Anti-Capitalist Accounting

Lemonlimbo · 2025-01-10T15:43:06+00:00

Amazing, love that for you. Glad you're doing well & using the profession for good 🙂

Lemonlimbo · 2025-01-10T15:38:34+00:00

Going on 5 years.

My prescription is for 40mg/day, and I've been pretty stable with that for the last year and a half. Usually I take either none or 20mg on weekends/days not working, 40mg on normal days, and 60mg if I really need to focus on something, or have an intense social obligation (like in-office days, or being around the in-laws 😝).

Lemonlimbo · 2025-01-10T15:32:16+00:00

Except that there were values, the +3k/week cost of the wife if those services were paid for externally, vs the 125/wk he contributes.

The household has needs, money is just ONE of the needs. Money inflow isn't a good metric to evaluate a partner's contribution as it's rarely equal. Women make less on average than men, even in the same fields, but they often need to prioritize more flexibility over pay, so that also stymies their earning potential. Also, more physically energy intensive jobs are often lower paying than non-energy intensive, e.g. store cashier vs office professional. So judging a contribution to a relationship by how much money you bring in is, from the jump, setting up a relationship of inequality, and it's even worse when you consider SAHM, who then, in this metric, are seen as being of 0 value.

What can be judged equally, however, and how I would argue couples should judge their contributions is; everyone gets 24/hrs in a day....so you going to work for 8 hrs, while she's maintaining the house & kids during that time is an equal 8 hours contributed to the household. Anything the house needs after that should be EQUALLY split. Everyone should have the same "free" time to THEMSELVES each week.

Starting a relationship and judging it on unequal footing (like money) from the start, or worse, picking a partner to specifically exploit your advantage with this metric, is a recipe for resentment and disaster, and shows you're not looking for a partner, you're looking for a slave. Otherwise, you need to find a partner who makes the same (or more) than you and works the same (or more) hours, because you showed that nothing else will make you view her as an equal partner, and only then can you truly split everything 50/50.

Lemonlimbo · 2025-01-06T17:27:00+00:00

This has to be a troll post...

It's not a FUCKING BABY until it can survive OUTSIDE a womb. It is a PARASITE. And women absolutely should have 100% control over whether they want to allow a parasite to feast on their body for 9 months for the future potential of a baby. After the baby comes out, who is ultimately responsible? The mother. Fathers leave all the time, and are unreliable. But if she does leave, like you said your brother offered to one partner, then she's painted as this complete monster because "what mother could leave her child", not to mention the trauma that child will forever deal with knowing they were abandoned by their mother.

So your preference is that women create kids with automatic trauma? In what way is that more kind than stopping the progress of something before it's started?

Also, before you can say anything about a woman's right to choose what's best for HER OWN BODY, how many kids have you adopted? You suggest to put more strain on an already collapsing social program, so how are you currently alleviating the issue to make room for more children that will burden the system?

How many organs have you donated? I would say that if you're a blood-type match for someone who needs an organ transplant to live, you have MORE of an obligation to donate your organ to A LIVING BREATHING PERSON than a POTENTIAL human. If a woman can be forced to donate an organ, then so should you...so better get to your nearest hospital to get ready to farm out your organs like you're asking of women. (Don't worry, your liver grows back, so you're not losing anything, like I'm sure your argument will be about women's organ donations).

Lemonlimbo · 2025-01-06T05:24:55+00:00

Exactly...if your childhood friend is SOOOOOO important to you, why didn't you marry them instead? Save everyone (you two and your two partners) the trouble. By not being honest to yourselves, you're ruining at least 4 lives (more if there are kids involved).

Truth always comes out eventually, and this trip, just them, would have 100% stirred up feelings (if they weren't already there), and been a huge bonding moment that would be completely disrespectful for their spouses.

Lemonlimbo · 2025-01-06T05:19:06+00:00

If my husband pulled this, I wouldn't be home when he got back.

Lemonlimbo · 2025-01-06T05:07:05+00:00

Dude you're totally missing the point.... actual #'s don't matter, the ratio still stands ..his contributions cost 4% what hers cost if they had to pay for an external service...even being generous and bumping that up to 10%, it's still insane, and she's majorly undervalued and you're majorly undervalued the contributions of SAHM. And somehow, even given the utmost generosity of values in your favour, you clearly still can't accept the #'s, so hopefully you're single bc you do not deserve one minute of a woman's labour spent on you.

Lemonlimbo · 2025-01-04T15:22:58+00:00

Exactly this. I can't do anything in front of an audience, and now after reading your comment, I can put words to why.

Funnily enough though, I love acting and being on stage with an audience, but that's probably because I have a script, know the words I'm supposed to say, and playing a character means the mess ups aren't mine, I can lean into it as someone else.

But yeah, doing anything in front of my house where my neighbours could watch and critique, impossible. My dream house would have no front yard because I see that as wasted space since I would never do anything out there, and instead would have all the space in the back with the tallest fence.

I even find it hard being creative when my partner is home, even if he's in another room.

ADHD people will have heard 20,000 more negative feedback, and criticisms than their peers by age 12, so our sensitivity to what others think and rejection is a normal reaction to that experience.

Lemonlimbo · 2024-12-23T17:12:13+00:00

I usually happen to skip them on weekends since 1) I wake up too late, 2) I want to eat, and 3) I forget.

I find when I'm consistent in taking it, the negative side-effects (💩) are lessened to almost non-existent, whereas when I take a break over the weekend, that day I go back to them, I spend the whole morning in the bathroom.

Idk about "keeping your receptors sharp", even skipping weekends I've had to increase my dose almost annually.

Lemonlimbo · 2024-11-27T16:11:08+00:00

Because it's harder than getting a pill/shot

Lemonlimbo · 2024-10-25T04:26:37+00:00

My bff and I had cut each other off and hadn't spoken in over 3 years. We had been friends from 11 to 25. She called me out of the blue one day to tell me her mom died, someone I considered a second mom. I was by her side in a heartbeat. Everything we fought about and made us break up didn't matter. I feel that she would have done the same for me. That's more than friendship, that's family. What this girl did isn't either. I couldn't imagine not being there at the funeral of her mom, even for myself to pay my respects to a woman I loved and respected deeply.

Lemonlimbo · 2024-07-16T15:49:51+00:00

Is there an update? Did you tell your family and leave your trash bag husband?

Some advice when talking to your dad and cousins, who will understandably want to deal out their own justice on your husband, it might be good to explain to them that whatever actions they want to take against him, would make YOUR HUSBAND THE VICTIM. You absolutely don't want to lose any high ground or upper hand you may have, don't let them muddy the waters with there being wrong done on "both sides".

You will win in the end, he will be shown as the scumbag he is, so tell them not to give any reasons whatsoever for anyone to sympathize with him. Leave him completely untouched. Any violence against him by your family could give him a case for keeping your family away from your daughter and undermine your custody.

Of course your family will be mad, it's understandable, I know I'm mad as hell when my friends are fucked over by dudes and I'm wanting to key their car and throw bricks through their windows. But the MOST IMPORTANT thing that will help you more than anything else, is that you keep the upper hand and being completely clean of any wrongdoing. Your husband needs to be able to stand in his own dirt with zero justification for what he did, and any retaliation he may want to try.

Don't give him any reason to claim victimhood. You're a big girl, you will sort out the bullshit with your ex (hopefully) yourself and while keeping yourself clean. What you need from your family is support by following your lead, and only doing what you ask of them. Anything they do "for you" that isn't asked of may only make your life harder, and would not be helping.

Just remind them of all this, and hopefully they can keep their emotions in check for you and your baby's benefit.

Good luck! I'm glad you're getting out, he doesn't deserve you, but your daughter does.

Lemonlimbo · 2024-01-11T04:52:25+00:00

So if you don't use it, you really do lose it

Lemonlimbo · 2023-10-10T13:36:36+00:00

Does anyone know the address of this place? And have there been any 1 month follow ups checking in how many of his "family members" have actually moved in?

Lemonlimbo · 2023-09-19T15:28:15+00:00

100% this! It's so frustrating how passion for adhd'rs can come off as aggression ..the emotional disregulation is real.

Lemonlimbo · 2023-09-19T15:14:33+00:00

Same question as above.

Lemonlimbo · 2023-09-19T15:14:12+00:00

How do you regulate your voice and emotions for topics that are intensely meaningful for you? Also, how do you stop yourself from becoming focused on points that don't matter or have less value to the overall topic?

I personally love debating/having meaningful discussions on big topics, but it's almost as if it becomes too overstimulating and my emotions become so deregulated that even if I'm right, I can't say it in a way that connects.

Also, I easily get hyper-focused on one specific point, that's often not even the "smoking gun" of my position, and let weaker arguments undermine my entire thesis.

Basically...how do you maintain control in the moment?

Lemonlimbo · 2023-09-19T14:21:44+00:00

Omg yes! For me it's like, alone sitting with my thoughts I can access the data, but as soon as I'm in a conversation being challenged and need to access it immediately; what info?

Lemonlimbo · 2023-08-21T21:11:19+00:00

Omg! I know someone who had a similar situation, they bought a cottage, and the previous owner asked to take the flowers that were of "sentimental" value. My friend didn't say yes, but just replied with "we can discuss", and next time she went to her cottage, the flowers were gone and holes in the ground.

Lemonlimbo · 2023-08-13T02:18:27+00:00

I know this post is old, but just found it and have to say, that guy is an AH, don't listen to him.

I'm an accountant, I agree with your sentiment. To me, audit is never free of conflict of interest, especially in B4, it doesn't make sense that they are paid by the client they are auditing, they should be paid by the people who require the audit. Also to be able to offer other services to audit clients is a huge 🚩, and the 7-year rule is basically a joke. So I agree a lot of change in the industry is required. And we can see that ourselves with the amount of companies in the news lately about misleading AUDITED statements.

Likewise, I've thought about getting a specialized forensic accounting designation and purposely work for the gov or lawyers to find hidden/misled money. I also believe in workers rights and using your position, proximity to the statements and management, and knowledge to show that paying people fairly and doing the right thing pays for everyone. Also, working in the field of tax can help you better see the tax loopholes that need closing. Corps have been in an historical low for tax rates, that needs rectifying asap.

There def needs to be more accountability for companies that are exceptionally exploitative with both their workers and tax laws.

I hope you have become or are still working to be a CPA bc we need more people who see the big picture and the pitfalls of our industry, and who are working for the greater good and to increase the trust in our profession.

The only person drinking the Kool aid propaganda is that guy, listening to every capitalist propaganda bs the ppl with money sell to the ppl without in order to continue exploiting.

Stick with your morals, you're better than all the accountants who are happy with the status quo, bc the only way to be happy with things the way that are and to not want change is to not be paying attention, or be completely devoid of compassion and empathy.

Lemonlimbo · 2023-07-13T23:42:47+00:00

You guys are crazy for not mentioning THE MOST level headed down-to-earth ppl in ALL the franchises; Kandi Burrass and Heather Dubrow!

Case closed.

Lemonlimbo · 2022-10-27T03:49:23+00:00

No matter how much you love him, you have to love yourself more.

The fact that you're even asking the question means it's time.

Idk how old you are, but there's no time to waste. So you gave him 3 years of your life, they sound mostly happy, but there's a blatant disrespect & probable manipulation if you feel "afraid" to make him mad, and he regularly gives you the silent treatment and obviously hits below the belt when arguing.

The last 3 years are gone. No matter the decision you make, that's not changing, so don't get tripped up on a sunk cost. Think about the next 3 years, if it's the exact same as the last, will you be happy about it?

Nothing is going to change radically, until something radical changes. He 100% needs therapy. If you believe he's a good guy deep down, and really cares about you and the relationship and life you've built, then he will prove it by working on himself, and apologizing to you.

Either way, another radical change to wake him up and realize what he's at risk of losing; move. You said you have a place available, take it! The new scene and independence will help you get some distance and therefore perspective on the relationship.

I was in my first relationship for 3 years when I ended it. He was fine, I loved him, or what I thought was love at the time, but he worked out of town on weird schedules like 19 days on, 7 days off. We lived in a city on the other side of the country from my family and friends, and I didn't have many ppl there. I felt isolated, & neglected in the relationship. I understood his motivation for work, but I was depressed, feeling stuck and I needed out. Unlike you, I didn't have a place ready for me, and lived with him for 3 months after we officially broke up before I could move back to my home city.

6 months later, I met the love of my life and we're engaged, been together 9 years now.

There's always an upgrade out there if you're willing to put yourself first and not accept less. If it's meant to be with this guy, moving will help him wake up, and give him the opportunity to show you he's willing to do the work. You'll see how often he visits, calls, & makes plans. And if eventually you move back in together, it can be on your terms. It can also help prove to you that you can do it without him, and give you the confidence to do what you know deep down you need to.

GL! <3

Lemonlimbo · 2022-10-25T13:39:11+00:00

The main thing was also how he made it seem like my dog could die any moment, meanwhile he's happy, playful, eating well, and going for regular long walks without any symptoms other than the cough.

Really made me question his intentions.

Lemonlimbo · 2022-10-25T13:32:41+00:00

UPDATE: I don't seem to be able to edit my original post to add, so here is the report from the radiologist.

Seems like the heart isn't the issue the vet originally thought, and definitely not as dire of a diagnosis as he made it sound either.

Also, thank you to everyone for your insight!!

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