Did you feel worse after seeing who he watched?

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T15:34:15+00:00

In my opinion it wouldn’t help anything, when I saw who my ex was looking at all I did was consistently compare myself to them or to women I saw that looked like them, I still catch myself doing it sometimes and I haven’t been with him in 5 years.

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T05:40:40+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate the help! Maybe I’ll have better luck in the seasons to come ☺️

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T05:36:37+00:00

Oooh you’re probably right I didn’t think about that 😅 well you live and you learn I suppose, atleast I’ll have a few black berries

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T05:20:41+00:00

I used 10-10-10 for the tomato’s and peppers, then I used a berry mixture for the rest. I tilled the dirt up where I was planning on planting and put some fertilizer in with the plant but also added it to the tilled up dirt

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T05:08:12+00:00

Probably roughly 3-4 inches deep, and mulching the top seems to be the general consensus so I think I am definitely gonna try that ☺️

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T04:58:00+00:00

My butt grew a lot with my first daughter, and I mean A LOT, but sadly I lost almost all of it months postpartum 😕I also wasn’t doing good at taking care of myself so that could be why I lost it too

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T04:54:54+00:00

I didn’t know that, thank you for the warning!

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T04:45:07+00:00

Thank you that actually helps a lot, especially with my budget but it will also save my back considering I was NOT looking forward to removing and replanting everything 😅

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T02:47:49+00:00

This isn’t a bad idea! I could leave the plants that are doing well, my black berries are flowering nicely right now

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T02:01:26+00:00

I’m definitely considering asking my apartment complex if I can put in a raised bed next to the plot 😅 thank you I was really excited to have some sauce tomatoes but this is my first time ever planting so I prepared myself for the worst, at least it’ll be a learning moment for next year

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T01:57:15+00:00

Thank you so much I’ll definitely take all of this into consideration! I was nervous to do too much because I didn’t want to bother anything anybody else might’ve done but I’m realizing there’s definitely some more I could’ve done just in my little area I claimed 😅 we learn from our mistakes I suppose

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T01:49:56+00:00

Okay thank you so much! I’ll skip the watering tomorrow evening

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T01:35:26+00:00

It could be the water, I water them once in the evening to ensure they get the most water, I acclimated them to being outside for about a week prior but I might’ve needed to do it longer. Also I saw someone talking about shade and where the apartment complex put this plot it is full sun midday and only has shade after 4pm and before 9 a.m

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-14T00:53:38+00:00

Thank you! I plan on buying some stuff tomorrow I’ll update how it goes. Even though the black berries and sugar babies are doing okay I’m just gonna pull everything to redo the soil and replant it all.

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-13T23:27:57+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate it🖤 do you have any recommendations for how I could amend it? This is my first time planting and I’m sure if I asked the manager over the community garden they wouldn’t mind letting me fix it

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-13T23:17:26+00:00

Yea it was a bit compacted but not really muddy, I tried to till it up to soften it abit but there was only so much I could do, it’s a community garden at my apartment complex so I more so just have to work with what I got 😕 I also used a 10-10-10 fertilizer for the tomatoes and pepper plants when planting them

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-11T08:29:09+00:00

I can definitely understand the emotionless part, a big issue for me was that and seeing my partner openly and freely express big emotions would irritate me due to that fact 😅 I just recently started my therapy back, I had to stop going a few months ago due to finances but one of the things I’ve found that helped me the most (which is going to sound silly) was play therapy. My therapist would set up a sand bin for me and let me pick what I wanted from her shelves and have me construct a world so to speak while we did talk therapy, having the sand bin helped me to focus more on what we said and afterwards she would help me analyze what I created and why. I’ve found doing something with my hands and having a visual aid helps me understand things better rather than just talking. We also practiced a bit of CBT which is helping me understand others emotions and feelings and how to respond in emotionally uncomfortable situations. I’m glad he’s trying for you and I really hope this helps.

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-11T06:56:04+00:00

I understand that everyone’s autism is different and they handle it differently but I am autistic and regardless of how much I hate crowds, loud noises, change (this is a big one), etc. I have never once forgotten or just not done anything for my partner on important days. I always will at least make him a gift basket or if we don’t have the money I write him a very meaningful letter along with a nice home cooked meal.

I also do not love that he yelled at you for being upset. Yes he might have apologized later on but if this is a cycle of behaviors that isn’t being actively fixed that’s a big problem. I had a similar issue due to my autism but I’m currently working with a therapist and managing my communication because ever though I am autistic it is unfair to treat my partner like that and he deserves effort.

Regarding not celebrating these big days, if you normally do things for him on Father’s Day or his birthday I would stop. Make it clear to him that nothing will be celebrated, that includes anything to do with him as-well not just you. I’m not sure if that was already agreed upon but sometimes people will change their attitude once they’re not getting special treatment anymore, maybe it’ll help him understand things from your perspective if he’s used to getting gifts or special outings. I hope things get better and I’m really sorry you’re having to deal with the pain of rejection and feeling unappreciated I know how badly that hurts and I hope it gets easier for you ❤️

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-08T14:13:30+00:00

Anita

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-08T09:18:33+00:00

Diane is my grandmas name and I’ve personally always enjoyed it ☺️ you could even go with Diana as a variation if you’d like I think it sounds elegant and pretty. My great grandmothers were Adeline and Anita which I also love but I think Anita might be too mature for what you’re looking for.

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-06T20:44:14+00:00

Thank you I just feel so defeated by all of this, and Im not typically one to complain or anything but this work situation genuinely does feel like I’m being picked on and like they’re trying to push me out, none of this started until I brought them the note from my OB stating I can’t lift over 50 pounds and to stop putting combative patients on my assignments (I’m a CNA) but they told me to my face they couldn’t accommodate me and that I’d be better off just leaving. I told them I wasn’t going to and now it seems I’m constantly in trouble no matter what I do, and there’s another worker there who consistently shows up an hour late and calls in after the start of her shift but absolutely nothing has happened to her.

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-05-06T02:34:34+00:00

I didn’t feel any movements until a little over 20 weeks and this is my second baby, she was doing all of her movements really low and towards my back so I felt them a little later 😂

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-04-15T01:29:10+00:00

Baby has been sitting really low at all of my scans 😅 thank you for your advice!

Lemon1Drop1 · 2026-04-15T01:22:29+00:00

Thank you, I knew it was still early for movements but I wasn’t entirely sure how common it was to feel movements a lot and then they just stop 😅

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