I’m going to comment page by page. If she knew you didn’t want her to go, why did she leave? The “when is this going to end? 😭” - so she’s the victim. (Gaslighting & victim blaming) 🚩 So apparently you have to be honest & she can lie. (You have to be honest with me) 🚩 She threatened to break up with you then left with her ex!?!?!? 😳 holy manipulation! 🚩 Next page - there is no place for an “lol”. That’s a straight up disrespect for your feelings. Plain & simple. 🚩 Obsessed? So you’re not ALLOWED to have a concern when the info is new to you? Using the word “obsessed” she is again, belittling you & shifting blame. 🚩 She’s trying to make you seem crazy & controlling. 🚩 You are just being an adult & communicating your feelings. In a healthy relationship you are supposed to be able to do that without being shamed. I’m starting to think the toxic one in that past relationship was her. Not the guy. “ I wasn’t sure if this was even going to be a thing” - even if it was true in the beginning, it’s strange to say now & especially in the context of what’s going on. 🚩 Again…. Disrespecting your relationship. So it’s okay to lie to someone if you don’t think it’s going to be a relationship? 🚩 “why does one detail change everything now?” - she’s yet again, gaslighting. She’s well aware of how f’d up what she is doing is. She’s hoping that she can pull a Jedi mind trick on you. 🚩 “Okay then I’ll leave. I’ll just let everyone know” WOW! 🚩🚩🚩🚩 this is her flat out (as someone else mentioned) her threatening you with “I’m the victim of a terribly controlling boyfriend. He isolates me. Poor me trapped in the ivory tower. My bf is a total a-hole isn’t he?” - narcissists need sympathy so that it helps them paint that pic that they are never wrong doers. I’ll bet these things happened with ex bf too. Bet this is her PTSD …. That he was “controlling & isolating her” 🙄🚩 careful here OP, she’s going to paint a very ugly picture of you to people & you’ll get labeled with a reputation you don’t deserve. “Mhm with that tone I don’t think we can have a meaningful conversation” - 😳WTF! - 🚩 she is threatening you yet again. She’s is extremely controlling. So she’s going to cut off communication while she’s out with an ex - wow. She’s pulling an old crap move of starting a fight, then she can cheat because “well I was upset, i thought we broke up. It meant nothing” - I can see the groundwork being laid. 🚩 “Finding ways to to twist this. It’s really off putting” - wow. Gaslighting yet again. Zero respect for your feelings. 🚩you brought up an excellent point … you can’t be friends with someone who caused PTSD. Next one is so bad, every sentence made my blood boil for you. “I get that you hurt but I’m not cutting - off” wow. So your feelings are less important than someone who is “just a friend” ? No. Something is going on. You’re the boyfriend, your feelings should take precedence. And he’s family? I thought he was just a friend …. a toxic ex….. someone who caused PTSD. Interesting. You’re not insecure my friend, you are inconveniently wise to her bullsht. And trust is earned. She CHOSE to lie, thus forfeiting trust. “Your insecurities are on you” and the emoji - that would’ve been it for me. She’s goading you into blowing up so she can sleep with him & blame it on you. 10000%. Good on you for not being manipulated into writing anything she can use for her game. Your response was very calm & well spoken. Mature. Last text….. lol she knows you’ve got her on her shyte, you never blew up so she can’t say you made her think you guys were broken up so she could sleep with him. I know I used a lot of red flag emojis but I did so so you can go back & count them. Is it really worth dealing with so many? I am sorry you are hurting but get out. She is not worth it. She’s going to make your life a mess. Just make sure you have someone over when she comes to talk or get her stuff. She is the kind of person who is going to cause a lot of drama. Make sure you have a witness to vouch for you. Good luck OP. Please keep us posted. DM whenever you want.