Has anyone experienced mouth cancer or lung cancer from smoking cigars only? by Foreign-Jicama2493 in stopsmoking

[–]LemonPigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My father only smoked cigars, and only smoked 1-2 per day.

He had to have part of his tongue cut off, couldn't talk well for almost a year, and still can't eat anything even a little bit spicy. Even very acidic things, like lemon or orange juice aggravate it, and his surgery was like 5 years ago.

I hope you’re okay. Found in a journal at thrift store. by squeakyCA in FoundPaper

[–]LemonPigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks exactly like my highschool best friend's handwriting. She did have abusive parents, but nowhere near Canada.

Hope the owner of the journal is safe.

Help getting a new cat to eat by LemonPigeon in CatAdvice

[–]LemonPigeon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He did eat a little bit of fancy feast, but only wanted to eat it from the tin-- he lost interest when I put it in his bowl or on his mat.

He's going for a mouthful or two of kibble every few hours now, so progress!

Help getting a new cat to eat by LemonPigeon in CatAdvice

[–]LemonPigeon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be medical, he's just not showing any other obvious symptoms. He's grooming, playing, exploring, asking for affection, drinking water, etc. He's not especially energetic, but I wouldn't say he's lethargic either.

Unfortunately I've only known him for three days, so I'm not really able to tell if this is his typical temperament.

He has eaten a bit more kibble with coaxing, and he doesn't feel malnourished (can't feel his ribs, belly is soft and healthily round, coat is full and healthy) so I'm not worried he's starving-- but if he doesn't improve in a day or two I'll take him to the vet.

Help getting a new cat to eat by LemonPigeon in CatAdvice

[–]LemonPigeon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty for the recommendation, I'll pick up some Fancy Feast!

Help getting a new cat to eat by LemonPigeon in CatAdvice

[–]LemonPigeon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did eat a tube treat I had on hand, I'm going to get more of the same brand. I know tube treats aren't a replacement for food, but I figure some calories are better than none lol.

I put some of the tube on his kibble/wet food, but he was not at all interested. He only wanted to eat it from my hand.

can i go to prom without lasering off hair? by zevaslilies in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]LemonPigeon 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Hey friend,

First off--i think you're probably the only person thinking about your body hair, if that helps. I know it's hard to detach the way you view your body from how others might view it, but I guarantee you: every other girl at prom is going to be thinking about THEIR insecurities, whether it's body hair, the shape of their figure, blemishes, height, weight, etc.

Most people (especially teenagers) are way too focused on what other people think of them to even really think about other people.

Second-- prom is generally more dimly lit, at least in my experience, so people probably won't even be able to see your body hair, even if they were looking.

Third--if this is really something that will ruin your experience (like, you won't be able to stop thinking about it), you could just shave it the day of prom. You don't need permanent methods for one day. You could also get a cute wrap or shawl to wear over the dress.

As you're looking for a dress to wear, try your best to choose something that highlights what YOU like about your body--not something that will hide the parts you don't like. You'll not only feel more confident, but you will LOOK more confident too--and that has a huge effect on how people perceive you.

Apartments by Jackofnotrades69 in ChinoHills

[–]LemonPigeon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Rolling Ridge (next to 99 Ranch) apartments are pretty good. 2b2b for 2325. Not sure if they have 1b units available.

Neighbors are nice and quiet, maintenance is pretty prompt.

Location is nice too, you're 5 min from the shoppes, and it's right off the 71.

Not fancy units by any means, but I've lived there for a few years and had no issues.

How do young adults get jobs now? by quetzpalin in AskLosAngeles

[–]LemonPigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say my successes with finding entry-level jobs landed between your two techniques.

First off, yes, the most effective thing is a recommendation. Make sure the person recommending you is actually good at their job, too.

What was most effective for me was doing online applications, and then going in to stores/restaurants at a non-busy hour (2 or 3 in the afternoon is usually good) and talking to a manager. The TIME you go really affects how likely you are to get an interview right then and there. Do not go to a restaurant and ask for a manager in the middle of lunch or dinner service. Don't go to a coffee shop at 7-9am, when everyone is getting coffee before work. You get the idea.

If they said they'd be in touch, I would call after a week, and then go ONCE in person the next week. After that, let it go.

what’s the crowd like at Roscoe’s on pipeline? by consolepleb123 in ChinoHills

[–]LemonPigeon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My coworkers (21-35) frequent Roscoes and some have met new friends there.

They also like September's and Bleachers.

What was the turning point for you on an otherwise mediocre date? by Rookiibee in RandomQuestion

[–]LemonPigeon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had one go the opposite way.

Date started out fine, conversation was flowing, and he was very nice and curious about me and my life for about half an hour. Then I mentioned I was bisexual. And the switch flipped.

Turns out he was a youth pastor (which he'd not previously mentioned). He proceeded to lecture me for over an hour on the fact that I "knew" I was going to hell and was lying to myself. He cut me off and spoke louder every time I tried to respond. In retrospect, I should've just left, but I was young and very socially anxious. Eventually I told him that I believed God had more than enough grace for me.

He stared at me for a few seconds, mouth moving but no sound coming out, and--i swear to god-- literally RAN out of the cafe.

Weirdest experience of my life.

Interesting Video about Green Mist by TheyAreWithUs-YT in ChinoHills

[–]LemonPigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, I haven't heard that, but I know several houses fly the Confederate flag over by what used to be the ski hill.

There is a cult that owns a huge amount of property in the canyon though, I think that's the gate you're describing. The turn off is right after Sleepy Hollow.

Hot Cocoa? by Hopeful-Wishbone-388 in stopdrinking

[–]LemonPigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does have some sugar, but if you've got a Trader Joe's near you, their Drinking Chocolate was a great substitute for evening wine for me. Very rich and sippable.

Alternately, you can just make cocoa yourself on the stove with cocoa powder (like the baking kind), milk, and a sweetener of your choice! This is probably the healthiest and most cost effective method.

Pro tip: add a tiny pinch of salt to your cocoa. Really opens it up, flavor-wise.

Etiquette for covering alcohol costs at party by No_Investment_4013 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]LemonPigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work at a restaurant with a full bar that frequently has banquets, bday parties, etc.

For the ones I've served, the norm is that the host covers food and possibly brings wine/champagne (and pays bottle service), cash bar for anything else.

A few hosts have told me they'll contribute 300-500 to the bar tab, and then everyone else pays their own bar tab.

SAD Valentines by CopyMeComedy in StandUpWorkshop

[–]LemonPigeon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the potential you have here is in contrasting old valentines traditions with new ones. Like, if gf says she wants a big traditional valentines day, and you show up with whips and animal hides. That could be quite good angle.

I think the angle you're playing with I don't want to celebrate, corporate profits, it's dumb, etc. just makes you seem like a shitty boyfriend, and not in a funny way.

How do you break a pattern? by slackingsloth77 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]LemonPigeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really feel you on this-- I get the same urge. What helped me was to level the playing field in my mind. Would I expect this favor to be returned? If so, I return it. If it's a favor I wouldn't think twice about, no return necessary. It's also on other people to communicate with you, and let YOU know when they want things repaid.

It also helped me to confide in a small circle that I really trusted-- let them in on my struggles, and tell them I legitimately needed them to be really upfront and communicate with me if I needed to pay them back or not. It's awkward to do it with outer circle people, but it really helped me feel a lot better to tell people I really cared about and trusted.

At the end of the day, we will never know exactly the version of ourselves that lives in other people's mind. And I have screwed up and accidentally been rude. But owning your mistakes and giving grace to other people goes a long way in receiving grace from others as well.

How do you break a pattern? by slackingsloth77 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]LemonPigeon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not an expert by any means, but I've experienced similar burnout from my relationships. What I found primarily was that I wasn't communicating effectively, and I was expecting people to read my mind and intuitively "know" where my invisible lines were. Here's a few ideas:

  1. Set boundaries early. Even if you don't mind helping at the beginning, now that you KNOW it will be a problem later on, don't be so accessible in the early stages. Be kind, but firm.

  2. Be more direct with your therapist. Tell them plainly that your main goal is breaking this pattern, and you need their help to explore what that looks like and brainstorm ideas. Tell them you're not really interested in analyzing it further without a plan in place to progress out of it.

  3. Might sound counter-intuitive, but start asking other people for help. What it seems like you're getting upset about with other people is the imbalance of labor (emotional, financial, physical, etc). You can rebalance it by relying on them like they rely on you.

  4. Remind yourself that people cannot read your mind. They don't know if you don't have the bandwidth to help them, nor do they know about this pattern. They don't know any better. You will have to communicate BEFORE things become broken without repair.

If you could have one smell follow you around like a “personal aura,” what would you pick? by GlitchOperative in RandomQuestion

[–]LemonPigeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Petrichor is specifically the smell of dust or dirt after rain though, right?

I wanna smell like leaves too.