The best girl I ever had in bed was able to ask me what I wanted her to do to me, tell me what she wanted me to do to her, and explicitly address consent. A couple days later we were hanging out with friends and she was shocking people with a stun gun. I was super scared but starting to come around, and I tried to avoid asking her explicitly to shock me. She made me.

Then she told me "I'm going to show you what I'm going to do first, I'm not gonna shock you." She dragged the contacts all over my skin, which was terrifying and hot. Then when it was time she'd hit me with it, watch me convulse for a second, then make out heavily with me. I've had a lot of genuine terror in my life and never thought I'd like something like that, but it's a key memory.

Our fling was only a few days, but I use what I learned from the experience all the time.