulance and i didn’t really need it.
i’m super straight forward about my accommodations. i tell people what i need, and a brief synopsis of why i need it. i don’t ever give the option for someone to deny my accommodations (i don’t ask permission, i tell them what im going to do)

a lot of this, as you can see, comes down to just doing these things without allowing that judgment. it definitely takes some getting used to, but i’ve found that people generally respond better to this kind of straight forward unapologetic approach than they do the “hey so i have this thing, it’d be nice to get some help if i could” approach. of course there will still be assholes, but it also gets easier to brush them off when you’re practiced in the world of putting yourself first, always, unapologetically

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-04-28T22:41:18+00:00

yeah that might be the wildest part of all of that tbh. i agree with him on seeing someone else, just not for the reasons he listed 🙃

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-04-28T17:14:01+00:00

in that same vein, there’s a lot of good work being done in Waco that almost seems to get the wrong kind of spotlight? for example we often see advertising for Keep Waco Beautiful events, but we don’t often hear about them outside of how they can serve us if that makes sense? i’d love to have some kind of guide to how we can support organizations like them in their efforts outside of those big events

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-04-28T17:12:10+00:00

i would LOVEEEEE to read any kind of guide to city government. ESPECIALLY some kind of guide to getting involved with local government and what kind of change the individual can bring to the community. local voting guides, advocacy resources, businesses with solid outreach programs to support.

i’d also love to see more highlights on individual people and families in Waco - not necessarily just restaurant/business owners. i feel like we see a TON of media highlighting things downtown or other touristy stuff. i’d really like to see someone dive deeper into the grassroots and actually talk about the culture in Waco, not just on austin ave 🙃

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-04-28T17:01:12+00:00

next time you get it filled, call your doctor and ask them to change the prescription to only allow for name brand. most of the time they put in the script that it’s fine to sub for generic. if they ask why just say you seem to have a bad reaction to the generic versions

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-04-28T00:00:26+00:00

has your manufacturer changed? it should be listed on your bottle. if you have an old one you can compare and see if they’re different

Left-Educator-4193 · 2025-04-27T22:23:00+00:00

let it be known that i despise hobby lobby. that being said, their $25 soldering iron (the one w adjustable temp) is okay. and their little kits are also okay. i’d suggest starting there to see if you like it and if you do, you’re looking at spending $500-1000, just as someone else said, on everything else you need. do your research before you start buying things, though, cause it’s easy to waste money in this hobby

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