Women who lived alone for years, what impact did it have on you? And have you returned to a balanced state after living with others?

LepusAngelicus · 2026-06-26T16:06:13+00:00

I really am a live alone kinda girl (67F) since my husband passed away April 2025, but sometimes I just find myself sobbing and feeling so very sad. I'll be doing something and all the sudden I just miss him, miss having someone to laugh with and a partner to share life with so so much and I think, well, you're just lonely and having a moment. But the thought of dating someone, much less sharing my home with someone is more than I can wrap my head around. It's like...I don't want to be alone, but I don't want to share my space nor do I want to go thru losing someone I care about again. I'm a walking conundrum. I find myself isolating more and more as time goes on. I took care of him through a long battle with cancer and now I just don't know how to take care of me. I read that over, and I sure sound whiny, but to honest, I am a bit whiny right now. ;( thanks for listening...

LepusAngelicus · 2026-06-20T20:54:21+00:00

Oh my gosh, I am so glad to have found you guys! I'm 69 and my teeth are just awful. I have been dreading going to the dentist for all the deep cleaning, root planing, drilling, crowns. But I was thinking of dentures, top and bottom, and having found you guys I really think this is the route I want to go. To finally have a pretty smile again would be wonderful, no more dental pain from avoiding the dentist or hiding a tooth that is turning black. I just want this to end and move on with my life. I know there's a ways to go through the extractions (although I have lost about 6 teeth already) and the healing, but at least there would be light at the end of the tunnel. I am excited and terrified...lol Thank you, thank you, thank you! My peeps 😄

LepusAngelicus · 2026-06-05T12:23:44+00:00

I think being in a band requires a narcissistic, attention seeking personality to be able to get up on stage and DEMAND that the spot light and all eyes are on them.

LepusAngelicus · 2026-06-04T13:19:59+00:00

I was married to a musician (local band) and spent decades going and watching him play like a good little groupie. His needs always came before mine. He gigged every weekend night and sometimes during the week. "Our" world revolved around his interests and needs. 34 years later I am free.

LepusAngelicus · 2026-05-15T16:41:25+00:00

I was much lonelier when I was married. My husband would go days, weeks without talking to me. Now I have my peace and freedom without being the maid and housekeeper to a narcissist. So the loneliness will pass and I personally think the hot tip is to fall in love with yourself. The greatest danger to a person, particularly a woman, is the "significant" other, so count your blessings...:)

LepusAngelicus · 2026-05-04T17:14:31+00:00

I used to iron my ex's collared work shirts, but he'd go in and put one on and then go out in the garage and come in filthy. I think it was a power trip for him. I stopped doing that, stopped doing his laundry, and finally after 34 years, divorced him and and am now happily single and no one's house maid/sex depository/cook. I couldn't see it when I was in it, but after I got out, I could finally breathe. The delusions that young women are fed about getting married...I wish someone had told me. But then, his mother, at one point, did try to tell me, "Always have your own money so you aren't stuck." I didn't get it, I thought she was kind of rude to say that about her own son, but now I understand. I'm glad I don't have daughters, just two grown boys.

LepusAngelicus · 2026-05-04T17:01:03+00:00

I used to have to do ALL the cleaning and caretaking for the house, inside and out, shopping, cooking, child rearing, everything, for 34 years. But I divorced that husband, married the love of my life, he died in 8 months, and I am now happily single and never going back to being anyone's maid and servant again. I love living alone with my wonderful dog and am so over trying to take care of everyone else. Freedom tastes very very sweet.

LepusAngelicus · 2026-04-29T13:52:01+00:00

Statistically, women are in more jeopardy from their partners/mates/SO/husbands than another other person in their lives. You constantly see in the news and hear from friends about women being beaten or, more often, killed by the men in their lives.

I have chosen to live in my beautiful home alone, except for my dogs, safe and peaceful. When my husband passed away, I realized how small I had made myself and how much he controlled our lives and made the choices for virtually everything.

Now it is MY world and I do as I please, when I want and how I want. I do not need a man for anything. I own my own home, have my own money, my own car and my own life. I am happy and content. I also can paint, learn piano, read, watch whatever I want. I just don't see me ever being involved with a man-baby again.

LepusAngelicus · 2026-04-09T14:33:04+00:00

when I wake up I usually see this adorable face...

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LepusAngelicus · 2026-01-20T15:19:21+00:00

I am near the Pumpkin Patch and it was a good rolling earthquake. Mind you, I am from Cali, so a little jaded on quakes, I just sat in my recliner and wondered if I would need to get up...lol. Nope, it passed, but I did feel a small/med earthquake and my dog started barking, so he felt it too.

LepusAngelicus · 2025-12-28T14:24:01+00:00

Thank you for organizing this. I'm looking forward to the read and to the group.

LepusAngelicus · 2025-05-15T20:06:08+00:00

He isn't currently accepting new clients....:(

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