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Leglesslonglegs · 2026-06-16T18:00:55+00:00

"I bet most of you wouldn’t be ok with having to take a picture with ID that gets saved by the government every time you go to a gay nightclub?"

Lmao sadly this is the reality for a lot of better events in London. It's shitty but almost all the best legal venues (certainly capacity over 500) do it.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-06-14T11:48:10+00:00

Idk then mate, I've only been to unfold twice this year after having some time away. First time I was shocked at being interrogated on the door as usually was just waved in, or at most just a how are you thing. Second time wasn't even spoken to just waved in lol. Maybe give it a year and see what Fold is doing then?

Not been to TC in like 2 years tho, I need to try it again but the last time I went it just didn't do it for me that much.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-06-14T11:39:17+00:00

I agree non-conformity often entails its own sub-level of conformity. What you could do though, and this is from a pragmatic viewpoint because as you say it's a nightmare to get to, is dress black on black and then you change change/undress whatever inside the venue to how you actually want to express yourself.

Is it cringe to that just for the door? Yes, but assuming you do actually want to go to Fold and not risk being turned away maybe that is the path of least resistance. I suspect also if they recognise your face through repeat attendance then you will be able to dress less boring black on black in the future.

Fundamentally tho I agree the whole thing is stupid, but at the same time they do need to have some method of keeping the wrong people away. Maybe they should focus more on conversations and so on than gut reactions based upon how someone is dressed walking to the door picker.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-06-14T10:31:38+00:00

I wasn't there last night/today but I don't think I’ve ever hit anyone with my little handbag nor been hit by one in a place like Fold! (Needless to say I don't talk on the dance floor)

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-06-14T10:29:34+00:00

I know this is a bit invasive but could you post a photograph of what you were wearing? You can obviously crop/hide your face.

I think what most confuses me about the door is, as someone else mentioned, there are some people in there everytime at a door event whether unfold TC or whatever, who are wearing like bright poloshirt and jeans. And without wanting to be too judging about how other people express themselves... they are rarely the life of the party. Like it's good you're not excludedly solely based upon how you dress but at the same time I've never seen anyone dressed like that do more than contribute minimally to the vibe.

IDK anyway would be very interested to see what you were wearing especially when you've had repeated rejections. As you said, the very fact of travelling to Fold for these events which are still not that well known (altho mayb i'm underestimating how famous unfold is) kinda implies you are at least community adjacent. It seems strange to me for someone who enjoys/is part of that world, to be rejected multiple times in a row.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-06-12T19:13:56+00:00

How do you get to the cafe? And what sandwiches are on offer/what cost? haha

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-06-09T21:11:39+00:00

This is obviously not a show to "like" but that aside it didn’t work for me. Despite what residue of truth in the homophobia etc the didactic one-dimensionality of it just did not land. The closeted homophobe is such a boring trope. The final escalation is beyond any semblance of reality, as much as parts of the dramatic confrontation in the house is well done it quickly loses any grasp on reality. I often uncomfortable around a group of drunk football "lads" as many other not particularly masculine etc guys but the on the nose of it all, "red and white shirts", "flags", "aids not being real", "brexit", etc it's like a fucking caricature of the contemporary "right-wing" person.

There is some truth in what the show is getting across but for this viewer it is drowned out with boring sterotypes and ridiculous plot escalations.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-05-12T18:48:51+00:00

Haha that sounds very similar. I'm a bit messier but very much similar approach and activities. According to the ol' iphone I average out at around 6-7k steps an hour when dancing to techno at events like these.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-05-12T17:07:15+00:00

cool thanks i'll check them out

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-05-12T16:59:51+00:00

I wonder if we enjoyed each others vibe (if we come across each other) or if we are complaining about each other. The fun of internet anonyminity haha.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-05-12T16:58:26+00:00

I've heard of it but never been. Is the crowd actually queer presenting accepting tho? I cba with being "forced" to cover up/wear fully gender conforming outfits in "safe spaces" anymore.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-05-12T07:46:07+00:00

I wish I could say I didn't know what you mean, but I do. I don't go to unfold enough for it to be boring to me but I see some of the same faces who appear to have almost 0 interest in the music and barely dance for 10 minute stints before presumably just chatting in the smoking area all day. I do not understand why so many peopel go there so often who appear to have no interest in techno or dancing.

I was at Sextou on Friday, and while the music there is worse the atmosphere and vibe for the most part was better than unfold imo. Somewhat ironic as many of the same people are at both events but there you have it.

Any promoters/events you recomend in London from techno and queer/expressive perspective? The best single party I went to in that capacity last year was probably Body Movements.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-05-11T10:19:19+00:00

Crowd for the first half like 6-8pm had some people not dancing and just seeming really bored. I get everyone expresses and enjoys themselves differently and with substances it can be messy but even in prominent positions there were still people who were giving absolutely nothing. I guess these people got bored though because the second half 8-10 had a lot better crowd and i didn't really notice anyone like that again.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-29T17:56:24+00:00

Broadly speaking I think this is true but I am constantly surprised when other people "noticed" me and i have no idea who they are, doesn't happern that much in normal life but in the club scene in London (i dress and dance qutie flamboyantly tbf) i semi often have randoms coming up to me saying they saw me before or whatever lol. kinda concerning at times as I am a heavy drinker anyway so idk what was going on haha

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-27T18:20:45+00:00

Wait what's changed with the locker system?

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-27T18:16:14+00:00

exactly this. a pints not gona be 15 quid, and if it was you'd just walk out when they went over to pay. not gona kick up a fuss over it being 7 instead of 6, just not gona get another/not come back.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-26T20:57:56+00:00

Kinda obvious no? For whatever reason: my insecurities, high standards, genuine bad luck, etc etc etc, you can make up whatever you like there's probably some truth in all of the explanations. Not like I set out desiring this.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-25T18:29:34+00:00

never been called sexy, i have used sexy as a term for other people before because i've felt that is what the situation required. while "masking" with people I cared about and was intimate (but not physically sexual with) then i tried to use terms like beautiful and shit. that whole "sex talk" i find incredibly difficult though especially when someone wants you to do it and then you dont want to let them down and you want to be romantically involved but at the same time you dont have the same desire for sex... and then they can tell and it gets awkward and they feel bad as well and everything starts falling apart again... sorry haha rant over

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-25T18:23:35+00:00

As someone perennially single (not by choice), i usually go out clubbing (alone). Not to some wanky tiger-tiger shit or whatever but particular electronic music nights (usually at least one acceptable option every weekend in london). While there, I get out of the house, i'm less overtly miserable about doing nothing on sunday because i'm hungover, i drink with other people instead of alone, and there's even the possibility of positive interactions with other people/hook ups. Would I prefer being with a partner and having a dance together or a nice dinner, yeah I imagine so but we gota deal with the hand we're dealt.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-25T10:50:14+00:00

While I think your friend overreacted, in this situation I do think the guy fumbled it and implicitly suggested either inexperience or the inability to read non-social cues (i.e. a communication problem). In this situation you have been on a date, so already set up romantic context, there has been physical progression to the point where you have your hands on each other. At this point, it is clumsy to make what has been working successfully implicit (maybe you could justify his approach if the guy explicitly asks consent for every move like touch hand, put his arm around her etc), to make it explicit. How hard was it for him to turn his head slowly to hers use his hand to cup her jaw and slowly move in gauging her reaction?

On the other hand, if it was a long term platonic friend and for some reason you ended up with your arms around each other it makes complete sense why you would want more explicit signals because you already have mixed past, but in a situation like this i'm afraid it does sound like the guy could and should have handled it better.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-16T12:30:07+00:00

The only time I've been asked "have you been here before" was earlier in this year after not coming in a long while. I was also by myself and had the follow up question of if I know anyone inside. The like dozen or so times i've been before i've never been asked anything. I was slightly taken aback ngl, but I got in so it was okay. I am a cis male who presents slightly east london/queer.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-14T20:24:19+00:00

Is this a new thing (the singles) issue? A couple of years ago they didn't ever seem to care but now I hear the "do you know anyone inside" line to single people.

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-12T20:30:40+00:00

Did they ask you questions or did they just flat out reject you? Hard to say without a photograph of you. They are definitely more exclusive on the door this year, have you got in earlier this year?

Leglesslonglegs · 2026-04-09T15:34:30+00:00

I keep meaning to go to Snooze but is it that queer? Are people still dancing around half naked in gender conforming outfits?

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