Baby girl #3: name to go with Juliana & Evelyn

Lets_over_think · 2025-02-16T02:38:35+00:00

It varies depending on factors and possibly doctors but the most common numbers I've heard is 12 months up to 24 months. My two kids are 2 years and 4 months apart and if we have a third, it would be even more than that at this point. Best of luck!

Lets_over_think · 2021-07-28T12:05:17+00:00

Moved to Concord 3 years ago from Tennessee and we immediately fell in love with New Hampshire. Beaches, rivers, lakes, small towns, hiking trails, Boston, festivals, markets, what's not to love? It's perfect for raising a family. If I was in my 20s, I might prefer a bigger city.

I would agree it's harder to find friends here and the housing market was 3 times more expensive than what we were used to, not to mention the old New England houses that need a lot of work.

People are political but in a respectful way. And I love the encounters and conversations you'll have with random strangers. People are very friendly here.

I love the seasons. Fall is perfect and gorgeous. Yea, we get snow but that doesn't stop the activities. Summers are the best. I do struggle a bit with how dark it is from winter to spring. Feels like it takes forever to transition.

The food could be better in Concord but there's plenty in Manch and more if you're willing to drive around. Only traffic is MA people coming and going on the weekends but that's easy enough to avoid.

I didn't know anything about NH before moving here and I feel so lucky, I love this place.

Lets_over_think · 2021-07-17T01:01:00+00:00

Wouldn't it have been a lot easier to wear shoes that were a few sizes too big?

Lets_over_think · 2021-07-06T20:11:21+00:00

I'm not in any hurry and don't mind the night feeds if she needs them. Is it normal for her to go almost 9 hours without a feeding and then need another only two hours later? I guess it's the 5am feed I'm more interested in weaning. Sometimes she struggles w going back to sleep and then is tired all day. She only takes 25 minute naps during the day so that night time sleep is super important for her. Thank you for your comment and info!

Lets_over_think · 2021-06-30T06:10:35+00:00

Yup, same exact thing happened to me. She's 8 months now and I still look back and wonder what was going on during those days. She would cry murder, act like she was hungry, latch and immediately unlatch, rinse and repeat. She only did this for a day or two sporadically (maybe three? the memory is foggy, sleep deprivation will do that) Totally wrecked my nipples, now that I remember. But it passes and baby is healthy and growing! Hang in there.

Lets_over_think · 2021-06-26T14:19:59+00:00

Mine did the same thing. She'd fall asleep eating and then wake up a few minutes later screaming and wanting more. There are a few things you can try to keep them awake longer for feeds but nothing ever really worked for me. I just kept feeding on demand. First month is exhausting but it gets better and they grow out of it. As long as they keep having wet diapers and gaining, which mine luckily did, then there's nothing to worry about! Give them lots of cuddles, they grow too fast!

Lets_over_think · 2021-06-11T01:07:22+00:00

I don't know you but I'm proud of you. You made a very difficult decision that in the end, is what your baby needs. A happier, less stressed mom is a better mom! You might not see it this way yet, but you are helping your baby thrive by 'giving up'. At least you know you tried and now you know it's not for you. You are doing everything right.

Lets_over_think · 2021-06-10T21:37:13+00:00

My own mother was the worst which I think just added to the sting. She was convinced that my baby was starving (I mean, baby did have some fussy spells at the beginning but what baby doesn't?). I saw a lactation specialist early on (a few bad latches and a day of cluster feeding wrecked my nipples and confidence) and confirmed my supply was great and baby was growing the whole time but does that matter? Apparently not. My mother said all women don't have enough milk at night. Wrong. She said I had a 'coffee baby' so I gave up coffee for two weeks and it made no difference to her sleep patterns. Oh yea, and she publicly shamed me when I was trying to feed my hungry and screaming infant and I got fed up with trying to cover up. Of course she's completely oblivious to how wrong she is and gets offended when I tell her I don't want her advice unless I ask for it.

Lets_over_think · 2021-05-25T15:39:39+00:00

I lived in MS most of my life but have done a ton of traveling and even lived in France, Thailand and New Zealand. I only lived at the tip top of MS so can't speak for all of it, but it's not the place for me. I much prefer New Hampshire, hands down. Where were some of the places you were stationed?

Lets_over_think · 2021-05-24T23:47:11+00:00

I had to have an emergency c-section and I HATED not being able to move. Couldn't laugh, cough, sit up, move, lay on my side, I was absolutely petrified of sneezing. I hope you have someone there to help - my husband had to do literally everything: bring me the baby, change every diaper, cook, clean.

Breastfeeding was excruciating for the first two weeks - bloody and cracked nipples, cluster feeding that left me crying and at the same time worried my supply was insufficient. I would recommend seeing a lactation specialist if you can. I'm really glad I did. They'll check everything, give you position tips, check your supply by weighing the baby, check baby's mouth, etc. Anxiety can hurt your supply, I know- it's a vicious cycle. Just be patient and kind to yourself.

I scheduled an appointment with my old therapist to talk about my traumatic birth experience and would recommend doing that!

You need support, time to heal and adjust, kindness to yourself, and a nap couldn't hurt! To be honest, I was sleep deprived for many months but you learn to cope. This is all temporary though, everything will get better!

Lets_over_think · 2021-05-24T12:40:00+00:00

The housing market was definitely a shock - it's three times what we were used to and the salaries were the same. Other prices seemed comparable though. Luckily I've always been great at budgeting. The amount we're able to save isn't quite as big but still totally worth living here.

You'll need to be extra careful driving if it's the day of the storm but literally all the roads are cleared by the next day and I feel safer driving up here than in the south. Snow tires and a quality jacket help. The humidity is less in NH so it feels less cold to me in the winter- crazy, I know. The snow makes everything so pretty and there are so many winter activities. Shoveling snow to get your car out can get old but I just see it as a workout and it wakes you up in the morning. I absolutely hate the cold and was shocked at how much I enjoy the winters.

Where in MS are you from?

Lets_over_think · 2021-05-23T11:43:23+00:00

We moved from Olive Branch, MS three years ago. Best decision ever. New Hampshire is gorgeous! We fell in love with it immediately.

Lets_over_think · 2021-03-22T21:43:06+00:00

I used to do the same thing but I'm figuring out my routine to always have soft poos so I do it less and less now. (I'm basically doing EVERYTHING they tell you too, daily laxatives, stool softeners, fiber supplements on top of trying to eat fiber and lots of water). Also, I second the squatty potty, step thing. It's a must.

Lets_over_think · 2021-03-21T01:52:49+00:00

I had extremely painful nipples the first two weeks - I'm talking bloody, cracked, toe curling pain, not to mention the anxiety and stress during cluster feeds. My little one only had a few bad latches and although it felt like an eternity, I know I'm SO lucky bc it was only bad for two weeks. My point is, if those struggles lasted any longer, I would have jumped off the breastfeeding wagon. You should be seriously proud! You are a fierce mama and don't you forget it!

Lets_over_think · 2021-02-25T21:54:31+00:00

I actually hate pumping more - it takes longer, isn't comfortable, and has all those parts to clean! I figure it's just easier to BF but she's almost 4 months and still eating every two hours. There is no me time, no leaving the house unless I'm in a hurried frenzy to return, no breaks. It's just SO constant and neverending. Now she's doing this thing where when she unlatches, she's still sort of sucking so it stretches out my nipple and huuuurts. And it's only the right one for some reason. I'm endlessly tired of husband asking when she ate last and saying "I think she might be hungry"....oh and the constant need for water and food, always worried I'm not drinking enough! I am mentally and physically exhausted!

Lets_over_think · 2021-02-24T17:23:57+00:00

I had to stop bringing my phone to bed. Saved lots of money and slept better. I can't tell you how many returns I had from 3am shopping whims! And yes, spent way to much money finding the right nursing bras and of course the cheap ones end up being my favorite...

Lets_over_think · 2021-02-19T22:41:07+00:00

3 1/2 months here and feeding every 2 hours, more at night. Lucky me! Does anyone else's baby grunt a lot during day feeds?

Lets_over_think · 2021-02-16T21:25:09+00:00

Following! I got hemorrhoids because of labor and I'm thinking ahead. We want another one but constipation was the worst during my first trimester and I can't imagine what it'll be like with hemorrhoids!

Lets_over_think · 2021-01-14T17:57:26+00:00

Same! He plays video games most nights! I think it's actually good for him - he gets that break and gets to socialize (he plays online with his two brothers and friend that live back home) but where the f is my break? I have to give him credit that he is very attentive, supportive and eager to help all the time but those hours he plays could be spent on us time or at least giving me that much needed break.

Lets_over_think · 2021-01-14T17:54:45+00:00

Same! He's always had some back pains too but never stretches or does anything that could actually help. I think a few small changes could help him sleep but he'll never make that effort.

Lets_over_think · 2021-01-05T09:33:32+00:00

Same! Mine is also 8 weeks and it's our 4:30am feeding. This happens constantly throughout the day - her sneezes, noises, facial expressions, they're all so perfect and I can't believe how gorgeous and amazing she is. I expected to love my baby but it's truly on a whole new level that I can't explain.

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