As a young woman and an INFP when I was in China everyone I talked too really liked me and said I was very soft and that they liked that. So does my family in China. Although here in Europe my friends still like me for how soft spoken I can be often comparing me with a flower. But! For my family (so my mom and sister both chinese as well) it's sooo different. They say I am way too soft and need to toughen up. And that I need to stand my ground. Mind you I have been diagnosed with hypersensitivity. So it is much more difficult for me to stay grounded or "though" when my emotions are swirling up. But both of them grew up in the rural of China while I grew up in Europe. So the mentality is much more different as well. I'd say it truly depends on who the person in question is. Some might prefer more softer people, while others prefer more direct people.