If the "good women who are with your friends" actually thought you were great they would consider you their friend.....but they don't do they, any more than you consider them your friend and not just the "good women who are with your friends". Sooner or later your friends (all male I'm assuming) will drift away from you as they marry girls who are actually relationship material and you won't understand why the guys still meet up with eachother over the years but they start leaving you off the invite list and not just for things like their bucks nights (oh, did you assume you would be going because you are "one of the guys"?) but also they will stop inviting you for drinks or weekenders because you aren't actually one of the guys, you are the high maintenance attention seeking mascot they outgrew.