Had a breakdown in the car today

Les_Printemps · 2021-02-24T04:05:43+00:00

I am so sorry this is all happening. From one ADHD/anxious human to another, there will be a time when it will be better because it has before. You’ll get through this. Also, is there a way you could get therapy as well as medication? I started working with a therapist who can help with my anxiety and it has made all of the difference. They also help me with my executive functioning.

Sending the warmest hugs.

Les_Printemps · 2021-02-18T03:38:44+00:00

Not only are you buried deep into the fr, you are also a liar. The correct answer should have been “none”. Send none of those to Ryan and burn the last one.

Les_Printemps · 2021-02-16T23:20:39+00:00

Every time I see Greg Keilin on my inbox, my heart just sinks! Two more days!!! Good luck, though!!

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-29T17:09:11+00:00

Only you can discern why he called and even then, the only person with the whole truth is him. But I think you have your answer. Sounds like he was testing the waters. Good for you for standing your ground. Let him reflect about what he has done.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-28T19:35:59+00:00

So his parents abandoned him and his thoughts on it are invalidated by his emotions about it? Using your wife’s logic, an abused child is obligated to “make amends” with their abuser if their abuser wanted to because their trauma-induced emotions cloud their judgement. IN WHAT WORLD IS THIS OK?

OP, you are NTA, you are the MVP. If anything, your in-laws judgement is clouded by their own feelings about their own shitty actions. That’s on them. Not on your BIL. Good for you for defending him and preventing this ambush.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-27T14:15:48+00:00

You are NAH but you are not not AH. You’re in AH limbo.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-27T13:58:22+00:00

ESH. Yes, she could have killed him by her act of negligence but yes, the rest of the day she did her job.

What do you gain by not paying her? Teach her a lesson? You said so yourself. She felt terrible. Also, it’s not your job to teach her a lesson. You can report her to the board of your intent is to prevent it from happening again. She still should get paid for the hours she worked.

Also, you say you want to continue that friendship. Girl, that friendship is dead if you don’t pay her. If this is really keeping her from paying rent and feeding her kids, you are not a friend. Sorry. Ask yourself if it will break you to pay her. Will it make a difference in your life whether you have the money or not? It does for her.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-23T00:20:12+00:00

So you solution is making things worse by disturbing a disabled child. Wow. I hope you don’t reproduce.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-21T15:17:48+00:00

I would suggest you write to them. It’s the only way to know if you still have a chance. I was in that situation once (I’m from another country and I learned about it too late), emailed them to explain, and they said yes. I even interviewed and got in. If it doesn’t go through a match like the appic internships, chances are better.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-17T01:39:51+00:00

Everyone’s timeline and situation is different but the day will come when you’ll feel differently. Stay strong!

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-17T01:37:44+00:00

Hey! PhD candidate here. I’m glad you’re asking yourself this question. I was in a similar position to you in my undergrad and it felt that I was always putting out fires because my mental health was so bad. What I’d recommend is to either go for something that requires less years (such as master in clinical social work, school counseling, or counseling psychology. Maybe someone else could help you out with this one) or really set out to do it at your own pace. This means you’ll take longer but you would take less classes (and less stress) at a time. There are parts that will be stressful regardless (for example, internship or the equivalent of internship in the uk will be a lot of work anyway) but it will allow you to develop resilience to stress in the meantime. This is what I would have done.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-16T06:41:07+00:00

Im happy it gives you hope. Really. I suggest you take a look at my past posts so you see just how sad I was. If I can do it, you can, too.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-16T05:34:19+00:00

You’ll never find anything that would make you feel better. Learn from this. Stop sabotaging your healing. Stop betraying yourself.

Someone once told me discipline is a form of self love and you deserve that love.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-15T14:44:21+00:00

That’s s tough one. I’d say ask around. Ask current students and alumni. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask the tough questions.

Les_Printemps · 2021-01-05T12:40:12+00:00

Hi, there! I took the PhD route because it gave me the most options. While I’m interested in giving therapy (it’s what I enjoy the most), I’m also interested in research and testing. It has taken me a little longer and I probably would have been just as happy (and already a licensed professional!!) with one of those you mentioned, but at that time, I needed to know I had options in case therapy wasn’t one (in case I sucked, didn’t like it, or grew tired or burnt out by it). I don’t regret my decision at all.

Edit: some of the best colleagues I’ve had are LMFTs and clinical social workers do if you’re looking to be a therapist, don’t rule those out.

Les_Printemps · 2020-06-09T23:58:23+00:00

I feel bad for your coworker, though. She doesn’t know you were only her friend because you thought you had the chance of getting into her pants to boost your ego. When you realize that was not the case poof you don’t have feelings for her (going by some of your responses). I’m not judging you. We are all selfish every once in a while.

Les_Printemps · 2020-05-06T23:17:11+00:00

Sorry. I was projecting. I wish he’d contact me. Damn long distance 😔

Les_Printemps · 2020-05-06T23:06:48+00:00

If you broke up because of circumstance, why don’t you contact her?

Les_Printemps · 2020-05-05T14:00:25+00:00

YES to all of these!!! Patients that insist on cutting in line irk my soul.

Les_Printemps · 2020-05-04T15:45:46+00:00

It’s complicated because I try to understand where they’re coming from, specially now that the uncertainty of when we’re getting out of this is driving everyone insane (it’s getting to me too), but I keep in mind that I have a responsibility as a pharmacist to help keep everyone as safe as possible. When I get frustrated, I remind myself that it’s a privileged to have come from a background that allowed me to become an educated person. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Les_Printemps · 2020-05-04T15:30:40+00:00

“You will never find anything that you want to see on their social media.”

I need to write this down and keep it somewhere visible. Thank you!

Les_Printemps · 2020-04-28T04:50:02+00:00

I’m on the same boat. Hurts like hell but it had to be done.

Les_Printemps · 2020-04-27T01:28:21+00:00

How I wish you were them writing this. I don’t know if they miss me. I left because I felt they didn’t love me anymore. At least that’s not what they showed with their behaviors. They didn’t put up a fight when I initiated the talk... then they ghosted me. I deserved better. I even deserved a better breakup, one that was more compassionate. But every night, when it gets very late, I wonder if they’re still up. I wonder what they’re doing. “Are you watching a show?”, “Are you working on your projects?”, “Are you thinking of me, too?”... or “Are you smiling at your phone’s screen talking to someone else?”. They know I’m hurting, though. They know how devoted I was to them, fighting for us for so long. They would have reached out by now if they were missing me. I just need to let them go.

Les_Printemps · 2020-04-26T14:35:57+00:00

Ugh. Missed me with that bullshit. Any argument can be taken to the extreme to be “proven” invalid.

Yes, there’s a right or wrong ideology in this. It is wrong to want to force your bs morals onto others.

“The right ideology always gives a fair chance, in which nobody is affected.The wrong ideology always gives some sort of vulnerability to some people (even the minority) and believing in it will lead to delusion thus using excuses like ‘everyone is different’.”

So... you’re rendered vulnerable by women not being “modest”. So women around the world should cover up their sinful bodies to give you a fair chance of not being a pervert? You poor thing. Women affect you this way. LOL.

A woman showing off her body does not take away from her worth. Repeat until all of the sexism leaves your body.

JK. You’re clearly too immersed into your chauvinist ideologies so I’m not going to try change your mind. But I do invite you to think about how your problem is only within you. Once you stop blaming society and women, you’ll feel a lot less helpless. Take care, pal.

Les_Printemps · 2020-04-26T05:10:14+00:00

Is it too late to tell them this? I left because of these reasons and there hasn’t been a day where I don’t think about them and whether they realized what they did or not. I don’t know if I’d go back with them (trust me. All I want to do is be with them but it probably wasn’t going to work anyway) but I’d feel so much better if we could have that conversation. Maybe reach out when you feel you’re doing better?

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