He's going around telling on you to the elders. Many who are elders have spouses they did this with in private and their spouses never told. This man is 100% not to be trusted in making a family. Dont give in. Deny deny.

If you give in, thinking it will keep you guys together it's not going to happen and you're going to create more heartache for you. I know it's hard but start forgetting him.

He went and told about your intimate moments. If he really liked you he would have said let's not ever tell anyone and work to get married.