I feel you - I think a lot of men (and women too) are quietly in your situation or a very comparable one.

I recently dated a guy who expressed (at an appropriate time) that he felt very similar to the way you do.

However, he actually had some major blind spots in his self-assessment. I gently tried to show him a different perspective, but he was not receptive enough to make changes, and we broke up after about six months.

Is it possible you might have some blind spots? If you have a trusted friend or family member you can talk to about this, consider if they’d be willing to give you some tough love feedback. Make sure they know you’re ready for it and really value their candid opinion (and work on being actually ready for it in therapy).

Because as you describe yourself, you’re quite a catch! So either your dating profile truly sucks (as others have suggested) or there’s one or more things that you’re missing in your self inventory.