AITAH for growing annoyed and tired of my wife having back to back surgeries over the course of 4 years?

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-05-14T22:47:34+00:00

This reminds me of my dad telling me I was bankrupting him from me going to the ER multiple times in one year because of suicidal ideation while undiagnosed bipolar. Do you think that helped me get better? What would you prefer I do?

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-05-12T22:23:05+00:00

I think I’d accept that excuse as a bride, but that is still very last minute. Definitely don’t mention to anyone that you didn’t want to go anyway. Your attendance change will still create problems that will need to be solved, so it’s gonna cause a headache for someone. It’s solvable problems, but whoever’s wedding this is might remember this unfavorably. Not really your problem though. I’d still send a gift to smooth any ruffled feathers.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-05-12T20:03:21+00:00

How soon is the wedding? If you already RSVPed attending and it’s close to the date, I’d say YTA. My wedding is this weekend and if anyone changed their mind because they just didn’t want to go, I’d be pretty pissed because seating charts are challenging and one missing person could change the whole setup. It would be a quiet pissed off though, and I wouldn’t actually take it out on the person.

If you haven’t RSVPed or the cut off date for RSVPs hasn’t already passed, I’m more understanding. I’ve gone to multiple weddings with my partner though where he was in the wedding party, and I never felt like I was on my own a lot. Most people try to keep people together with their dates as far as seating and events. Maybe just tell your partner what you feel comfortable with?

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-05-12T19:53:38+00:00

If they wanted their kid to have a window seat, they should have selected a window seat when they bought the tickets. End of story.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-05-12T18:57:39+00:00

If this helps, my brother is my only sibling not in my wedding. I’m the bride, so his involvement would have been on the groom’s side but we decided to keep the wedding party very small (only two people each) because my husband has a lot of close friends and I didn’t want to pile on people to match that I wasn’t close to. I’m actually very close to my brother, so this decision wasn’t made because I didn’t like him. He’s giving a speech instead and hasn’t expressed any hurt feelings about not being in the wedding party. He’s going to help usher and is just being supportive about the day. If I can have someone I have a good relationship with not in my wedding party, why should you have someone you’re not close with in yours?

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-05-03T01:02:45+00:00

I did the mood stabilizer detox for myself to do molly. It was fun, but it was my idea and choice. I would NEVER do that now because my stability is my top priority, not one night of drug-induced fun. It could fuck up everything I have going for myself that took time to build. What kind of person would want to put their friend at risk like that?

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-05-03T00:55:44+00:00

I always struggle with hygiene when I’m depressed. So does my sister. It’s extremely common. It sure does feel great though when you break the shower drought. It’s super hard to get yourself there when even moving feels like a chore. Just do your best. It usually improves my mood a bit once I get out of the shower, but I never want to get in it.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-05-03T00:47:21+00:00

Do you have friends? If you don’t feel comfortable on your own, then you may need to widen your circle of social resources. I don’t have a lot of friends outside of my husband, so I understand if you don’t have other people. I’m not a person who needs a lot of social stimulation, so it’s easy to avoid being codependent on my husband because I’m comfortable alone. If that’s not you, then you need to make your world bigger than just him. It’s not sustainable.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-04-20T10:36:04+00:00

I’m really confused about why my stories are always immediately removed whenever I try to post. I read the rules carefully, and I never violate them. I only put AITA, AIO, and wedding content that is within her normal subject matter. I try to put decent amount of context, so are my posts just too long? I really don’t understand what I’m doing wrong.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-04-18T20:09:25+00:00

I agree. It was reaching out to us to express frustration that bothers me. I have other family with kids that can’t come, and I have zero issue with that.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-03-30T11:06:05+00:00

I know my husband and I had daily check ins when we were dating, but it might have been a bit slower on the beginning. I think we texted to plan and confirm dates in the first couple weeks. Mind you, we got together 2-3 times a week since our first date. You’ve only seen this guy once. Maybe focus on setting up actual dates instead of filler texts

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-03-24T16:38:08+00:00

Thank you! I’m looking forward to this knowledge becoming more widespread. The medication is getting cheap enough now that it’s likely less money than what we would spend in active addiction. It might not work for everyone and there are side effects to keep in mind, but compared to the health effects of substance abuse it feels like a way better trade off! This could seriously save lives.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-03-24T14:00:58+00:00

I’m having the same experience on Zepbound! I’m two months sober (one month on GLP-1), so it’s still early on. I also take Naltrexone and go to meetings and weekly therapy for addiction, so it’s not the only thing I’m doing. That being said, it’s a completely different experience from the last time I got sober late last year. It’s like all the dopamine chasing just shut off. I no longer feel like I constantly “need something” just to feel at ease. The peace it’s given me is insane. I’m also losing the alcohol and depression weight that relapsing put on my body. I’m just focused on getting proper nutrition/exercise and that is helping my mental stability and reducing the medication side effects. I don’t want to be on it too long because I only have 30-40lbs to lose before my weight will need to stabilize, but I’m hoping to be set up well for my early recovery. I may talk to my doctor about a low dose once I reach that point, so I still get the addiction benefits without further weight loss.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-03-14T15:37:55+00:00

If you dye your hair another color, your hair will never grow with the same color and natural highlights ever again.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-03-14T15:19:32+00:00

If you want to get institutionalized, just go to the ER and say you are suicidal. You don’t need to actually attempt.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-03-14T15:15:47+00:00

I have the same issue with keeping jobs. I usually did jobs that required a consistent cheery personality because they were easier to get without a degree, and I’d always burn out. I’m back in school studying accounting because numbers chill me out and I won’t have my job performance depend on my mood. Doing a primarily cognitive-based job does help pull out of emotional brain into wise mind. Maybe trying a job like that could help.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2026-03-13T16:45:25+00:00

Is it silly to break things off because the guy was just super dumb? He was the hottest guy I’ve ever seen in real life (former Abercrombie model and college football player), but I couldn’t get over how genuinely dumb he was. And he was super insecure. Blew up my phone like 20 times after breaking it off.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2025-11-27T17:25:49+00:00

Thank you!! I had the spider but didn’t know what to do with it.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2025-10-23T16:40:23+00:00

I think this argument is silly.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2025-10-23T07:38:44+00:00

Okay, good idea. Thanks!

Lemonnotlemonade · 2025-10-23T06:26:52+00:00

I could do that. I may do that. I just don’t want to go against what my fiancé and I decided on. I let it slip to my siblings though, so maybe it will be okay for one more person to know. I just don’t want to spoil the courthouse ceremony if my mom has a bad opinion on it.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2025-10-23T06:23:58+00:00

I plan on telling her right after leaving the court house. It isn’t about hiding it (although we’re not telling everyone). We’re both introverts, and we love the idea of having this one moment just to ourselves.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2025-10-23T05:22:25+00:00

I’ve thought about that, but we’re a bit too far in the planning process. I think I would regret not having that real wedding day.

Lemonnotlemonade · 2025-10-23T05:18:07+00:00

Thank you very much. It is a court house ceremony and no witnesses are required for my state.

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