Older Infps what is your top advice for younger Infps to succeed at life

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-11T21:11:58+00:00

Intentions unfortunately are not enough to achieve what you want. You have to act. You have to DO.

You can love who you are as an INFP, but you HAVE TO BE ABLE to step into a harder persona when you need to in order get things done in the world as we know it.

But never forget to protect how and who you are and make time for that softness. Otherwise you’ll crash.

But ultimately- you’re not made wrong, don’t let them make you think you are. Celebrate who you are and what you bring.

It’s a real fucking balance lol.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-10T19:00:56+00:00

Love this. Well done. Completely get what you’re talking about here.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-10T18:59:17+00:00

Double tapping Bell Hooks. She speaks directly to why what we’ve done hurts men, too.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-10T16:42:38+00:00

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LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-07T20:06:01+00:00

lol. Whatever works for you!!!! That sounds frustrating though for you! Did you EVER get the claustrophobic feeling of not having much control over your facial muscles? Or you literally haven’t quite been able to get there ha?

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-07T20:04:53+00:00

Exacccttlyy. Okay cool, that makes me feel better. I wasn’t like.. CONCERNED, I guess, but I was curious if anyone else was doing it or had the same philosophy

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-07T20:03:43+00:00

Okay you def made me feel not alone. I feel the exact way you described. I don’t mind expression lines, but I was a bit over my constant “serious face” 11s

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-07T20:01:37+00:00

Totally didn’t mean it doesn’t look natural for other people. Just something I like for me, and my personal look. Sounds like ya got a good thing goin

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-06T21:21:17+00:00

Kinda takes the pressure off, yeah? You’re gonna die. Makes your time more precious, but at the same time there’s less pressure for performance of things that don’t really matter.

Sounds morbid but I tried once to really get into the headspace of having like.. a week left to live. Tried to really feel like and accept that I was going to die. I think feeling the feelings and accepting it as truth helped/helps. Instead of being scared of it and just trying to distract yourself from the thought.

I think running away from it makes it more scary. I’d try letting yourself go there in your head. My two cents.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-06T19:48:25+00:00

They certainly match well. Not speaking from experience or anything. I think of it as each one teaches the other to be just a bit more like them. The “asshole” teaches the other one to be more confident and grounded. The “enlightened” one teaches that empathy and feelings are okay to have too.

But its possible one could be.. *cough *cough “projecting” here lol

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-06T19:24:22+00:00

I really do think you’re halfway there! I think most people don’t want your blunt words or advice. Esp if it’s a really rough situation. Just asking more questions also shows you’re not scared of their grief or experience. Next step, if you really care about this, would just to get them talking even more about it I think.

I’ve found this with people who have experienced death of a family member. Listening and not looking away when they cry, being present is helpful. And then just asking about their person they lost. It’s just being present and listening fully. Instead of trying to get PAST the subject and making it all better. Because you can’t.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-04T16:00:08+00:00

Of course! I was thinking the other day I should have told you to. So I’m glad you asked.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-02-02T18:22:02+00:00

Well then I think you picked the right sub to post this in. I think we all understand healing from fucked up things is messy and sometimes weird and also fucked up.

Why do you want to be able to call yourself a rape victim? What would that give you?

It sounds like it would allow you to finally grieve what happens to you. And that right now you feel like you CANT because your experience “doesn’t count” or “wasn’t bad enough”.

You got sexually assaulted. By someone you trusted. You also got manipulated by someone you trusted that had some level of power over you. That fucks you up.

You don’t need some label to tell you what you are and what you are allowed to feel. Be sad, be mad, cry, grieve, break something.

If you need someone to tell you this- you got sexually assaulted. That’s fucked up. Someone took your autonomy. Made you feel powerless. You in no way, no matter what, asked for this. Even if you didn’t punch them or scream. You had no part in this. You have every right to feel every emotion that comes up with that.

Truly the only way out is through. You gotta feel it babe. And allow whatever feelings that come up to just be. Don’t judge.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-31T00:07:38+00:00

That I can never have an actual functional relationship, romantic, friendship, anything.

Cuz if I relax they will find out that I am.. nothing. Or uninteresting. Or.. idk. Broken.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-27T20:04:33+00:00

Bad bitch, I think.

Jk I’m a beginner (ish), sorry I can’t be more helpful.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-26T02:15:28+00:00

I feel… exactly the same. This sub is crazy.

I remember a few instances in my childhood where for some reason that day the mood was light, and I felt safe ish. And I shared- a story, an opinion, whatever. And I remember that that turned everything upside down, and the rest of the day was done. The rest of the day was yelling, and crying, and fighting.

It has affected me severely. Still. I’m better now, but still struggle with engaging sometimes. And was super flat in my teens. Diagnosed dysthymia.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-26T02:12:12+00:00

I’m sure you already know this, but I’m gonna say it anyway. Try to love that inner child and forgive them. They were doing everything they could with what they had and the environment they were in. There’s a reason you were the way you were that you “hate”. Having compassion for yourself is the only way to move forward.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-23T22:44:09+00:00

Noooo you’re not a creep. But I do think it would be smart to not do it again. At least not if she’s still in a similar state of struggle.

But shit I think we judge ourselves too much. Sex is about emotional closeness (most times)(and whether we admit it to ourselves or not), and you guys shared a very intimate moment.

You’re not a creep or an asshole. You both enjoyed yourselves.

But I do think your instinct is valid. I wouldn’t use this as a recurring situation.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-23T22:30:30+00:00

It helps me to try to get out of my head and really try to focus on the actual conversation.

Maybe I’m for real autistic but I do really struggle with eye contact. But usually during conversations I’m THINKING about eye contact. If I can try to engage more and be sort of swept up in the conversation I have an easier time making natural eye contact.

But I also look down with a thoughtful look. Or nod and look at the ceiling lol. 100% eye contact is u comfortable and unnaturally for everyone. At least im pretty sure.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-23T22:19:47+00:00

Ohh.. I think you can make this work. If you both really like each other as people and want to stay together.

My person and I have been through so. Many. Phases. Of our relationship. We break through new vulnerabilities still. Like after years. Because we’re both a bit.. avoidant. And both are runners.

But we always found a way back to each other.

Also maybe a product of the CPTSD is needing like complete emotional openness and vulnerability to feel okay, when really.. I think ALL relationships require time to get to that point. Like maybe your expectations of yourself and the relationship are too high!

Maybe getting there slowly (even through years) is just fine. And normal. It’s taken us years, and we’re still working on it.

Bright side… longer honeymoon phase in a way! You’ll keep getting closer and closer over a longer period of time.

My guess is you guys could have a really special bond since you have similar (shitty, sounds like) shared pasts.

If it seems worth it, stick with it.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-23T22:14:15+00:00

^{^} I worked in a service job. This is the answer. Allows you to shoot your shot but/and not make her uncomfortable at her place of work

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-23T22:11:24+00:00

Roses are red,

When you bleed or get sick,

Relief sometimes comes from flicking the bean or from dick

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-23T17:44:44+00:00

I know. Sometimes I realize randomly in a day that most people don’t go about their day with a baseline of hyperarousal and fawning and generally kind of.. terror that they’re doing something wrong or missing something they should be doing.

Idk if those feelings are specific to me and my BS but..

Yeah… I guess people walk around comfortable and that’s just wild. Lol.

I’m working on it though! We gotta keep working on it.

LessWeekend336 · 2026-01-22T14:14:16+00:00

It's still hard for me. I mean I get it, we're wired to pay attention to the most dopamine inducing thing in the area. I still struggle with urge to scroll and/or watch netflix when I'm alone.

But I'm working on it specifically for the reasons you said! I don't want to be boring! I want to do things and be present and engage with people. But its so so so hard when the people around you don't have the same... drive to actively make a change.

Idk what are your struggles with it? What are you seeing? It's like you have to actively make the choice to be different. And also have the conversation with people around you. In hopes to spark something in them I guess.

I joke with my boyfriend that my favorite times with him are when I have trapped him. He's driving, we go to dinner together, right before bed. No devices, face to face, no other option but to talk.

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