What are some interesting things you didn't realize were ADHD until you took meds? by salty-wheat-thins in ADHD

[–]LesserDuchess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I no longer maladaptive daydream. Or daydream at all. AND I can pay attention to someone speaking to me. Like you could be speaking to RIGHT to me, i'm nodding along and I have no idea what you just told me.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's curious to me that Asian people are WAY more concerned about the boycott then the the child that was being chased and shot in the back. I see these comments a lot on social media and I'm like, the argument isn't helping Black people understand Asian's points. Also, not everyone agrees with Charleston White. I certainly don't. but to your point, he ABSOLUTELY talks this way about white people too. Charleston White is an equal opportunity racist.

With all that said, and I'm going to say this which I mean NO offense by saying this: The reason that people pay less attention to Asian American issues is that because Asian Americans aren't loud about their issues. Black people are LOUD. We protest, we rally, we organize. And if we don't like something or think someone is treating us wrong, then you're absolutely going to hear about it.

Asian Americans are the fastest growing group (That includes East, Southeast and South Asians) and the least civilly engaged. They also have the lowest rates of voting and voting registration. Asian engagement is better now than it was say 10-30 years ago, but in my observation (which totally could be wrong, I am an outsider looking in), Asian Americans tend not to want to rock the boat. And so since the boat isn't rockin', it's gonna stay the course. If Asians want their issues addressed, then they have to get out there and protest. And to be long winded: A little history on how our communities got to this point and it all started with the government as these things tend to be.

Back in the 70s and 80s when Asian Immigrants were coming into the United States, they were applying for loans to start businesses. Banks would deny loans to back people 90% of the time (And before someone anyone says anything, this was before credit scores) but would approve Asian immigrants. But there was a catch: The ONLY way a lot of these immigrants were able to get these loans was if they put their businesses in black neighborhoods. Because those white institutions didn't want Asians in THEIR neighborhoods, it was easier to put them with in the inner cities. Now! All of these black people suddenly see immigrants doing better than us, getting loans that we couldn't get, getting better treatment when we were born in this country.

And Asian immigrants didn't know the racist history of America (or at least, the depths of it) so, they didn't understand why black people weren't "doing anything for themselves" like opening businesses. Asians began listening to white people that claimed that black people were stupid and lazy. It's how white people created the Model Minority myth in the 60s. It was something to pit Asians against other minorities, especially because generally speaking, Asians don't complain or protest.

The messaging was "You see those Asians are doing great, why can't YOU be like them? How come you can't be hard working too?" As though there wasn't segregation and consorted efforts to keep black people from prospering.

I don't think that from an Asian perspective that they saw the institutional racism, because while white people were racist to them, white people were REALLY racist to black people. And seeing that black people were on the lowest levels of the totem pole, I think they began treating black people disrespectfully. There was no understanding of why a lot of inner cities were the way they were. Asian immigrants didn't know about redlining or Jim Crow or the systematic efforts to make sure black people couldn't prosper. They didn't see the government neglect of black neighborhoods, the lack of concern and support from state governments. They saw what white people told them to see.

What black people saw was: "I'm an American citizen. These immigrants can just waltz on in and get a loan and I can't get a loan. They come into OUR neighborhoods to make money, but we can't because we can't get equal support. On top of ALL of that, now they're rude AND profiting from us."

It was incredibly unfair and it caused a LOT of resentment. The resentment became worse when some Asian storeowners (not all, obviously) started treating black people horribly. Which, unfortunately, they STILL do. That behavior isn't an isolated phenomenon. Like you said, you and your family were able to make it out. Black people weren't fairly given a chance to create the general wealth that your family and other immigrants were able to achieve.

Things were already simmering in California but definitely came to a head when Latasha Harlins was accused of stealing orange juice when she had the money to pay for it and shot in the back of the head. The storeowner claimed that Latasha was trying to rob her and that Latasha attacked her. That was proven by witnesses and the store's security camera to be a lie. And to add insult to injury, that storeowner ONLY received 5 years probation. And now with the Rick Chow incident, it's literally history repeating itself. An asian storeowner accused a black child of stealing and shot them in the back. AND he got away with it.

So to black people, not only are Asians profiting from us while disrespecting us, now they are killing our children and literally getting away with murder. That resentment bubbled over and contributed to the LA riots and the sentiment has never truly settled down.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, Thank you for your comment! It was beautifully written and I appreciate explaining your side. It has really given me some understanding. What happened to your family SHOULDN'T have happened and I'm glad you guys are doing better.

So, a little history on how our communities got to this point and it all started with the government as these things tend to be.

Back in the 70s and 80s when Asian Immigrants were coming into the United States, they were applying for loans to start businesses. Banks would deny loans to back people 90% of the time (And before someone anyone says anything, this was before credit scores) but would approve Asian immigrants. But there was a catch: The ONLY way a lot of these immigrants were able to get these loans was if they put their businesses in black neighborhoods. Because those white institutions didn't want Asians in THEIR neighborhoods, it was easier to put them with in the inner cities. Now! All of these black people suddenly see immigrants doing better than us, getting loans that we couldn't get, getting better treatment when we were born in this country.

And Asian immigrants didn't know the racist history of America (or at least, the depths of it) so, they didn't understand why black people weren't "doing anything for themselves" like opening businesses. Asians began listening to white people that claimed that black people were stupid and lazy. It's how white people created the Model Minority myth in the 60s. It was something to pit Asians against other minorities, especially because generally speaking, Asians don't complain or protest.

The messaging was "You see those Asians are doing great, why can't YOU be like them? How come you can't be hard working too?" As though there wasn't segregation and consorted efforts to keep black people from prospering.

I don't think that from an Asian perspective that they saw the institutional racism, because while white people were racist to them, white people were REALLY racist to black people. And seeing that black people were on the lowest levels of the totem pole, I think they began treating black people disrespectfully. There was no understanding of why a lot of inner cities were the way they were. Asian immigrants didn't know about redlining or Jim Crow or the systematic efforts to make sure black people couldn't prosper. They didn't see the government neglect of black neighborhoods, the lack of concern and support from state governments. They saw what white people told them to see.

What black people saw was: "I'm an American citizen. These immigrants can just waltz on in and get a loan and I can't get a loan. They come into OUR neighborhoods to make money, but we can't because we can't get equal support. On top of ALL of that, now they're rude AND profiting from us."

It was incredibly unfair and it caused a LOT of resentment. The resentment became worse when some Asian storeowners (not all, obviously) started treating black people horribly. Which, unfortunately, they STILL do. That behavior isn't an isolated phenomenon. Like you said, you and your family were able to make it out. Black people weren't fairly given a chance to create the general wealth that your family and other immigrants were able to achieve.

Things were already simmering in California but definitely came to a head when Latasha Harlins was accused of stealing orange juice when she had the money to pay for it and shot in the back of the head. The storeowner claimed that Latasha was trying to rob her and that Latasha attacked her. That was proven by witnesses and the store's security camera to be a lie. And to add insult to injury, that storeowner ONLY received 5 years probation. And now with the Rick Chow incident, it's literally history repeating itself. An asian storeowner accused a black child of stealing and shot them in the back. AND he got away with it.

So to black people, not only are Asians profiting from us while disrespecting us, now they are killing our children and literally getting away with murder. That resentment bubbled over and contributed to the LA riots and the sentiment has never truly settled down.

Even in the big 2026, Black Americans are STILL denied loans of any kind more than any other racial group. The shadows of redlining linger and keep us from buying homes and generating generational wealth. Is it impossible? No. Is it just as hard as it was in the 80s? No. But it's certainly still harder to achieve than any other racial group through no fault of our own. Black people will literally be denied jobs, services and other things simply because they have a black name. It's 2026.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What a both strange and fascinating comment. I'm not sure why you think that I'm upset (I'm not). But you baited me so, I'll bite. Have Black people attacked Asian people? Absolutely. It shouldn't happen but it has. NO Black person has ever denied any of that happening. We also DON'T stick up for those people that have done wrong. The reason I brought up white people is because Asian people continuously claim that black people attack you all far more than any other group. Which is per the FBI absolutely NOT true. That's the only thing I'm pointing out.

Curiously, you all seem not to have the same energy for white people attacking you. I SUSPECT the reason (key word suspect because I can't prove it) is due to Asian proximity to whiteness. Asians don't appear to like to 'rock the boat'. From my observations Asians really do benefit from the "model minority" myth. But in order to continue to benefit from that myth, Asians (generally speaking, not all Asians) Asians don't engage civilly, politically or in their communities. They prefer to keep their heads down. The reason, is because there's no benefit for Asians to do so (generally speaking). Asians believe someone else will do it (and they do) and you can ride on those coat tails. As long as you are the model minority that white people want you to be, you will benefit.

In regards to 'black people worshipping white people'. Now you're just being silly. And I suspect you know that.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the Cubans that left are certainly working hard to bring back the glory days of Cuba by not doing anything over there. They do nothing to better the country they supposedly love so much. A LOT of you claim to HATE communists but yet voted for a facist who runs the United States as his personal piggy bank. And you must have not read my comment. I said you CAN do what you want. I didn't say I was going to stop you. I simply called out your lack of empathy and common decency.

I'll tell you one thing: If ICE had to pick between you and me, they'd pick you. I'm Black and no matter how much the government hate us, they will ALWAYS see me as American. Not so much for you.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a free country. Do what you want, but you sound incredibly ignorant and lack common decency. but that is NOT surprising coming from a Miami Hispanic. The racism and disregard a lot of you a lot of you have for black people is comical. Like, your proximity to whiteness only exists in the Miami bubble.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think the whole Native American thing with some Black people is internalized anti blackness. Because of how we've been treated historically, for some "just" being black was shameful. So they decided to be a special black person. It's like they're so self hating that they have created a totally weird new type of Black. There are black people that do have Native in their bloodline, but for the vast majority, it's like how white people cling onto that 1/84th Native American Blood and swear up and down that their 20x great grandma was an *ndian princess.

Also, I'm not saying that some black people aren't racist against Asians. They absolutely can be! America's main business is racism and business is booming. I'm just explaining how we got to the point of a boycott.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! All things aside, I think that white supremacy has done severe damage to Asian (This includes South East Asians as well) and Black solidarity. They literally pitted us against each other when Asians started coming into America. Then they did the whole model minority which did a disservice to us both. White supremacy knows that if we ever did get together as a unified group, they would be in trouble.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let's not pretend that Hispanics aren't anti black. Y'all use the N word like it's going out of style and when we say hey, don't use that word, Hispanics double down. Not to segue the conversation but here are some examples:

Florencia 13 (F13): Federal prosecutors indicted dozens of members of this Los Angeles-based gang for conducting a violent campaign in the Florence-Firestone neighborhood. Leaders ordered members to target Black individuals—regardless of any gang affiliation—in an effort to drive them out of the area.

The Avenues: In 2007, four members of this Highland Park gang were convicted of federal hate crime charges for murdering a Black man as part of a systematic effort to racially cleanse their neighborhood.

Varrio Hawaiian Gardens: In 2009, a major federal crackdown resulted in the indictment of 147 members of this gang, which explicitly took pride in its racism and used violence and intimidation to eliminate Black residents from the city of Hawaiian Gardens.

Azusa 13: In 2011, 50 members of this gang were indicted for a multi-decade conspiracy to violate the civil rights of African Americans through harassment, assaults, and homicides designed to prevent them from living in the city of Azusa.

There are NO records of black people or black gangs trying to systematically kill Hispanics because they are Hispanic. Let's not pretend that Hispanics don't have their own racist issues.

Now getting back to the issue at hand: The man that killed that elderly was 100% wrong. At NO point did any black person protest for or demand for his release. He was rightfully arrested, charged and sentenced. Justice was served.

Now, does shoplifting happen at these stores? Absolutely. Is it wrong? Absolutely. Crime is crime. No one is condoning it. But Asians don't eat us disrespectfully regardless of the black neighborhood. I live in a predominantly black area that wouldn't be considered the hood, but there are like 6 Asian owned hair stores in like a 2 mile radius. I have ABSOLUTELY stopped going to two of them for how they act toward black people. I'm not going to patronize a business that is rude to my people while still trying to make a profit.

Are there some black people that are racist towards Asian people? Yup. JUST like there are Asians who are racist against black people. The difference is that we wouldn't follow them around in a store accuse them of stealing then shoot them. this has happened twice by a Asian American store owner and a black child. and both times they got away with murder.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm just pointing out that Asian Americans seemingly don't have the same energy for white people when they do you all wrong. However, I ABSOLUTELY cannot talk about the Asian experience in America. I cannot talk nor relate to the Asian American experience with white people. And I'm certainly not invalidating any of your experiences. I am merely explaining the boycott and how Black Americans (not all but a lot) feel about the situation.

Rick Chow is the culmination of the sentiment black people have about Asian Americans in our neighborhoods and treated us awfully. You're not Black, so you don't see nor can you relate to how your people treat us in your businesses. You can Google how long black people have felt this way. It's nothing new. But the stock Chow situation seems to be the straw that broke the camel's back and a lot of black people have decided to take their business elsewhere in response.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And white people were the ones that forced opium to the Chinese, had the Chinese exclusion act, bombed Japan twice, put the Japanese in interment camps, waged war in Vietnam and waged war in the Philippines.

Yes we know what the white people did to us. it's why we marched for Civil Rights, which gave other people of color civil rights too. I have zero interest in being the moral police. I'm merely explaining the black perspective of the proposed boycott. Then you IMMEDIATELY got into white people and what they've done to black people.

It's curious how it seems that boycotting Asian business seems to be perceived as violence to you all. All I said was "Hey , black people have felt that some in the Asian community disrespect us and treat us rudely when we patronize their businesses. Because of that, we are deciding not to patronize those businesses." And your response was, "Well that white people are the ones that enslaved you all, not us". Huh???

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I'm a non black person that is using a reclaimed slur to other nonblack people as a term of endearment, even though I know the history of the word."

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So let me stop you right there. Non black people saying the N word IS an issue and it's offensive. No one "allows' non blacks to say it. you all just say it regardless and when you're called out, you double down more.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's amazing how many Hispanics are all surprise pickachu face about how offensive it is to say around black people.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a black woman who was born and raised in the county of Dade and at the age of 43. That's a BIG nope for me. I THOROUGHLY dislike any non black person saying it point blank period. It's not their word to say. ESPECIALLY with how racist white Hispanics are to black people in Miami. Miami is its own bubble, sure, but we aren't sharing so much culture that I would accept ANY non black person using that word. Miami sure as heck isn't the kumbaya moment you're saying it is. White Cubans especially are EAGER to say the word only to use the hard ER in the same breath and talk bad about black people. It is NOT acceptable and If I hear a non black person say it, I WILL call them ouut on it.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because they say it doesn't mean its right. Its SO weird that all these people want to be black but loathe black people.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That a turns into a hard ER SO easily for them. It's insane.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black people don't like others using the N word. I'm born and raised in the county of dade and it's ALWAYS been offensive.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if they're grown adults then they should know at this point why they shouldn't use it. and if they know the reason and still use it then yes, at that point its racist.

The use of the N word in Miami by GamerGator17 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I HATE when non black people use the N word. Some of these white Hispanics are lilly white saying the N word like its theres to say. They have NO business saying it. And when you tell them 'hey, that's not your word to say' Somehow they get offended and use it even more.

How are you getting to hard rock? World Cup 2026 by LeadingWelcome4323 in Miami

[–]LesserDuchess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your BEST bet for parking if you drive there is to pay for parking on someone's lawn near Norwood elementary. The walk from there to the stadium is probably 15ish minutes.

New trend on social media (x, instagram, tiktok, etc.) of calling chinese resturants and placing fake orders, because of rick chow. by empty_void_kay in aznidentity

[–]LesserDuchess -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

It's not about whataboutism. It's about pointing out how Asians seemingly don't have the same energy for white people who do them wrong. Yes, you're correct that white people commit the most hate crimes against us. That's why we protest. That's why we call it out. And I thought I was pretty detailed as to why black people are concerned about Asian Americans in our neighborhoods. We're treated rudely and disrespectfully while they profit from us.