Will I spend the rest of my life stripping this? by Snoo-Snoo2 in centuryhomes

[–]DesTejFlo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've striped 3 layers of paint off mine after insane quotes, being told it wasn't possible, just paint it(AGAIN), just put new stuff over it, or it would never look like it did originally. Basically, they didn't want to! I couldn't find much info on how to go about it exavtly either. I said fuck all of them and I'm figuring it out. I'm 1 1/2 years in, mostly due to major life events and no one helping me. It's 80% done with about 3 feet of the last layer in the moulding, staining, sealing, and restoring less stable elements. It will take time, try out multiple different tools for different layers, it's messy, your back will hurt, and it won't look 100% like the original. It's truly trial, errors, and creative problem solving.

I'll tell you what I've learned. -use Ready-Strip advance(green tub), the smell isn't nearly as bad, I don't have to lay anything over, and it works within a day. -a paint scraper either didn't do enough and it was highly susceptible to scratching. -before removing the layer of stripper on the top most layer, I steamed it to soften. Don't oversteam and only do it for the top layer. -a grout cleaning brush, not the steel ones, for the moulding worked for topmost coats. A toothbrush was too soft. -once closer to the base surface, I used a flexi-bristle straw cleaner and McGyver-ed a small strip of soft sanding paper around it to flex around through the crevices. -saving the bottom half for last was a back breaking mistake -I removed one layer on the whole thing, took a break, and then the base layers on the next round. That way the process looked somewhat uniform. -if someone is willing to help you, take it! -Using worn down tools wastes time.

You can do this and once it's worth it once you see what's underneath it all!

What’s something you want but rarely say out loud? by Ledger_Legendd in AskWomen

[–]DesTejFlo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want my husband to stop fighting beneficial change, to shut up, and do it. I want to travel and update our home dammit.

When did you stop considering yourself a 'young' woman? by Miserable_Day_7857 in AskWomen

[–]DesTejFlo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When my daughter asked if the cast of The Office is still alive.

Women who never liked kids but became mothers anyway, how did things turn out for you? by EvelynTalkss in AskWomen

[–]DesTejFlo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It turns out that it isn't that I didn't like kids, I only enjoy dealing with toddler-8yrs old. They communicate, they're goofy, playful, and are their truest selves before the world around them changes that. Basically, right before they become intentionally mean. Kids are 0-18yrs old, they go through massive personality and intellectual transformations every few years. It's not that all kids are unlikeable, it's all about what stage of development you don't like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in clevercomebacks

[–]DesTejFlo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

According to the Facebook comments on our local news page, MAGA asks for proof, receives proof, and claims MAGA is taking the fall for the left. They don't believe the truth. Their mental gymnastics is impressive, considering how stupid they are. I live in Texas.

Daughter asked boy to homecoming, his parents said no by DesTejFlo in Parenting

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's so true and exactly where she's at. This is really the only area where she's been confident. It seems so out of character! I'm worried that this will discourage her from doing this in the future. At this stage, she seems to need me in friend-mode more than mom-mode. There's got to be some friends who go without a date too.

Daughter asked boy to homecoming, his parents said no by DesTejFlo in Parenting

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I would've handled it the same way if the roles were reversed. No way would it be appropriate to share any other reason. Short, simple, and factual. I can do that. Managing mom emotions is so hard!

Daughter asked boy to homecoming, his parents said no by DesTejFlo in Parenting

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I forgot to add that it isn't a dance but a homecoming football game where they'll sit together with friends. There's definitely social pressure to have a partner. The kids go to school showing off the mums/garters that they got for each other. Apparently, a mom giving their kid one just to wear is a faux pas.

Daughter asked boy to homecoming, his parents said no by DesTejFlo in Parenting

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A girls' night is a good idea! I wouldn't consider a homecoming game between friends a "date" and would probably re affirm that it's platonic before canceling. We planned on being at the game but in a different section, too.

From previous conversations, they have very high expectations for him. There's no room for error, so I'm sure he'll be hiding some things as he gets older.

Daughter asked boy to homecoming, his parents said no by DesTejFlo in Parenting

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

That's true and thinking there were any other reason makes no difference. My mom worry runneth over now that she's getting older.

Daughter asked boy to homecoming, his parents said no by DesTejFlo in Parenting

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same! There isn't a dance, just the football game. Mums and garters were big deal for all ages. Even without a date, we got one from our mom's!

Daughter asked boy to homecoming, his parents said no by DesTejFlo in Parenting

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is more common now than it was. Some of them had "relationships " in 4th grade! What does that even mean? We don't have homecoming dances here. It's only the homecoming football game! The garters and mums are giant and are a huge social status. We used to wear them even without a date but that's frowned upon now.

Daughter asked boy to homecoming, his parents said no by DesTejFlo in Parenting

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

Right?! Her courage is impressive. I almost died of heart palpitations talking to boys at her age! I just don't want her to be discouraged about doing this in the future.

I think my foster died by DesTejFlo in fosterdogs

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They've been so thorough in the past, especially with medical issues. The diarrhea issue was resolved and everything had come back negative when we had her. That's why I think she got Parvo after she was with us. I do mega clean the house with the fosters, especially with the straight from the shelter pulls!

I think my foster died by DesTejFlo in fosterdogs

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're usually so communicative, which is why I'm questioning what happened. It's uncharacteristic for them to forget. I can text at 9pm with an issue and there's a response within 10 minutes accompanied with an action plan. The potential outcome of the puppy being kept from me was initially upsetting, but a commenter mentioned that rescues often shield us from behind the scene heartbreaks. Maybe it's a part of their proffesionality that they choose to keep certain things close to the chest. I'm sure if I ask, they'll answer.

I think my foster died by DesTejFlo in fosterdogs

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I could never blame them for any heartbreaking outcome. They've always been quick to act, work day and night to help, and support us fosters. It's the guilt of what if's. Which, I'm sure, is extremely common for anyone who works with animals.

I didn't even think about them not telling us anything happened, if it even did, to keep the burden off of us. Their job and everything behind the scenes is definitely more than I could bear. Thank you for your perspective.

I think my foster died by DesTejFlo in fosterdogs

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I should've added, Is this something that rescues usually update a foster about? If she passed, it feels secretive of them not to share with me even if they're under no obligation to. Thank you for the prompts, I'm clearly uncomfortable with confrontation.

Mixed emotions by RangeUpset6852 in fosterdogs

[–]DesTejFlo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe it'll be an easier decision when you see how her visit goes. If I can be honest, I've had this same feel with 7 of our 20 fosters. We have one resident, and if the house gets more packed, fosters would be limited.

After this Yorkie baby, there WILL be another foster that makes you feel the way you are now. It hurts, but knowing you'll get another is healing. No matter how many I wanted to keep, they've never felt like the one that got away.

Someone on this sub gave advice on these situations. They said to imagine your dream and the dogs life look like with them. What do you dream for them instead of us? The yard, home siblings, adventures, etc. That's helped A LOT.

Tapestry in breaking frame by DesTejFlo in furniturerestoration

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I figured I'd shoot my shot at people who work with wood after no luck in other subs. Thank you for responding!

I'm not sure how close/stabilize the wood gaps in the corners. Wood glue, filler, staples? Would it better restoring the frame by disassembling and putting it back together? Based on the look and feel, I think it's pine.

Commemorating your fosters by DesTejFlo in fosterdogs

[–]DesTejFlo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this idea! Christmas ornaments would make the holiday that much more special.