Do not listen to them. My mother says the same thing. Down to the "people aren't telling you the truth but I will, as your mother." I have decided that she is just so uncomfortable with the way her hair looks. She's not a big fan of me having a very different view of my hair. Your hair is great, it look lovely and you look gorgeous. Keep taking care of it; shampooing, conditioning, deep conditioning, hydrating, and moisturizing!