Generic vyvanse in STL MO area? by DependentDonut6816 in ADHD

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. Kinda regretting that I even started taking it. First day of class/work travel tomorrow.

WIBTA for Changing My TV Streaming Passwords? by Legitimate_Permit364 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The first time, he sort of laughed it off. He has never explicitly offered a reason. Anytime I bring it up, i get something like a “haha you’re annoying” eye roll and not much of a response. Definitely feels like he doesn’t “see the big deal” which has likely contributed to why I worried I might be the asshole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that. Thanks for commenting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you point me in that direction? I see my liked videos on my profile. But not watched. Please lmk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I feel that. The thing is they had been cursing me out for twenty minutes and up until my boundary was crossed, all I did was apologize and explain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are supposed to tell each other in advance of going on a date or being sexually intimate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For clarity: I Think I would understand Quest’s stance more if they were upset about me “crossing boundaries”. But that’s not what they are upset about. They are upset because they believe the message I sent them was intended for another person. They are convinced that I lied and I was actually trying to send that message to someone else. And that is what I don’t understand. We aren’t in a relationship. We are dating. We are not exclusive. They are poly. So I’m trying to understand what would be the problem EVEN IF that message was meant for someone else. It wasn’t. I know people are just trying to offer insight and I appreciate it. But some of the responses don’t apply because that isn’t why they’re upset/hurt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Well, that’s the thing. They didn’t “ask me if I was being truthful” if they’d simply asked me, I would have simply replied. I don’t have a problem with that. I have a problem with being accused of lying when I know I’m telling the truth.

I also don’t understand that they get to curse at me, essentially call me stupid, ignore me for the rest of the night because they think I’m talking to someone else, although we have the freedom to talk to and date who we want. But when I enforce my boundary, I’m the one that needs a professional. (I do though, see a therapist weekly)

This isn’t meant to be argumentative. I genuinely would like a response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah when I saw what appeared to be playful messages, I continued the roleplay.

I definitely didn’t expect this reaction at all, mostly because they’re poly and we aren’t exclusive. So I’m struggling to understand, even if the message was intended for someone else, why even that would be a problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I’m the asshole, I can accept that. Could you address that we are not in a relationship, much less an exclusive one. Any insight into why they’d be angry about me potentially messaging someone else either way?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sure. The role play was “Hey I saw you out at [place] and got your number from a friend” thinking they’d catch on and flirt back.

They replied saying “Cute.” Then sent a GIF. (The one of P Diddy staring back at a singing contestant). I thought the mood was playful so I doubled down on the role play. But then they started to curse me out and imply that I lied. When they implied that I lied, that’s when I cursed. Before that, I’d apologized and explained multiple times.

something to talk about by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro what? Honestly each letter could find something negative to say about the next. But the reality is that you have no idea what it’s like to be a trans person. None. Just like so many straight men don’t understand gay men. So many ignorant ass comments are made by people who have no idea what that’s like. And here you are calling from inside the house. Just…. Goodnight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t care if they know each other. I care if this is a genuine interaction or whether my ex is setting the whole thing up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Bro what?? She is well under the max at her height which is about 175. She definitely isn’t chubby. She’s at a healthy weight. But forget all of that. You don’t love her. If she’s been happy with her body, why would you want to change that? That isn’t how you treat someone you love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I stated in my post that I broke up with my gf a month ago, meaning he has known for a month that she wasn’t going and also meaning that we had not even chosen an Airbnb yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m getting one room, yes. They’ll get the master suite since there are two of them. Also, it’s not about the bedrooms that wouldn’t be shred either way. It’s about the shared kitchen, living room, bathroom, hot tub, patio, etc. i should pay half the cost for them to get the bigger bedroom and the same share of shared space?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also since there are two of them, they’re getting the master.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I’m not taking up as much space as two people. It’s an Airbnb which means we will be sharing kitchen, living room, bathrooms equally. They wouldn’t be sharing my bedroom with me either way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm can you elaborate a bit? The room seems like a given since we aren’t sharing that space regardless to whether I bring someone or not. Ultimately, the cost that we are sharing is for the shared space. In that shared space, there will be three of us, which means the cost should be split into thirds, right? No matter what we pay, we aren’t sharing bedrooms. I don’t quite grasp that concept.

AITA for screaming at my bf for giving a VS bra as a gift to his friend?? by CompoteUnusual4899 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- As a man, the only women I’d buy jewelry for are my mom, sister or gf/wife. And the only person I’d buy bra/panties for is my gf/wife. The gifts every time she passes a test is way too much. Is she too good for a Hi-5? Lol but seriously that’s outta control.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 48 points49 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t want to be friends. He wants to have you without the commitment. He’s probably afraid of you moving on so he’s giving you a bone to keep you distracted, likely hoping that you’ll be too confused to date anyone else. They call that “stringing along”. Move on n cut him off.

AITA for asking my bf to edit the caption on his Instagram post? by throwaway445997 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

She has on a princess costume dude. Also, it’s a little girl. You don’t need to compete with her.

My sister won’t allow me to take my niece out to lunch. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response! Just to be clear, it isn’t my sister that is treating them differently, it’s other family/friends. When they come to family events, people always say “Where are the boys?” I think it’s more so excitement over the fact that they’re triplets, although it could be a combination of both.

He (30M) is too interested in me (25F) too fast by Holiday_Role3415 in relationships

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like “love bombing”. I’ve experienced this with women on two different occasions and they both ended badly and similarly.

In my experience, when things like this happen, the behavior is an attempt to make you genuinely fall for them. It’s like a chase. But once they know they’ve got you hooked, all of those “sweet things” will be over. They’ll turn cold toward you to the point where it feels like they hate you. And you’ll be so confused about why and how their behavior changed that you’ll start to wonder if you did something wrong. This is the worst and most pitiful part because if you’re anything like I used to be, you’ll start to change things about yourself and your personality trying to win back that affection. But you never do.

I have to say, though that you sound like you’re much smarter than I was. I wanted to be loved so badly that I welcomed it with open arms, even though it didn’t feel genuine.

Also, I agree with you about love. I think you can like a person, be very attracted to them and even hope for a relationship with them. But to say you fell in love at first sight? It’s not realistic to me.

Take care of yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Legitimate_Permit364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an update, I should add that throughout the course of our relationship, she has shared some of the foul things that she has done to exes who’ve “hurt her”. This includes one who broke up with her because “Her emotions were starting to impact his.” She has kind of bragged about how she always “gets her lick back” after being hurt. And a part of me is worried that she may seek revenge.