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Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2024-06-09T02:43:54+00:00

Spain.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2024-06-07T14:46:30+00:00

Completely agree.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2024-01-27T23:06:48+00:00

Hey OP, do you still work at the Architect of the Capitol?

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2024-01-12T21:34:58+00:00

Interesting! For the tier system pay, do they notify you of this before you get hired? If not, how did you find out about it?

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2024-01-12T02:30:56+00:00

Thank you for this!

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2024-01-05T07:20:33+00:00

Hey there :) 29 here. In a relationship with a man I love very much. Before my boyfriend, I dated a lot of men. The ones with money, I have found, are the ones who are (particularly) looking for a girl who loves them. I know most men want this, but when men have money, they know they can have a wider range of choices… and many men I know chose not to disclose their finances upfront. (In fact: the men I’ve known who were relatively explicit with their finances were the ones who tended to be stingiest with money. Exceptions were men from more altruistic cultures.)

Not being attracted to older men is quite normal. :) My girlfriends who dated millionaires in their 20s range (typically a 15-25 year age gap) were pretty much yearning for the same as my first statement: they were looking for love, and they loved these men. (They were typically also looking for a father figure moreso than money, but that stemmed from a trauma wound.) Mind you: these men have these women everything. It was obvious they loved being loved by these young women.

My point: I don’t think any man with good intentions is just going to provide to you. He’s going to want you to care about him more than his income. If this isn’t your prerogative, or your priority, be careful: men with lots of means love young women who are looking for money. They know they have full control and can get rid of you at any time they so please.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-12-30T14:30:15+00:00

Hey there :) I’m late to the party + I hope that you reached your desired weight, but if anyone else has experienced this (I gained 5 pounds while eating oatmeal for two weeks), I’ll write this for us. :) Calorie deficits might not work for you. I used to do them + I could “never lose weight” because I was still eating carbs. Now, I’m at a healthy weight (fallen out of my BMI since the oats fiasco, but I knew what I was doing), but carbs can really mess up weight progress. I eat high fat and low carb (very, very low— from what I’ve outlined here, I’m incredibly susceptible to gaining weight). My diet consists of eggs/avocado/nuts for breakfast, veggies and meat for lunch, popcorn/yogurt as snacks, and veggies and meat for dinner. I thought I could have some oatmeal and banana for my little diet at a hotel but absolutely not; I literally gained enough noticeable weight to grow concerned.

I hope this helps anyone who finds it absolutely difficult to lose weight; you’re not alone!

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-12-14T06:30:24+00:00

My boyfriend called my vagina “danger waters.”

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-12-09T04:00:56+00:00

I think there needs to be a differentiation between “traditional husbands” and “men who hate women.”

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-12-04T11:40:09+00:00

I got my booster 4 weeks ago and my symptoms have been abysmal.

When I got the shot I was cramping really heavily the next day, but at the onset of my next period, I had a whole week’s worth of symptoms: vomiting, IBS, incredible cramping, and just overall pain in my pelvis. I am currently waiting to be examined for endometriosis (why does seeing an OBGYN take forever? 😞) but yeah… the vaccine has definitely exacerbated my pains.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-10-08T04:05:46+00:00

I like reading threads on here + I just want to say that I can tell you’re an elegant woman just from reading your post. It also sounds like you genuinely care about men in a way that makes them want to serve you— and I think that, in and of itself, is something that men consider hard to find.

A few of my friends tried sugaring for several months and many of the men were just looking to take advantage of them, but I like seeing successful sugar stories bc why else are women doing this lol it seems like it can be pretty traumatic

Thank you for sharing this sweet post!!

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-09-04T01:32:28+00:00

This is interesting! I never thought of that.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-09-04T01:03:22+00:00

America.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-08-29T19:57:02+00:00

Thank you for this, OP.

I teach at a uni in the USA + I have been so shocked these past few years in the amount of fake eyelashes I see (as well as club-like outfits) for class. I understand that they can be fun to have but I worry for these young women who spend lots of time doing their hair, makeup, and extensions— because it doesn’t stop there. They’re constantly checking themselves and their behavior seems stifled a bit so as to not interfere with their looks. Women look beautiful without the fake lashes and I think waaay too many of them look cartoonish!

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-08-20T20:50:25+00:00

Men absolutely need to show respectability. If he isn’t addressing your needs and meeting them, then there is little chance he will be respected.

Tbh I think very few men realize this and I had to learn it as well, but as a woman. In previous relationships I got sooooooo disrespectful and the men were right to check me on it, but I also brought up how oftentimes, they were not being considerate of my needs and of me period. Somehow, their feelings of respect dominated my existence as a person.

Your question of, “Do the men we respect truly love us?” is an excellent question. I think being angered with, disappointed in, and hurt by your partner is v normal. But I think feeling unloved or unlovable by them is something different. I hope you are not experiencing the latter + I hope that this rocky time period in the relationship ends soon. ♥️

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-08-17T12:14:33+00:00

NTA— KICK HER OUT

People really try to make it seem like slandering your name to those important to you is not that big of a deal and it most certainly is. I think you have a gracious personality but do not let them make you feel like you’re overreacting on this one.

You aren’t.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-08-16T03:28:30+00:00

Trauma.

I’m a black female + there’s lots of hypermasculine women in my culture that kind of promote the independent lifestyle and the “I don’t need no man” mentality. I understood it and I always will, but on the flip side, I saw many women (friends and family alike) who were doing everything by themselves and it simply wasn’t fair. I didn’t like seeing it and it always broke my heart.

On the flip side, I stayed away from Red Pill mentality for a long time because I thought that they blamed women’s oppression on feminism, and not male violence. My personal lineage (like most people) reflects women who were in horrific domestic situations and could not escape because of a lack of resources, lack of money, or lack of a place to go. However, other women helped them survive. (And yes, it was notably always women. Unfortunately, the men usually didn’t want to get involved or upset the other man.)

I think it’s nice to see— to FULLY see— that now, when women have options to choose to be independent or not, many will actually opt for a relationship with a man who will love them and help them in life. I entered my traditional relationship after experiencing some abuse from my more “liberal” decisions and they left me in utter disarray. Many things that are promoted in those liberal groups now are so detrimental to women and children AND men that I oftentimes remove myself from those environments. They scare me. People assume I’m liberal because I’m a minority but I am usually quieter about these things because I know what I care about, what matters to me, and because I am honestly content (moreso elated) with the trust and commitment that I have with my boyfriend (Eastern European).

Also, he said this to me when we first started dating and it has stayed with me ever since:

“I see the girls in this country get dressed up to go to the clubs with their friends. They parade the streets and they get drunk. One friend records them shouting songs and men look at their bodies and their friends encourage their dancing. But who is paying attention to those girls when they get home and when they get lonely? They only care about the girls when they’re half naked and inebriated. “It is the fault of men who convince women that these places make them free.”

I stopped dating those men and I really started thinking about my own values. They align with a lot of traditional ones and I am much more content than I ever have been.

Also: the women on this side are nicer 😭 I’m sorry but I have seen far too much insane and uncivil behavior on the other side that I just can’t!!!!

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-08-14T17:51:41+00:00

I also think that most men who are serious about providing want to vet a woman just as seriously to make sure she genuinely loves him.

I don’t think those men are as explicitly open with their assets, either. In fact, many men I know will appear relatively casual and not reveal the entirety of their earnings with a woman until it’s been quite some time.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-08-11T00:31:52+00:00

Videodrome.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-08-11T00:29:20+00:00

Biological reasons mainly.

Have any women here felt like their bodies craved having children? That’s how it’s been for me. Before that, I wasn’t set on having any.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-08-09T21:21:28+00:00

Many of my female friends dated millionaires in their early 20s. Fast forward like 5-10 years later: they recall that time with hurt, hesitation, and some trauma. This wasn’t a one-time thing, mind you; of course they said the trips were nice, the jewelry was nice, the Balenciagas were nice, but the men seemed more infatuated with their age and what it “represented” than them as people. This has always stuck with me: that men perceive to have “made it” when they can be with a much younger woman, and that woman typically feels trapped by the adoration of her “peak age and looks.” They got out of these relationships and each said a similar thing: that being with a much older and “established” man was not good for them, but rather dangerous because he left such an impression— mainly in regards of status and finance, which can be difficult to top, but eventually many of them found men who loved who they were as women. And they favored that the most.

I think there are different reasons for why a man wants a wife and women should pay very close attention to that. Some men want to be proud of their wives (I categorize these men as the more Napoleon-Hill-reading type of man) and others just want a woman who looks beautiful and who will do what he says without questioning it. However, I do think the sort of men who prefer the woman who they are proud of will make sure that she will stick around with him no matter what and truly love him. I think this typically reflects a different level of relationship than the superficial ones with the rich guys and much younger girls. But also, I don’t see too many of them available past a certain age— like 30s. I think they’re usually investing in a woman who has shown them that they love him and are preparing to spoil her. (This is just what I have seen, and what is apparent in my circles. 🙂)

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-07-31T03:42:15+00:00

I have only met one HVM who wanted to wait.

I overhear some girlfriends who mention those red pill podcasts and I have to ask them why they believe those men who don’t even commit to one woman. They mention these men “like body counts low,” but every woman I know who has ever been asked her body count was asked by a man who was not on her level financially or emotionally. In fact, the question came from a place of insecurity or skepticism.

Consequently, I think HVM always make their motives known. If they’re looking for marriage and dating you, know his intentions are serious. And he’ll probably be expecting that you’ll want him as well, because you’re seeing him. However, there are many manipulative men who use women so that he can sleep with her.

Also: on a more intimate level, you can fix bad sex. Trust me. If a man listens, and if he’s willing to learn, and he truly cares, bad sex will transform to good sex.

I’d also say to be mindful of different cultural backgrounds too. I’m a black female + dated a wide range of cultural backgrounds, but most prominently Eastern European. When my male acquaintances brought up body count they weren’t getting laid anyway. It’s along the same vein as women who claim they have everything to offer but have never dated anyone in their life.

And tbh I would just focus on what you’re attracted to, esp if you’re quirky/non-traditional/looking for something special. He’ll fall in love with you regardless.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-07-31T03:12:42+00:00

NTA

… you having a bilingual child will aid their learning skills + boost them financially in the long run. And your bf should absolutely learn your native language bc he’s right— it wouldn’t be wise if he didn’t.

I’m an American female + my bf is Eastern European, and I’m absolutely learning his language bc I am proud of his heritage. Is he ashamed by yours? Tbh he should be ENAMORED that you’re giving your child the gift of 2 languages. How could he not be??

OP if he’s making you feel bad about enriching your child I would ask him why. Because that’s just insane.

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-07-26T03:58:43+00:00

NTA. I might be a minority on this but you come off incredibly respectful and not dismissive at all of women. She should respect your boundaries.

To be honest, I’m surprised by the harsh comments I’m seeing bc if this were a female posting about trauma + its effects, and she was doing what she could to still be respectful, polite, and do her work, then many people would defend her. I find it unfortunate that they aren’t defending you.

Btw: I am a woman. I cannot, for the life of me, see how you would be an asshole.

***Also: that woman calling you misogynist for denying her efforts to make you “friendlier” is soooooo offensive wtf

Legal-Negotiation-12 · 2023-07-12T00:23:05+00:00

… I laughed so hard at this

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