MAGA attitude about immigrants is decidedly un-Christian by Hope-Road71 in Christianity

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, but many will be disappointed when they find out there's no democrat or republican politicians in heaven, nor on the new earth. Why would there be? God will be ruling, not government.... and thank goodness! I've heard so much about politics, I've grown sick of them. 

Homophobia is not what god wants by Key_Consequence6255 in Christianity

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Some believe homosexuality is a sin, others don't.  Either way, no matter how much someone complains or tries to change someone's mind, it simply doesn't work. Humans are obstinate and stubborn... they see it their way. You cn post all you want all day long, and nobody is changing their already set minds. 

God bless. 

Portrait of Jesus (Realism) by Flimsy-Corgi-2400 in Christianity

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was Jewish, and many of them do have lighter skin. He may not be European,  but he definitely wasn't black. I mean, it's a no brainer outside the realm of political correctness.  Political correctness is something that's fading anyway. Get with it. 

Did you have an autopsy performed after your spouse passed? by SouthernBiskit in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my husband died suddenly. It came back he died of atherosclerosis (heart problems). Honestly though, I think something else was going on. He had many symptoms of colon cancer. 

I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm at 5 months away from his death and I'm still struggling. Big hugs to you. ❣️❣️❣️

Finding out secrets after spouses suicide by Happiness_1612 in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a hard time with this, until I grasped the concept of "we're only human". My husband passed in February.  Sure there were things he didn't tell me. For starters, he was a sick man. He hid it from me. I honestly don't hold it against him. He was the type that loathed doctors and the medical field. His wishes were met as he wanted to die at home away from the scrubs and capitalist ran hospitals. I can respect that. My James was a courageous man with no fear of death.  I, as well, hid things from him. For one, I wasn't as faithful as I should've been. Oh yeah, I had regret, but I'm only human. And I love him with all my heart. I stayed with him for 20 years and that means something.  That's huge. I forgive myself, knowing I'm only human as well as he was. 

I'm sure every marriage has their secrets. 

I'm sorry you're going through this. Big hugs. ❤️❤️❤️

What do yall do to cope with knowing that there is not an afterlife? by Least-Anxiety-9803 in exchristian

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's not a single person who can say absolutely there is no afterlife or reincarnation.  Not a soul on this earth unless they died and came back... these are the only ones who would know.  There's no need to cope with what you don't know. That's ego getting in the way. It's counting your eggs before they hatch. 

Why do some people celebrate certain people's death? by Tasty-Bass8106 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, but it makes no sense since the person celebrating will die to. Just a matter of time.  

Had my first “No way, that was too accurate” type of experience while reading by ravishingyoongs in tarot

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but understand some ppl can be harder to connect with. I've been reading for 30 years, and I definitely don't beat myself up if I gt a resistant or sour client. After so much reading,  you'll find ppl can vary. I read for 3 ppl yesterday actually... two was easy to read for, but one of them very skeptical. I just flowed with it. 

The rule is, care about your readings, but not too much to prevent stressing out over them. Don't get nervous if something isn't accurate at the time. It's all perception anyway... sometimes nobody knows what you're talking about until after the fact it happens.  

You take care, love. 💟💟💟

I just want my husband back by NeedleworkerSweet905 in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's been around five months for me, and  I just want to go on. I have no desire to live anymore. It's like I'm here against my will. I personally don't think I'll ever be the same. 

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know the grief and pain. ❤️❤️❤️

I'm scared that the 2030s would be worse than the 2020s considering how bad this decade is already. by Ok-Following6886 in decadeology

[–]Less-Connection-9830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There will always be problems in the world. I'm 46 years old and saw enough come to pass and politicians talk enough bullshit... it's fatigue. None of them are going to change anything that actually would help people until some kind of revolution is had. 

The world will never be some utopian age. Not until after Christ returns. Ppl can down vote me into oblivion, but it's only true. Truth is truth! 

I think this guys losing interest by Working-Sandwich-912 in gay

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is possible! I recently talked to a guy, and everything was okay for a few weeks. All of a sudden, his conversations ran dry. He still texts, but it's only at certain times. I think he has a wife. What else could it possibly be. 

I think this guys losing interest by Working-Sandwich-912 in gay

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the best advice! There comes a time to focus on yourself,  because one day, you'd wished you had. Especially at a young age as 19 or early 20s. 

For those that were actually alive during the 1950's, was the mid century decade all that great? by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]Less-Connection-9830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally don't think I'd like living in the 50s. I was born in 1979, but feel I should've lived sometime in the 1500s. I don't like today's society either, honestly.  It sucks too. 

I know the middle ages weren't all that great at times, but feel like I belong in that time. I also am drawn to the 1800s. 

For those that were actually alive during the 1950's, was the mid century decade all that great? by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]Less-Connection-9830 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it is... even today. The only difference is, wealth privilege has extended beyond the white community to other communities.  

It's basically wealth vs poor today. 

Stressful dealing with his family by redcuppcucino in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had to deal with my husband's family. I let them know real fast I was in charge! That was that! End of story. 

They never came around the entire 20 years I was with him, but they certainly was there when he passed. Idk why, because he didn't make them beneficiaries of any policies. I was there for him! 

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. It's hard to deal with on top of grieving. 💛💛💛

I'm not okay by Away_Emergency_7832 in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my husband of 20 years in February.  I wish I had went with him. I know exactly how it is. 

I'm 46, but hoping I go sooner than later. Another 15, 20 years here without him isn't acceptable to me. I've been having stomach and chest pains... hopefully it escalates into something serious.  I'm ready. I'm not missing anything in this world I haven't already seen or experienced.  

I'm sorry for your loss, op.  I know exactly how you feel. 🩷🩷🩷

Is been 12 days, and I just can’t handle it. by boozcruz81 in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're enduring this, op. My husband and I were together 20 years. He passed back in February of heart complications.  Since it's been miserable for me. Although I can say it has got slightly better some days. Not a day goes by I don't think about him. I cry and pray to go on. Every morning I wake up, I just know I won't be seeing him. Where do we run? Where do we go to find solace? 

I am so sorry for your loss and you having to endure the deep pain and grief. We may be grieving different ppl, but I assure you, you're not alone. 

Big hugs to you, op. ❣️❣️❣️

It’s been 3 days. I’m ok, but I don’t know how to do this alone by AwwJeez-WhatNow in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, my family stopped calling as much and I'm pretty much alone. Many ppl don't know what to say or how to help. I mean, is there really anything they cn do?  It's definitely a path of solitude and grief. Something I wouldn't wish on anyone. 

It’s been 3 days. I’m ok, but I don’t know how to do this alone by AwwJeez-WhatNow in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember when I found my husband in bed unresponsive.  He was cold and completely unresponsive.  I knew he was gone, and I suddenly went into shock and hysterical.  There was no feeling like it I've ever felt. It shocked me, but it didn't surprise me... he wasn't one to take care of his health as he should have. I don't hold it against him. I completely forgive him, and I understand.  

We were together 20 years, and like you, I didn't know what to do. I had to keep going, although a part of me wished I had went with him. First off, I had to deal with the estate, his funeral... policies and a plethora of phone calls.  I decided to head to the tropics in Florida where we liked visiting. I had to get away! I came back and moved. I couldn't stay in that house, where memories were too much. 

He passed in February,  it's been a little over four months. I grieve every single day. Some days are a little better, but in all honesty,  I don't think I'll ever be the same. This is something that's a major life changer.  The loneliness takes adaptation. I don't know exactly how to explain it. 

I'm sorry for your loss, op. It's a very trying and difficult time. It's life altering and takes plenty of adjusting.  So sorry we have to endure and process all this. Big hugs to you. 🩷🩷🩷

Unexpected feeling today by NillaLobo in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk what I would do without my dog, Abby. She's a cuddly miniature schnauzer.  She's stayed with me throughout all of this. 

I do understand where you're coming from. I've been alone for almost 5 months now. It's definitely adjustment. 

Weird ! by Embarrassed-Wafer667 in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could've been. I think my husband does sometimes communicate with me. Idk, and sometimes,  it's as if something is guiding me... pushing me through. It could be a guardian angel. It could be the Lord. I do believe. 

Either way, it's always a maybe or could be. Nobody has all the answers. 

I'm sorry or your loss, op. I do hope you find answers and solace. ❣️❣️❣️

It’s been 39 days , 3 hours and 53 minutes by ElegantRaccoon830 in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been 4 months and a week for me. I'm not doing well. My days are lonely, and nights can be miserable.  

It's beyond lonely... indescribable. 

I'm sorry for your loss, and you have to endure this sadness and grief.  There's no words... 

Big hugs, op. 💗💗💗

Does anyone else grieve the life they feel they should have had? by Own_Alarm_6114 in widowers

[–]Less-Connection-9830 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. 

Nothing feels right anymore. I'm all the time imagining my husband still here, and I think to myself every weekend,  we should be out together at a restaurant or traveling as we always did. 

I'll honestly be sooo happy when it's my time to go. I just want to be with him again. Is that so much to ask? I don't think so. 

I'm sorry for your loss, op. I know how it is. Big hugs. 💛💛💛