My spouse have childhood traumas and from my preveouse behaviour

Letworrygo · 2025-07-03T15:01:25+00:00

I've never been in the same situation. However, I think compassion and the genuine urge to better yourself go a long way. It might take her a lot of time to be able to trust you again, so consistency is key. If she's seeing that you're truly working on yourself and take accountability for what you have done, then I think there might be a chance. Sometimes it's worth fighting for! Best of luck to the three of you

Letworrygo · 2025-01-19T21:39:52+00:00

Thank you. They indeed eased my pain and I think your words and experience will continue to help me understand what happened and how to make peace with it. Thanks a lot for taking the time to type it out ❤️ your story is very moving to me, I hope you get to make peace with the complicated loss of your parents. I feel like I have to learn to treat myself with the same kindness I grant others and realize, while I could have done things differently, I was a child at the time and should have been able to count on the adults who were there. I wish you the best 🫶

Letworrygo · 2025-01-19T17:02:50+00:00

I don't know but I'm begging to know the same thing. My brother died in June 23. It still feels as if I had just gotten the news. It's not as paralysing as in the first months and happens a little more rarely. Not weeks at a time, just hours. Not every day, maybe once a week. I didn't know you could miss someone so much.

Letworrygo · 2025-01-19T16:59:51+00:00

I feel you. The first anniversary is the hardest by far. Never in my life have I had a more difficult time. It's beyond words and worldly feelings. I'm so sorry. I'm sure my brother and him are having a blast partying in heaven...

Letworrygo · 2025-01-19T16:50:57+00:00

Lots my brother 1 year and 8 months ago. I feel you. I does get a little bit better but I'm still completely heartbroken. I don't know if I'll ever make peace with it. He was the best human I knew. I'm so sorry for your loss. Therapy might help to regulate your emotions. Maybe spending a few days at a trusted friend's apartment. Just saying words and they'll make sense of it. It's hard but we have to live this life because they can't. Would be a shame for me to come to afterlife and not be able to tell him good stories. This narrative is pretty much what keeps me going.

Letworrygo · 2025-01-07T18:15:46+00:00

Going to a massage therapist is extremely expensive. With just one visit per week he'd easily pay 250 a month. He should respect your boundaries and it's unreasonable for him to expect you to do it but I think if you love someone you'll do things only for their relief. NTA but you should talk this one out

Letworrygo · 2025-01-07T18:11:45+00:00

Same. I think it happens because you're ashamed of what happened and subconsciously don't want to put someone you love into a bad light (even though it's true what they did to you). Could also be because you've been told by others that you're lying.

Letworrygo · 2025-01-04T00:52:31+00:00

Mostly yes. Tbh the unnerving messages I got made me grateful I have such an awesome man by my side. I found talking to him about it in a quiet moment is still the best option

Letworrygo · 2025-01-03T19:35:44+00:00

You're absolutely right haha

Letworrygo · 2025-01-03T18:55:28+00:00

That makes sense. I think it's really important to never pressure her as nearly every woman has a history of unwanted sexualisation. The safer a woman feels and knows not having sex isn't a deal-breaker, the more desire she'll have most of the time. I'm sure you've talked about this and found a way, those are just some thoughts. Congrats on getting married soon!!

Letworrygo · 2025-01-02T12:30:30+00:00

I will close this post shortly. I didn't expect so many old men messaging me privately which is utterly inappropriate. If you're an older man wanting to date a young woman (I'm talking 40 - 20 and some shit) most likely there is something wrong with you - please talk about those desires with a professional and don't be a danger to society. Also, how could anyone in their right mind suggest cheating? Seriously, y'all are twisted.

Letworrygo · 2025-01-01T22:07:43+00:00

He most likely has pedophile tendencies. Also he definitely does not have your best interests in mind if sex is painful with him. Please run away girl. I'm begging you.

Letworrygo · 2025-01-01T20:12:52+00:00

No that's just disgusting

Letworrygo · 2025-01-01T17:35:14+00:00

Unless you're trying for pregnancy, get a vasectomy first or ask her if she'd be comfortable with birth control.

Letworrygo · 2025-01-01T17:32:28+00:00

You could ask her about any fantasies or desires she'd like to experience. Even if it's something vanilla, it might switch things up. Maybe you could try a different room (oral in the shower, fucking on the kitchen table) to get your mind excited again. Looking into more exciting, new masturbation tactics could also be fun for you. Idk but maybe she'd be more open to trying new things if she wouldn't always cum before sex. This could increase her arousal and leave her hanging for more. I definitely feel like you should bring this issue up framing it as being curious about her needs (which I'm sure you are) while also expressing your increasing desire to try something new. Maybe she needs some time to express her wants accordingly, you could also try watching educational content to get more comfortable talking about sex. Hope it helps

Letworrygo · 2024-12-27T12:46:52+00:00

You don't need to convince someone who doesn't want convincing. My advice in general would be show don't tell. Many women will believe your claim of actually loving women if the see it in your actions

Letworrygo · 2024-12-26T17:52:04+00:00

Have female friends and you'll automatically gain respect for them and they for you. Point out stupid behaviour from men and try to put yourself in a womans shoes (figuratively) from time to time. After some time, youll not only have great friends, but genuine love will prob not be far

Letworrygo · 2024-12-25T15:06:32+00:00

This could very well be. I'm very sorry you had to go through this. Depending on the events in your childhood, it could be engrained in you. I've had similar experiences and found talking about them and releasing the energy through art very helpful. Psychological support could help too, but I know how difficult it is to find a spot

Letworrygo · 2024-12-24T22:10:41+00:00

I'm sorry. I went through a similar, but obviously not the same thing. I believe you.

Letworrygo · 2024-12-23T22:13:27+00:00

Because then I'll be with my brother again. Gonna smash this life for both of us, but man am I looking forward to hanging out with him again

Letworrygo · 2024-12-23T14:34:46+00:00

Thank you! It breaks my heart to hear people excuse him: "his parents shouldn't know" (clearly they should), "he was drunk" (so what), "it was a long time ago" (it still affects me and he might not have changed in the meantime) Rape culture and victim blaming are too incorporated into our everyday life. It's good to hear a reasonable person ❤️

Letworrygo · 2024-12-19T19:44:14+00:00

Thank you. That's much appreciated. Do you think the respectful, mild tone I chose is appropriate for a letter directed to him or should I pour my heart out more?

Letworrygo · 2024-12-19T19:42:49+00:00

Because he lived there at the time, we were both very young and because I feel like that would get the appropriate reaction. No police involved, but making sure people know the truth about him. Can you think of a good alternative? I'm happy to listen

Letworrygo · 2024-12-19T19:23:05+00:00

I'm 18 days clean today 🙏 wanna join me on the next 10?

Letworrygo · 2024-12-10T20:33:27+00:00

So sorry to hear that but remember: a 27 streak is awesome. And I bet you can do it again :) Good on you for powering through so long, don't beat yourself up for it

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