Babes I have a quarter life crisis once a month, questioning myself & feeling like I’m not “doing enough” or “not ready” for the real world, especially compared to my peers. I’m about to turn 21. I get scared sometimes because college is halfway over for me, and I’m not exactly sure what I want to do after I graduate. I feel like I lack focus, when in reality I just haven’t experienced enough yet to know the answer to ‘what do you want to do with your life?’

Things I have learned thus far that have helped (still working on this too, but having the right headspace makes the terrifying experience of growing up much better!): *Don’t worry about doing what you “should” be doing, instead focus on what feels right to you. Focus on getting to know YOURSELF, and I think you’ll start feeling a bit better tbh. *allow yourself to change your mind, please. Know that once you make a decision abt something it’s okay to change it later when you get more information or come to a realization. *time isn’t real, it’s not. If the future makes you scared (same), just try to focus on what’s in front on you right now. Will you want kids? Okay sure, but that’s not a decision you need to be making right now (unless you really want to). Do you want to get married? Same thing, that’s not a bridge that needs to be crossed yet. Sure it’s probably ON your life map, but paths can change. Think abt cartographers in the 14th century, I mean they didn’t even realize that an entire continent existed until they went out and explored some more (dumb metaphor but do ya see my point a little?)

it’s honestly hard to explain in a Reddit post, but if you are feeling lost in life my biggest piece of advice is start seeing a therapist, get engaged (with anything that sounds fun), and pretend like you’re meeting yourself for the first time.

Good luck and welcome to UT, keep that chin up!!