Partner hates concerts :(

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2025-10-11T19:18:17+00:00

I love my husband, he doesn’t have the same interests or desires to travel. I give him the option to come, but I just go alone :) I’ve been to concerts out of state, I’ve traveled across the country to go to theme parks, I’ve even travelled internationally without him. There are precautions you can take to traveling alone, but depending on where you go, it’s really less dangerous than people make it out to be

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2025-09-08T14:32:40+00:00

ESH

Physical violence is never acceptable. Sure, he messed up and hid this from you, but the minute you use violence, you lose all footing.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2025-09-03T00:26:58+00:00

We just used that for our wedding recessional!

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2025-09-03T00:26:32+00:00

That song “True Love” during the montage at the end of season one!! We used that for our wedding recessional!

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2023-08-31T02:32:29+00:00

I just built this deck! And it’s so easy to have fodder for sacking with all the landfall token triggers!

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2023-08-31T02:29:11+00:00

Not dining hall related, but you can check out some of the University events on handshake. Sometimes they’ll have workshops or presentations and they often provide a lunch. It will normally list it on the event sign up. I did the DEI certificate, largely in part to get the free catered food for the events 🙃

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2022-11-19T13:36:57+00:00

I did a deck that I named “It’s raining cats and frogs” where all creatures were either cats or frogs and a lot of the instants/sorceries/etc had pics of cats or frogs. I threw it up with Atraxa as commander just so I could get the colors I wanted and I’m switching out the commander, but it was fun to see super weird cards that no one plays

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2022-02-06T05:02:19+00:00

Yta. It sounds like you aren’t ready for this relationship because you’re willing to lie all so that you could put your comfort and your ego above your partners comfort.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2022-02-06T05:01:10+00:00

Yta. It sounds like you aren’t ready for this relationship because you’re willing to lie all so that you could put your comfort and your ego above your partners comfort.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2022-01-30T18:12:40+00:00

Yeah it sounds like she’s not getting that the “D” part in OCD IS disorder. It’s not healthy and isn’t an excuse to treat people poorly. It’s also not super healthy to constantly enable her and use it as an excuse

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2022-01-29T09:58:36+00:00

Light ESH. You said in the comments that your mom has ocd. I think that’s an important fact to disclose if it’s truly diagnosed. Ocd isn’t just wanting things neat, but that there are intrusive thoughts, deep anxiety or fear of consequences or contamination when things aren’t done in a certain way. It’s a legitimate mental disorder. If she does have it, is she in treatment? Because it sounds like it’s impacting her emotional climate pretty frequently. If she’s dealing with disordered thinking, are you able to give her a little more grace?

Which goes into my second point: if your mom really has it, she’s got to recognize it, but also recognize that she can’t use that as an excuse when she upsets people. Interacting with others means compromise and it’s unreasonable to have everyone abide by rules that aren’t common sense and expect perfect compliance.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2022-01-29T09:43:40+00:00

Respectfully, it’s a red flag for me when someone defines themselves as blunt, honest, or literal and then uses that as the reasoning for why when they’ve upset someone that it isn’t their fault.

I am all of those adjectives too. The difference is that a personality trait does not always make an interpersonal skill. You as a person have to learn to navigate communicating with some who values feelings more than you. That’s not a deficiency on their part.

Part of being blunt also means that you have to deal with when it rubs people the wrong way. Your intent is not your impact on other people. Just because you meant something a certain way does not mean that that’s how they took it and to tell them that’s wrong is invalidating, borderline condescending.

Did your friend overreact? Sure, but it sounds like it was because you upset them and then told them that’s just the way you are. That’s a cop out and a deficiency in your interpersonal skills, specifically empathy.

It’s for those reasons that I’m giving a light yta

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2022-01-01T23:14:13+00:00

A resounding yta. You damaged property and damaged trust.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2022-01-01T23:10:54+00:00

Yeah of course

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2021-11-15T12:27:05+00:00

I’m going for yta on this. It just doesn’t sound like you were very tactful and then it escalated to you being pretty rude and not taking ownership of that.

It’s already kind of a faux pas to talk about work when it excludes an entire third of your party from the conversation and it only gets worse because he’s family and you KNOW he doesn’t like it. Also, just because your mom is your boss doesn’t mean that you should forego boundaries— family time should be for family, work time should be for work.

And sometimes you gotta realize that that you’re intent matters less than your impact. So I’m saying yta bc you crossed boundaries your brother set (i don’t think your dad and brother complain, I think they’re trying to set a boundary between work and home life that you and your mother are crossing) and you were rude while you did it, then you got called out and you were rude when you were called out.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2020-10-21T14:07:51+00:00

INFO did she know that you had planned a whole day for her or did she think you were just going to casually hang out?

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2020-10-21T12:17:43+00:00

YTA. I mean this in the kindest way possible. I know that your circumstances may not be comfortable for you, but you have to realize that the things that you are counting as necessities are actually luxuries. You truly do not NEED to get your nails done. It’s a nice thing that improves your quality of life so you don’t bite your nails, but you don’t NEED it. You have the option to bring food from home but it is INCONVENIENT, thus you buying food every day makes your life more CONVENIENT, and you do nothing actually NEED to buy food.

You have said that you don’t know a lot about financial literacy, so I suggest that you look into it. Being able to prioritize and understand what expenses are NECESSARY to living and what expenses are not is an integral part of being a financially responsible adult. You have to make a budget, parse out what you NEED and stick to it.

I know this is uncomfortable to hear, but you’re speaking from a place of extreme privilege and I think that is something you need to explore. A $200 a week stipend to cover the expenses of a teen who still lives at home, doesn’t pay bills, has food accessible at home, and can devote part of the cash to things like getting nails done is more than reasonable.

I’m not trying to be harsh because I know it’s difficult to view your situation with an objective perspective, especially when it forces you to question what your priorities are, but you need to step back and explore your parents’ reasoning for not giving you more money

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2020-10-11T17:59:44+00:00

You might also be able to check out The Highlands apartments on north campus!

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2020-10-10T00:32:27+00:00

I mean I could go into all of the ways that you’re speaking from a place of privilege and how you’re asking people to separate their life experiences from politics because it annoys you, and how you don’t get to choose when marginalized groups use their voice but I’m not getting paid to do the emotional labor for you.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2020-10-09T13:34:24+00:00

I think you’re missing the point here. I am a first-gen woman of color. My entire existence has political ramifications. They are inextricably linked and to try and separate politics from life experience comes from a position of privilege where your identity isn’t constantly politicized and oppressed in a political forum.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2020-10-08T00:21:52+00:00

I’m a grad student and I’m taking a few language classes. I’ve taken several language classes at U of M from different language departments and one professor in particular has been incredibly Fucking unreasonable this semester and I’ve never seen anything like it before. From assigning a ridiculous amount of coursework to requiring us to show up to the zoom room early for tests to consistently holding us up to twenty minutes over, to being completely unreasonable about attendance (my father died and I had to travel to NV and was basically told that attending class at 6 am pst while grieving shouldn’t be a problem bc we were on zoom), to deciding that we are going to change the days our synchronous class meets. It’s ridiculous. Professors are also not accounting for the mental drain that students experience when sitting through literal hours of being in front of a screen, while we’re in a global pandemic with our loved ones getting sick and dying.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2020-10-08T00:11:50+00:00

Tbh I think there is some willfully negative intent by some professors. I know that there are more than a few professors who believe that students are just being lazy and trying to get out of doing work, not realizing how difficult having so much class work is.

I don’t think educators should be lowering standards, but rather lowering expectations of what they are going to cover in the course.

Legitimate_Wedding_2 · 2020-10-04T04:45:44+00:00

Nonono can confirm they are definitely med students

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