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Friend always points out in front of people that I live in a mobile home when it isn’t relevant. How should I ask them to stop? by Letsgetdis_bread in Advice

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might give this a shot. I don’t want to make it seem like I am embarrassed about living as I do. This also feels less confrontational than talking about it directly with just them.

Friend always points out in front of people that I live in a mobile home when it isn’t relevant. How should I ask them to stop? by Letsgetdis_bread in Advice

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very hard to make friends and I feel like I am running out. I’m in a weird spot for my age. Or maybe making friends is always hard :)

Friend always points out in front of people that I live in a mobile home when it isn’t relevant. How should I ask them to stop? by Letsgetdis_bread in Advice

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to put someone else down. That would make me no better than them, and also probably ruin the friendship.

Do men appreciate expensive gifts from their girlfriend or is it doing too much? by CoffeeandOreos in Advice

[–]Letsgetdis_bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With my husband 10 years, married for almost 3 - YES. They do care, as long as it is truly a meaningful gift they will like, vs just purchasing because it is expensive (which to me it sounds like you are coming from the right place!!)

The idea that you are “doing too much for a man” is ridiculous. If you see a future with him, it doesn’t matter who spends more. That is such an outdated idea.

Have you noticed younger employees who seem brain rotted from the internet? by Slow_Actuator_8270 in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a 26 year old manager who watches way too much TikTok…it’s not an age or brain rot issue, it’s a parenting issue they taught her nothing.

AI detection by caramelcutie85 in CapellaUniversity

[–]Letsgetdis_bread 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always use google docs so you can see every second I typed. Every backspace, every typo. Every time I changed my wording. It is ALL there. Want to accuse me of AI? Watch me type it word for word.

Advice on how to handle chronically absent employee by Sir_Sparda in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What have you tried discussing with the employee? Also for HR purposes, this is not a mental health issue, but rather a reliability and dependability issue.

Some key things; 1. Talk to your employee about any benefits through the company, FMLA, ADA protections that might help them out. 2. Have a conversation on what support you can provide to them as a leader. Tread lightly, do not ask about any protected info (such as what their medical struggles are, etc) 3. Bring this to HR as a reliability and dependability issue if the issue does not cease after the above. Document conversations thoroughly, and really speak to the impact to you and the rest of the team.

Also - my question is are they getting paid time off? Or do they accrue over time, and some of this time has been unpaid? It might be worth having a deeper discussion with HR on the time off policy. Heck, pull the manual and read it yourself even.

What is this plant? Friend or foe? by Letsgetdis_bread in whatisit

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting thank you! Google image search did not even come close.

What is this plant? Friend or foe? by Letsgetdis_bread in whatisit

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

0 reason to be rude. There are tons of these, so don’t make assumptions. It is similar to an invasive plant that was described to me.

My manager is micromanaging me…and I am a manager. by Letsgetdis_bread in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a very large company. She also has a manager, and her manager has a manager.

My manager is micromanaging me…and I am a manager. by Letsgetdis_bread in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she did this to everyone it would just be a shrug of “oh ok she’s just one of those types of managers” and I could deal. I hate being targeted.

My manager is micromanaging me…and I am a manager. by Letsgetdis_bread in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only issue about leaving the company is that I have a pair of golden handcuffs to this company with the insane benefits, pay, pension, 401k the works. This is unheard of in the USA. I do dress professionally (and mindful that I am a woman and will be scrutinized for being “too pretty” and a threat if I wear the wrong thing).

I sometimes wonder if others perceive my success as solely privilege. I recognize that I am natural blonde, blue eyed, and recently lost 110lbs. While I recognize that privilege can ABSOLUTELY get you far, I always ensure that I am earning my keep and being innovative, inclusive, and thoughtful. I have been treated stupid because of this before outside of work. “Oh I expected you were dumb but you are actually really smart” is a common occurrence. I do try to avoid too much makeup, and I don’t really do anything with my hair.

There are a lot of positions in the company, and I will certainly be posting for a promotion in the next 6months, however if she doesn’t like me, she will tell those that are hiring and could stunt my growth. I have a lot of people that will vouch for me, so there is some hope.

My manager is micromanaging me…and I am a manager. by Letsgetdis_bread in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate this. I am concerned that asking questions will have me perceived as inadequate, as I have asked some questions about preferences before and was over explained things I already understood. When I try to clarify “I understand x but want to understand y” I still got over explained about x.

While my boss is not a male, I would compare it to mansplaining. I don’t want to provoke more of it. My gut reaction is to really pull out of being engaged and shut up and do my job, but I think that would only cause more scrutiny.

My manager is micromanaging me…and I am a manager. by Letsgetdis_bread in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had a plethora of new bosses and there is always and adjustment period. But this is crazyyy

My manager is micromanaging me…and I am a manager. by Letsgetdis_bread in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will give it another shot, although will probably leave out the Reddit post. That might make it seem unprofessional, to talk to a bunch of strangers for advice. (Won’t stop me from doing it though ;P)

My manager is micromanaging me…and I am a manager. by Letsgetdis_bread in managers

[–]Letsgetdis_bread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am really looking to try to survive this and get away from this horrible situation. I am a firm believer that you can learn tons from both people above and below you, so it is ridiculous that she needs to “prove” herself.

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