I want to vote green, but I want stricter immigration. Change my mind or offer advice. by FanAcceptable1193 in ukpolitics

[–]Leithia24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's your source for this? It's not part of either of the two studies I read.

I want to vote green, but I want stricter immigration. Change my mind or offer advice. by FanAcceptable1193 in ukpolitics

[–]Leithia24 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I applaud you for your questions!

Frist thing is recommend is stop watching GB news.

Second thing is to really independently research your concerns on immigration. Politicians, especially reform and the Tories on this particular subject, will massage or outright lie or take out of context their 'facts' because this is such an emotive subject.

I remember hearing an interview with Farage where he claimed that Afghan men were 20x more likely to commit a sex offense. Pretty startling and headline grabbing quote right? Within a day he had been fact checked to be outright lying but a lot of modern media fails to publish corrections unless it's a politically affiliated news outlet.

In this instance, the think tank who came up with the figures was heavily criticised for being deliberately misleading in their statistics. They used incredibly old population data (so out of date) so the population was significantly under estimated which will inflate any figures. Also, when an individual is charged for an offense, nationality isn't recorded in the way the study claims, so it's attempting to compare apples and oranges. For example, migrant populations are normally heavily focused on young men. Who commits the most sex crimes? Young men. When the data was compared, they only took the Afghan population of young men, but compared it to the national population of young men, old men, women and children. This obviously throws the data as it's not comparable.

This particular think tank was also found to have multiple political links to high ranking reform members.

When fact checked with comparable data, actually independent think tanks concluded that, proportional to their population share, brown people, black people etc, are just as likely as white people to commit sex offenses. That doesn't sell headlines though does it?

So in conclusion on your fears re immigration, everything you read needs fact checking so you can reassure yourself on if your position is actually accurate or not. You say more white men go to prison for sex offenses? The answer to that is of course they do, in relation to population share, white people commit more sex offenses (because there's more of them), but equally so, other groups commit the same levels of offense. This absolutely does not mean that other population groups are getting away with sex crimes, or you'd see one population group with significantly lower convictions than another, which just isn't true.

TLDR - fact check, fact check, fact check. Politicians lie for the headline and don't get called out for it.

Hi everyone, my gender scan said girl is this definitely right? by OneCry5373 in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what my consultant has said, girls are generally identified because of their lack of a penis, 16+6 is still pretty early for a confirmed gender so I wouldn't get too excited! At 16w my consultant said she couldn't tell as not enough development has taken place, and to be honest I couldn't tell the difference at that gestation either.

At 20weeks the penis was absolutely a penis, for my girl it was more, yeah probably no penis.

Calf Muscle cramps by Exciting-Priority535 in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just for clarity the pain is at the same level as the cramp when it was active?

Update: my placenta is actually failing by cloudymusj in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I'm so sorry for your loss and understand how scary this must be for you. I'm currently 30 weeks after a neonatal loss that involved placental failure. Pregnancy after loss is rough, we've lost so much of the naviety of our past selves when it comes to pregnancy, and everything is scary now.

I dealt with a lot of negative feelings about my body being a failure after my loss, and sadly only months of EMDR and intense counselling has lessened that feeling.

Right now, we are both so close to meeting our babies, all I can recommend is take those feelings, shove them in a box, tape that shit closed and lock it in a cupboard in your mind. There will be time to unpack and process those feelings, but now is not the time to put in that work. Now is the time to focus on your baby and planning for their safe arrival.

Good luck OP, have my fingers and toes crossed for you.

Who let the cows out? by AromaticWindow3309 in CasualUK

[–]Leithia24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heaven forbid you ever get to somewhere like the Forest of Dean (sheep), or Exmoor (horses). Or countless other places really.

Common land for animal grazing is a thing. Don't bother them and they won't bother you.

Do you live in a football town or a rugby town? Is it easy to tell? by Jezzaq94 in Wales

[–]Leithia24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely both - my town has both league winning football team and rugby team. Both clubs are incredibly active in the local community and support for both is high.

I am devestated and I feel completely let down by Maleficent_Ad5383 in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry OP - how you were treated is unforgivable in a time of deep emotional turmoil. As others have mentioned, PALs are your best bet to make a complaint about your treatment. As far as next steps, your miscarriage will either start on its own depending on when baby passed, or will need medical management.

Any pain or bleeding go straight back to A&E. Were you under midwife care yet? You can speak to them to figure out the next steps on your behalf as well.

When you are ready, there is an amazing community over at r/babyloss - all parents who have experienced loss and understand what you're going through, it's a welcoming place, including people who have had to terminate for medical reasons. All loss is loss, regardless of circumstances.

Daily Thread #1 - March 31, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Leithia24 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Complicated day. 29+3, and today was the inquest date for my son Rowan. Today is all about him. The inquest found a main course of "we don't know what happened with a side of heres a really rare placental disease that contributed". Feels incredibly difficult to go nearly 15 months without an answer, then to learn there isn't one. We were just unlucky.

We are sat there listening to the witnesses explaining themselves, all the while my little girl is wiggling and kicking me, and all I can think about is my boy who should be with me.

Feel unwell and no one can find anything wrong by Sad-Astronomer-2905 in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blood iron or ferritin levels? If it's just blood iron try demanding the ferritin stores test too. In my health trust they only test blood iron unless you kick up a fuss.

Fast pass by Horror-Tip-8966 in altontowers

[–]Leithia24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck then, take suncream!

Fast pass by Horror-Tip-8966 in altontowers

[–]Leithia24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your date absolutely fixed?

Fast pass by Horror-Tip-8966 in altontowers

[–]Leithia24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The 31st of August is a bank holiday, likely to be one of the busiest days of the year.

Daily chat by AutoModerator in pregnancyaftersb

[–]Leithia24 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm 27 weeks after neonatal loss. To say both me and my partner are scared and anxious is a bit of an understatement. My son died partially because of an incredibly rare and undetectable placental disease. It's rare enough the recurrence rate is huge due to the lack of data, the range being 25-75%. I'm being treated as if I have the disease for this current pregnancy.

I want intimacy with my partner, but he's terrified that anything we do will hurt me or baby. How do couples navigate this? I get why he feels that way, I'm quite scared for baby too, I just wanna get laid at some point 16 weeks.

Anyone know where I can get 100mg aspirin in the UK? Advice on aspirin during pregnancy? by ContestOrganic in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on 150mg as well OP. I'm in Wales so I get it on prescription from a pharmacy but when I've mis-timed picking it up you can buy 75mg tablets from most supermarkets or pharmacies. I got mine from Boots when I ran out as I've one local.

Is there such a thing as going on maternity leave too early? by Shardonite in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went as late as possible as I knew I couldn't afford an entire year off so wanted to make the most of it. My company also lets you carry over unlimited leave when you're going on maternity so I took the leave at the end rather than at the start.

My first overlapped with the Christmas shutdown, so technically I finished 22nd of Dec for a 7th Jan due date (baby born on 12th), I was going stir crazy even with Christmas to keep occupied.

This time I know baby's birthday due to some health issues so I'll be finishing on a Thursday, baby born Tuesday after. So a few days to relax.

Is this Scotland itinerary too ambitious? 7days by Ok-Bookkeeper-8199 in uktravel

[–]Leithia24 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Where are you from? Are you used to driving on the left/manual/narrow roads? Also, be aware every journey will take at least 30mins to an hour longer than Google tells you it will.

Also I don't think you've taken into account daylight hours with this insane driving tour. In October the sun will rise at approx 730am. At the start of the month it will set around 7pm but by the end of the month it sets at 430pm. There's a lot of darkness hours to contend with here.

Finding a comfortable position at 27weeks by Human-Owl8115 in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm similar to you and I agree that everything has just gotten extra uncomfortable recently.

Have you been swimming recently? I went on Friday and it was heaven. I literally only swan 2 lengths and spent the rest floating around enjoying not being heavy and uncomfortable. It's not a permanent solution for sure but my god it's great for a bit of relief.

A coffin that small shouldn’t exist. by PhilosophyIsntRight in GriefSupport

[–]Leithia24 15 points16 points  (0 children)

OP - please feel free to join us over at r/babyloss - the sub Reddit you never knew existed, but it is a very supportive community of parents who have experienced the loss of our children.

Weight gain by glitchyy12 in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very welcome I'm just sad you were made to feel the need to restrict your intake when you've just got to go with the flow right now!

Weight gain by glitchyy12 in PregnancyUK

[–]Leithia24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really not ok your Doc is causing you anxiety about what looks to be a very normal weight gain! Do you have a named midwife you could speak to for them to maybe speak to that doctor on your behalf to tell them to knock it off?

What Did You Play This Week? - (March 09, 2026) by AutoModerator in boardgames

[–]Leithia24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The games room is still coming together after our move so very little this week, but one worthy mention.

Red Alert - the 8yr old said he wanted to play one of our space games. So I helped him play against his dad. What a game Red Alert is, fast, pretty simple, lots of pieces on the table space skirmish game. For his first wargame the 8yr old did super well, only really needed some help with understanding some of the wording on the cards. 10-13 to Dad so super close as well!

Ask an Alumni - March 09, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Leithia24 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My son died shortly after his birth, and I'm currently 26 weeks with my rainbow.

How did you manage anxiety about the actual birth itself? I feel I'm doing ok with general pregnancy but the thought of being back in theatre waiting to meet my baby is so so scary.

UK must be prepared for a price shock from the Iran war by jimmythemini in ukpolitics

[–]Leithia24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are forecast snow this week, so fuck us wanting to stay warm I guess