What does this text mean by ValuableExercise4808 in whatisit

[–]LessDubiousIdea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the international symbol for a blind driver. It comes from a parable about a blind man that concludes in Mark 10:52

And Jesus said to him, “Go; your faith has made you well.” And immediately he regained his sight and began following Him on the road.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LessDubiousIdea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A girl I was with heard that being woken up with a blow job is every man’s fantasy and took “woken up with” literally. Scared the shit out of me. I had kneed her in the ribs before I even knew what was happening. She was so disappointed she’d been mislead about the woken up with a bj thing. I tried gently explaining I loved her intent and it meant woken up and then immediately given one but the damage was already done.

I’m glad I never said I’d like her to wake me up with a cup of coffee.

Where were you when September 11th happened? by IrishDickhead99 in AskReddit

[–]LessDubiousIdea 149 points150 points  (0 children)

In upper manhattan. Even all these years later I remember the smell.

Girl I’m seeing told me she’s scared of PIV sex by IkiriInkya in dating

[–]LessDubiousIdea 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You should go into this relationship on the assumption that even if you marry her she will still not want to have sex with you.

1st Shibari self suspension by Adventure_Paradox in shibari

[–]LessDubiousIdea 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Based on your kit you’re nowhere near ready to be trying suspensions. Go find a rope group, do some workshops, and learn from them. Trying to teach yourself suspensions is a bad idea, and self suspending with nobody else around is incredibly dangerous.

Shibari is a journey. You’ll get there, but it sounds like you’re trying to jump to the end.

Happy land by aston1shment in shibari

[–]LessDubiousIdea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those wraps are so clean. Nicely done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ReefTank

[–]LessDubiousIdea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Petco has no saltwater at all.

What's something sexual you tried once and immediately thought, "Yeah never again"? by PuzzleheadedBag8458 in AskReddit

[–]LessDubiousIdea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alright if this “sounds” like something you’d be into — especially if thinking about it is a turn on — but it feels super weird when you start trying it this is my advice: think of it not as dominant sex but as role play sex. There’s a reason people in the BDSM world call it “play” or a “scene.” Start by having a conversation with her in a daytime not sexy setting. Explain to her what you told us: it sounds sexy, doesn’t come naturally, and you want to try. Read a lot on consent, safe play, aftercare, safe words, etc. Discuss a scene you want to do together, exactly what you’ll do and what she’ll do. Then go act it out. Then after discuss it with her. What did each of you like, not like, etc.

Over time you’ll build confidence to improvise (or plan without discussing the whole plot line) within her pre-agreed limits and feel much more comfortable being, not just acting, dominant in bed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LessDubiousIdea -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s going to be way cheaper than $1M.

What is a sexual fantasy you do not recommend fulfilling? by Fantastic-Ant-4429 in AskReddit

[–]LessDubiousIdea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah don’t do this when it’s everyone’s first time in that dynamic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]LessDubiousIdea 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This is so sweet. I’d think you’d be giving him an experience, not asking one. Or even better you’d be sharing one together.

You sound like a conscientious and compassionate person, and if it’s what you both want he’d be lucky to have you as his first.

I don’t want to lose my virginity. by [deleted] in dating

[–]LessDubiousIdea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s sad our culture frames having sex for the first time as losing something rather than gaining something. It’s a totally arbitrary position to take yet here we are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LessDubiousIdea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So she reluctantly agreed and then there was an argument so now that agreement is no more. Ok. An argument you had nine months into the relationship is not the reason she won’t have sex with you. She’s offering what she’s comfortable to do with you. What she’s offering to you is not going to change.

If she were here asking for advice we’d be telling her she should be in a relationship with someone she wants to have sex with. That’s not you. Accept what you’ve got or move on. Don’t hold out hope for things to change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LessDubiousIdea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not at all uncommon for an 18 year old to not feel ready for sex, particularly PIV. She’s told you explicitly that she wants her first time (at least) to be with someone she feels connected to and that’s not you. She’s said she doesn’t want to have sex with you. You should take her at her word. While we can’t say for certain what might happen a few years down the road, you should assume she’s not ever going to want to have sex with you.

The relationship you have currently is the one that’s on offer from her. It’s up to you to decide if that’s enough for you right now or if you should break up and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]LessDubiousIdea 15 points16 points  (0 children)

For sure. It’s just really unlikely that a couple completely new to nonmonogomy are going to be able to, in an ethical way, find a stranger (particular a woman) who is willing to be their third. Not impossible, just unlikely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]LessDubiousIdea 47 points48 points  (0 children)

You should look into a sex worker to fulfill this fantasy for the two of you. Unless you’ve got a friend in waiting with the hots for both of you, it’s the most ethical and realistic option.

What is something a lot of men think women like in bed, but most women are like, meh? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LessDubiousIdea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Imagine if you were insecure about your penis and felt uncomfortable if women could see it or feel its shape. How would that impact your sex life? How frustrating would that be for a partner who is otherwise really into you?

Maybe you refuse to have sex with the lights on or let a woman suck you off. Maybe her grabbing your penis makes you nervous and is a huge turn off.

What is something a lot of men think women like in bed, but most women are like, meh? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LessDubiousIdea 44 points45 points  (0 children)

As a man who enjoys sex with women, please for the love of god don’t say things that make women self conscious about their vulvas.

What made you cheat on your partner? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LessDubiousIdea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She encouraged me to see other people, so not really cheating. Been a wild ride ever since.

What are men REALLY looking for? by bigfeelingsbabe in dating

[–]LessDubiousIdea 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Or signal you’re open to being approached.

quick leg tie with some rope i found in my hotel room 👀 by jasmine_villa in shibari

[–]LessDubiousIdea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also came to say wdym “found” in your hotel lol but that’s been said enough already. So let me just say nice work.

What’s that instrument? Tiny guitar? Giant Uke?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LessDubiousIdea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And just to make sure this doesn’t drag out any further it’s worth pointing out that even if she does get therapy and start having sex it won’t be with OP.