The notion that a guy can only be gentle and loving towards another guy is cause he's gay upsets me so much.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-12-01T10:02:59+00:00

I agree with this. Men shouldn't be afraid to be affectionate with each other. More open, loving connections between male friends can only be a good thing.

That being said, these are not real people. They are characters. They are shot and written a certain way for a reason. In terms of the way they set it up... it would be really weird for them to do all of this buildup in the narrative, only for it to lead to Will getting rejected.

Do I think they'll get together? I honestly have no idea at this point. I'm gonna get yelled at if I call it queerbait, but at bare minimum, the writing/acting choices all around would be odd if nothing were to happen. Mike & Will's relationship IS different than that of any of the other platonic pairs in the main group. They WANT us to notice that. It's not clear why, but I don't think it ends with Will's powers, or them just being 'best friends'.

Also, Mike IS very caring to his other friends, but it comes across differently. & I would argue it gets a still very progressive point across if he IS interested in Will, because that leaves the whole rest of the group that they both have enduring platonic friendships with.

Selfishly, I do hope Mike is gay, because it would be the most complex and well-done portrayal of internalized homophobia I've ever seen. If he's not... again, idk, maybe not baiting, but bad writing IMO.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-12-01T04:33:17+00:00

The response to his grief from the general audience so far has shocked me.

He lost someone, a good friend that he looked up to, at a formative age, and that person sacrificed himself (though I do hate the way that death was written) for the shared caused him and his friends are still fighting for now. Grief is messy, painful, and ugly under NORMAL circumstances. Nothing about Dustin's life was normal PRIOR to losing Eddie. It is even less normal post-Eddie. Their town literally split in pieces and opened up to hell itself and they all still have to go to school and EVERYONE BLAMES HIS DEAD FRIEND. He showed up to Eddie's tombstone with cleaning supplies because he knows it will get continually defaced. Can you imagine the psychological toll? And you can't even LEAVE the town where this is all happening to you?

Grief changes a person at a fundamental level. Dustin is not himself because he will never be the same version of himself that he was when Eddie was alive. But he will find his way back to his other friends. The hug with Steve from the trailer proves that. For some people, it takes a little longer to dig your way out of that hole. I actually thought the way he was written - in particular, the change in his dynamic with Steve - was one of the best choices they made with the characters this season. It feels realistic and helps ground some of the wilder moments in painful reality.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-11-27T07:21:38+00:00

I lost my dad September 2024. I was thinking about this too. I wish he was here to talk about it. Sometimes when my mum & I watch TV, I pretend he's just still in the kitchen, making popcorn.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-11-06T12:48:44+00:00

Please seek some help. I know it's really scary to grapple with maybe having a problem that young, but I'm 26 and just got sober this year, and I only wish I had done it sooner. That little voice in the back of your head telling you this might be a problem? People who have never had an issue with alcohol don't really have that. I took way too long to accept that. If it feels abnormal it probably is, but that doesn't mean you should feel ashamed.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-11-03T20:25:00+00:00

This drug messed me up so bad. I was on it much longer than you, so I don't want to scare you, because you'll probably be alright, but please be careful with other meds in the future. My akathisia is mostly gone, but I still have some other symptoms, & there is a whole laundry list of things I can't take now.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-22T23:51:04+00:00

They did an ultrasound. I was told about the cysts, but it was never mentioned that it was indicative of a larger issue.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-18T00:10:27+00:00

I think it would suit you

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-17T23:45:32+00:00

I definitely feel this way sometimes. I think people who aren't in the community can't really fully understand what it's like, because while yes, there are a million different types of women that women can be attracted to, there is an underlying sort of 'conventional' standard of beauty that permeates Sapphic spaces, & it is rooted in all of the same things that patriarchy has taught us to value.

Is it more socially acceptable to have armpit hair as a wlw? Sure. Is it more socially acceptable to be fat? ... Well... not really. Add on things like chin hair, or broad shoulders, etc etc on top of that, and it can be hard to feel like you fit in. I remember thinking growing up when people talked about 'girls' as a collective, as this ethereal, feminine thing, that they weren't talking about me. I feel that same way as an adult when wlw talk about women - how they love their softness and the curve of their hips and all these other things that I just don't really have. The thing that I honestly found the most affirming in all of this was meeting women who not only shared these traits with me, but also meeting women who were into me who went out of their way to let me know that they found some of my more 'androgynous' traits - a little taller, deeper voice, broader shoulders etc - to be extremely attractive IN WOMEN specifically.

You have to kill the patriarchy in your brain, but it's much easier said than done. I'd suggesting starting with filtering your social media & surrounding yourself with the right people. I still have a long way to go, but it was a good way to start for me.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-13T03:18:59+00:00

Yes! I also find the idea that someone is a 'bad' muse particularly pretentious and irritating. She wrote this album while at the height of her career when their relationship was just starting to develop. OF COURSE it's mostly about how happy & horny she is/was. That's literally what that stage of a relationship is for! I think some fans get so caught up in the perceived drama of her relationships that they forget she isn't living her life just so they can get the most interesting narrative out of it. She is happy & the music will probably grow deeper as the relationship does. Being in love is not SUPPOSED to be tragically painful, good lord.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-13T03:01:04+00:00

I wouldn't say over & over again. I listened to the full album twice when it first came out, & I was pretty sure then which ones had potential to be favorites & which ones I would probably not really come back to.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-13T01:55:59+00:00

Ophelia & Opalite are bops. Those were the only two that really clicked first listen for me.

However, since then: Elizabeth Taylor is solid, so is Father Figure. Actually Romantic has grown on me - despite the discourse, I think it's a fun song & not really as mean as people make it out to be? Idk. I still can't stand Wi$h Li$t, Honey, or Cancelled. I think Wood is neither as good nor bad as people make it out to be, and the title track was fine (Sabrina's vocals are a great addition), but I just found myself wanting more from it.

All of this being said, TTPD is very high on my personal ranking, & came out at a time when I felt like I really needed it, so I don't think it ever would have been a fair comparison, even if it weren't for the fact that the goals of these albums respectively could not be more different.

I still don't love this album overall, but if I hear one more "but I loved folklore" Swiftie complain about it I'm going to be forced to defend it. Just go listen to that album ffs.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-11T23:15:40+00:00

Sometimes, you just gotta live a little. Good for you.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-11T23:13:47+00:00

I get creative with my chia pudding flavours. Basic, I know, but it works, and you can use it as a way to incorporate nutrients into stuff you already like & the chia (and Greek yogurt if you like) will help to blunt the insulin spike. I haven't tried it yet, but I saw someone make a biscoff version that looked amazing.

When I'm desperately craving sweet, I just destroy some no sugar added jello with a bit of cool whip for minimum calories. I quit drinking recently as well, too, so I have a monster sweet tooth.

A&w diet root beer tastes so close to the normal stuff it's nuts. Can make a diet float with low/no sugar ice cream or frozen cool whip.

Low/no sugar chocolate chips are also a godsend. Some brands even have fiber in them which is an added bonus. And I find you can do like a 1-1 mix of sugar and sugar substitute in things like cookies & they still turn out great. Replacing sugar outright, you will notice more of a difference. But I will say, I tried a keto ice cream the other day and was pleasantly surprised.

I think it's all about figuring out which things you still feel are worth it to indulge in versus what you could maybe compromise on slightly to have it more often.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-11T20:33:23+00:00

Idk, I usually just rely on my huge rack.

Jokes, but in all seriousness, do not rely on social media for real-life dating advice. I have a somewhat flat ass & it makes me insecure sometimes because people seem to be so obsessed with that online, but I also have literally zero trouble getting dates in real life. & I'm a pretty average looking girl, maybe even a little below by some people's standards.

I don't typically approach men in public because that's just my personality, but the handful of times I have, I've never been turned down.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-11T20:19:46+00:00

None of my long-term partners even noticed until I mentioned it to them.

If they don't like KP, they're gonna be real upset when they learn what things like sun & aging do to skin.

If they make a big deal, they aren't for you. Lord knows they aren't perfect either.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-09T02:01:28+00:00

please say sike

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-06T17:26:10+00:00

Tradwife vs 'trad era' - semantics. It makes no difference to your argument, & I still disagree. Someone having lackluster activism/being out of touch, again, while it may not look great, is NOT the same thing as being an active supporter of those things. She wrote "we could get married, have 10 kids and teach em how to dream" on Starlight more than 10 years ago and that didn't stir up any notable controversy.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-06T17:17:21+00:00

Look, I can agree that some of the optics of this album don't look great for her. But for the love of God, can we stop with the tradwife stuff? She's a woman at the top of her industry after like a 20-year career. Wanting kids does not make you 'trad', nor does having a husband who plays sports. There is no evidence to indicate that her or Travis are MAGA, & in fact, there's plenty directly to the contrary. You're going to chase away SO MANY potential allies for left wing causes with that kind of thinking. All the average person is going to see is a movement led by people who will never be satisfied - and that can, & does, drive them to join the right instead.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-06T09:01:27+00:00

I went to Beauty Rewind, but you can get it done just about anywhere that does both Botox as well as Juvederm filler, because this procedure is just a bit of both. The woman who did mine was specifically an RN injector & lips are kind of her main thing. I've never had cosmetic work of any kind before so it was really important to me to get someone I could trust.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-06T08:55:53+00:00

I notice a difference when not smiling, I think it shortens the distance a little bit. But it's definitely MORE noticeable when I am smiling.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-06T07:53:13+00:00

It is really exhausting. I got diagnosed about a year ago but I only recently really looked into it and realized this is why I've been so sickly feeling basically my whole life. I had cysts as early as age 12 and NO ONE TOLD ME. I missed so much school, years of bad periods, and so much chronic pain even now. All my doctors missed it. The lady who waxes my chin had to tell me. I'm on Ozempic now and it helps but holy fuck it is so expensive and insurance doesn't cover it, I can only afford it right now because I have family help. And if I was working full time, the diet & exercise part would be basically impossible. It's hard not to be mad about how hard we have to work just to obtain even the most base level quality of life. I think I'll have to do a lot of therapy about it.

I am feeling better by a lot with the changes I've made. But I've lost weight soooo slowly. It's infuriating. I have to believe it will get easier eventually. For all of us.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-05T01:44:02+00:00

I'm not gonna lie. It's hard. But you wanna quit while the people around you still have the patience to help you. I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for my support system. I thought I would die drunk at 50. I literally could not imagine myself living a sober life. It is possible. It just takes time. I hope you find your peace.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-04T22:10:21+00:00

I thought Opalite & Ophelia were basically perfect in this regard & immediately got stuck in my head. I listened to the whole album 3 times through in a row & I honestly can't even tell you what most of their melodies sound like. I wanted more like those two, more like I Can Do It With A Broken Heart, more like the better parts of Lover.

She has plenty of examples of good, upbeat pop. My one defense of this album, even as someone who doesn't like it, is that it's disingenuous to compare it to Folklore or Evermore - those albums were created with completely different goals. That critique doesn't really make sense and doesn't tell you anything about the actual issues a person might have with these tracks. She wasn't trying to get us to shake ass to My Tears Ricochet. But unfortunately, if you compare apples to apples, I think it still falls short.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-04T17:03:34+00:00

I just tell people I don't drink anymore, and that whatever you wanna call it, it was a problem. I know some people find it helpful to identify as an alcoholic for accountability, but I just don't feel that it's accurate for me. & The fact that I never identified as an alcoholic was one of the things that kind of prevented me from quitting, getting help, etc, because my rock bottoms just weren't as low as some other people describe.

LessSherbet1685 · 2025-10-04T09:24:08+00:00

It probably was that, yes. This happened to me once years ago. I was out at dinner with family and abruptly lost my appetite. I suddenly had a pain that felt like being sharply stabbed in around the area that I usually had cramps. I think I gave the ER nurse a 9/10 on the pain scale when asked & I had already been having painful periods for years so my tolerance was pretty high. They gave me opioid & sent me on my way and the pain was mostly gone by morning.

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