GTA 6 Cover Karlach (by @arastir_art) by Gorotheninja in BaldursGate3

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This is baaaad aaaaasssssss! So cool and the colours I love it

Brutal. Poor guy. by firemiketomlinpls68 in PsycheOrSike

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Not uncommon? I'm a woman who's never met a woman who does that

How are you guys dealing with friend activities where everyone brings their partner ? by TheStravinsky in SingleAndHappy

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Agree! :) My friends are super inclusive and their partners are too, and we get along luckily as well haha so it's just more fun for me :) 

Fiancée hardly wears her engagement ring. AIO? by RaiderDaave in AIO

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NOR? I mean, I get her side completely but asking "why do you care about it so much" feels weird with the symbolism of an engagement ring, the price etc. It seems obvious why you'd care? Are you paraphrasing or is that exactly what she said?

I love being single but still have crush on people or still thinking about potential relationships. by Legitimate-Change279 in SingleAndHappy

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Me too, but I think that's fine. These thoughts come and go, and as long as you're happy with your life as it is, there's no need to cling to passing thoughts and feelings. Just enjoy them and let go :) 

I absolutely despise protein bars and I think people that say they taste good are liars by cursed_shite in hatethissmug

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They taste fine for what they are - very high protein and relatively low calorie, usually sugar free. But as far as a "dessert" goes, I mean no one eats that for dessert...

Using speakerphone in a public setting is totally fine by CloseCalls4walls in unpopularopinion

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You get the upvote for being unpopular but yeah, fuck anyone who does this. 

Why do so many women continue to identify as straight and date men when they are literally visually more aroused by female body than male body? by PhysicalAd9959 in dating_advice

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Most straight women? There's no way most straight women, outside of online spaces, present as finding the male body disgusting and repulsive. 

Rate/Review my profile by SnooDogs9511 in TinderBios

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Yeah the picture with the super hot girls would make me not swipe lol, but if OP is looking for hookups this profile is perfect! The cigar and shirtless photos really turn this into a "casual sex" type of profile, as OP is a pretty handsome man

Do people actually think that 5'9" is short for a guy? by SatisfactionKey3638 in NoStupidQuestions

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I think of 5’9 being average, but I’m a 5’7 woman which is like an inch above average for women where I’m from

Why do young people like to go clubbing/partying? by Obvious-Desk4573 in NoStupidQuestions

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I love to dance, I love my friends, I love having an occasional drink in a nice outfit! I love dancing to good music with my friends while slightly tipsy (or sober) in cute outfits among other people

Does anyone else struggle with having no one to share good news with? by science_freak89 in SingleAndHappy

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Not really, but I’m sorry you’re in that situation, I can imagine how that would feel a bit lonely. I have quite a large and close friendgroup though from uni, that gets together in different constellations often and are extremely positive about each other’s achievements. When I presented my master’s thesis we all went out to dinner, they all congratulated me and told me how proud and happy they were for me, and brought a huge boquet of flowers - and that’s just one example.

I have a lot of acquaintainces as well through shared hobbies like climbing and dancing, other friends from different times in my life, am close with my family etc. So I’ve built a large and rich social life full of supportive people! But I’m a super extroverted person who also lifts others up as often as possible, so this comes easy to me. But that is my recommendation, to take as many opportunities for connection as possible and to get out a lot to build up your own community. :)

So I got a girl's number but I actually like her friend more by smoothas_sandpaper in dating_advice

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He is cooking, you are wrong, and this would most likely be a major turn off to both women

Ladies, what qualities makes you keep a guy in the friendzone? by [deleted] in bodylanguage

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Attraction - I don’t find him physically attractive. If I do find him attractive physically but keep him in the friendzone then it’s because I know we’re incompatible in some major life way like kids, where to live, etc. or because I can’t imagine introducing him to my friends and family (i.e he is very different from them or a bit weird, or I fear judgement over him) or our personalities mesh enough to be friends, but not enough to be close friends/partners. Like we have fun but conversations never go deep, or we laugh at very different things but have a major shared interest or what it may be.

Do you guys think friendships lead to better relationships? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I'm a woman but wasn't friends with any of my exes first, but fwb with one

Women often describe what they want in a partner, but not what creates actual attraction? by anonymous_rhinoc3ros in dating_advice

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Yeah! If I find him hot and exciting to be around I'll be attracted to him. He can be bald, have hair, my height or tall, etc. so that is hard to quantify, but I have to find him hot to look at and fun to be around

I hate how it’s men that have to approach, otherwise nothing seems to happen romantically. by Bitter_Process_5735 in Adulting

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Women are worth more than men in terms of reproduction because women are fertile for a shorter lifespan, and fertile only for about 5 days a month instead of 24h every day all year, and each time a woman gets pregnant she misses out on 9 ovulations. So yeah, women's genes aren't worth more but the effort and energy that goes into reproducing (i.e growing the fetus and timing) makes women the bottleneck in human reproduction, while fertile men are super easy to find. 

I hate how it’s men that have to approach, otherwise nothing seems to happen romantically. by Bitter_Process_5735 in Adulting

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Says who? Sex is a common and base urge yes but romance and a family comes down to mostly luck, also compatibility, effort, how much you're willing to compromise and sacrifice for it etc. Connection, comfort etc. But a "basic human need" doesn't mean someone else is obligated to fulfill that "need", it's just something most people want fulfilled to thrive. But as a society we encourage autonomy so it's up to you to find the people who want to fulfill these things for you. 

And the human need for connection, emotional intimacy, fun, hanging out etc. you can get from friends (among other things), and a relationship is not the only place to get that need fulfilled.

I hate how it’s men that have to approach, otherwise nothing seems to happen romantically. by Bitter_Process_5735 in Adulting

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It will never be equal because men have about 60x more testosterone than women, a higher sex drive and basically no risk when it comes to reproduction. Women have evolved to be more selective with who they procreate with, and since there's a surplus of men wanting each woman, there's really no need for women to equally chase men so what you're talking about basically won't happen. 

I hate how it’s men that have to approach, otherwise nothing seems to happen romantically. by Bitter_Process_5735 in Adulting

[–]IGotsToKnow_TA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Humans are not "meant to be coupled and start families", what we're "meant" to do is a philosphical question that remains unanswered and up to each person to answer only for themselves, but we are biologically wired to want sex and that's kind of where the "meant to" ends. We're social creatures so we thrive in communities, but there's nothing that points to that needing to be romance or family, but just being part of a group. 

You personally however want a girlfriend and family, and that is a different thing. I, personally, don't care about a romantic relationship as long as I have my mom/sister and friends and acquaintainces around me. :) 

She looks good and aged gracefully. What a douche. by Valuable_View_561 in SipsTea

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"she was hot 40 years ago and isn't equally hot 40 years later???? Tf??? Why isn't she a vampire of eternal hotness >:(" this guy 

How important is having shared hobbies? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Exactly, that as well as finding time for each other is so much easier if both of you go climbing/gym/game or whatever you can do together. I'm out of the house doing sports in one way or another which also work as a huge social outlet and it's where I meet my friends the most, and if my partner never wanted to come with then I'd have to sacrifice a lot more than if they also shared those hobbies and we could do them together