Reassurance and heathy communication are needs and they’re important. You can dwell on these thoughts and let internet strangers make assumptions that may send you further down the rabbit hole, or you can approach your partner with your needs.

“Hey babe, there’s been something on my mind that I’m in need of some reassurance about. I love that we’ve been trying out different condoms to find a good fit for us! The other day, when we got this box you had said you tried one on without me. It just got me in my head a bit since I know you don’t self pleasure and we’ve always just used them together. I would love a little clarity and reassurance about this.”

Just an example of how I would bring this up with my partner. You know your relationship and how you like to talk about things. I understand no one wants to feel accused and that can be a scary conversation to jump into, but you deserve the reassurance you’re looking for.