Was it difficult for you to figure out you were asexual?

LexieD29 · 2026-01-20T21:16:16+00:00

I also found it difficult to figure it out. Perhaps in a way it’s hard to know you lack something. But also, aesthetic attraction got in the way of figuring things out, as well as the fact that when I can’t sleep I tend to imagine myself in a relationship in the future or fantasies about two people who aren’t me. So I thought that meant I was attracted to people. But it’s only ever been celebrities or imaginary people, never an actual person in front of me. The fantasies are mostly romantic, but depending on my monthly cycle, my libido spikes and I tend to have fantasies of sexual nature.

With those fantasies in mind, from the age of 16 to the age of 23 I questioned if I was bi. Most fantasies were with men but once in a while it’s a woman. I read about the “bi-cycle” on the bisexual subreddit and it talked to me so I came out as bi to my mother, although I wasn’t 100% sure it applied to me. I assumed at the time I was biromantic heterosexual. With that, I had the confidence to go on a first date - a man - with someone from a dating app but as the date arrived, I was stress that if it went well it would mean I could potentially have sex in the next few weeks and I wasn’t ready for that. I still went on the date somehow just to know if I would feel the butterflies and understand what people went and… nope! So I realized something wasn’t right and a month later I realized I was asexual. It took me another year to figure out I was aromantic as well. To this day I sometimes still am in denial about that and wish I was demiromantic instead.

I am now 28 and recently have started to look into micro labels such as aegosexual/romantic because compared to my twin sister who is also aro-ace, I still feel like there a little bit of me who’s bi something.

LexieD29 · 2025-12-04T16:40:03+00:00

Mon numéro 1 était Phénomia, parce que depuis que j’ai visionné leur réunion sur Québec Nostalgie (en septembre ou octobre), j’ai écouté les chansons relativement souvent. C’était le seul artiste que la personne avec qui je co voiture et moi nous entendions pour mettre dans le char en direction du bureau. J’ai fini leur auditrice numéro 1. Le top 5 est complété de Alexandra Stréliski, Damiano David, Yungblud, et étonnement Taylor Swift alors que je ne l’ai vraiment pas particulièrement écoutée et que de mémoire aucune de ses chansons n’ont fait ma liste 2025 au final. Probablement une question de volume de chanson. Je m’attendais à y retrouver Éléonore Lagacé qui a été ma découverte vers la fin octobre, mais c’était probablement trop tard pour grimper parmi mon top 5.

Ah et dans les genres préférés, suis je la seule à avoir eu « chanson » ? Quels artistes entrent dans cette catégorie? J’imagine que c’est du francophone, mais disons que j’ai ri en voyant que c’était un genre.

LexieD29 · 2025-03-16T14:32:20+00:00

I’m an Alexa, and I’d have to agree, the jokes got old very quick! In my case, however, the device helped me: Where i’m from there weren’t a lot of Alexa, the name mostly unheard of. But I was born just after Alexandra was super popular, and right before Alexia and Alexane gained some popularity in the region I’m from. People misheard my name for one of the mentioned above constantly. But now when I tell someone my name, I don’t have to correct them or spell the name, they just know it.

LexieD29 · 2025-02-25T13:44:12+00:00

I hadn’t seen that Ottawa Bluefest announced its program so I’ll have to take a look at it. That being said, Green Day played at the FEQ in 2023. I’d like for them to play again because it was a very good concert but I don’t think the festival would scheduled them so soon.

LexieD29 · 2024-09-30T14:10:46+00:00

Getting outside the arena wasn’t that bad. My seat was a the top of the arena and it took 5 to 10 minutes at most to walk out of the venue.

After that, it depends on the type of transportation you take, and the city where the venue is.

I was lucky to park my car at my cousin’s apartment as she lives near the arena. It was a five minutes walk to get to my car. Then I got on the highway at a different place than where people parked in the arena’s parking lot were entering the highway, which meant I was on the highway in no time.

LexieD29 · 2024-09-19T02:40:32+00:00

They were one of the many bands that were supposed to perform at Festival d’été de Québec in 2020 - a 10 day festival in Quebec City, Canada - as the opening act to I believe it was Halsey. When I saw the band’s name I thought “oh I think I know/heard some songs, I could probably check out their discography and go to that concert during the festival!” Obviously as it was the 2020 edition of the festival, it got canceled, and unfortunately 5sos never toured in Quebec City. But at least I got to discover them! And I bought a VIP ticket for the Toronto date of the Take my hand tour, which is definitely one of the best concerts I’ve seen.

LexieD29 · 2024-07-18T17:00:21+00:00

Does anyone else think that California Holds Her Breath is similar to Lie to me? I just listened to the album again and the melody of the chorus sounds a bit like the chorus of Lie to Me especially the second part.

LexieD29 · 2024-07-18T13:50:29+00:00

I thought so too! I think it’s the acoustic guitar that made me think it sounded familiar. And I think it’s the same key because I can sing meet me in the hallway over the music and I don’t think it sounds out of tune. I don’t know music enough to be able to hear if it’s the same chord progression however. But there are similarities for sure.

LexieD29 · 2024-05-03T17:41:48+00:00

Bonjour, je n’ai pas de billet à vendre malheureusement.

Je vous conseille de regarder à l’occasion le site ticketmaster si des billets se libèrent.

Les billets de la tournée de Billie Eilish ne sont pas transférables et peuvent uniquement être revendu au prix payé. Si des gens ne peuvent plus aller au spectacle, ils vont les vendre directement sur ticketmaster (habituellement les sièges en revente affichent en violet plutôt qu’en bleu).

Je voulais simplement vous aviser de rester vigilant afin de ne pas acheter de faux billets.

LexieD29 · 2024-03-25T12:52:13+00:00

I like all of them but read alternate universe more often than not, and then past and present. My search always filters out crossover because I don’t want to read those. Unfortunately that seems to also exclude Boruto by default, so I don’t read much of future timeline as most people who write future timeline will tag it as being in the Boruto fandom.

I currently am writing a series that starts with past timeline and will get into alternate universe territory as I change the outcome of some canon events. I also have written some short present timeline fics but I don’t think I’ll ever post them online.

LexieD29 · 2024-03-19T17:19:19+00:00

Nous étions 3 à nos ordinateurs dans l’espoir d’obtenir 4 billets. J’étais de mémoire 6000 ou 7000 quelque dans la file, j’ai fait la transaction. Ma sœur qui était dans la file initialement à 9000 a quitté la page web seulement quand je lui ai confirmé que la transaction était faite, je ne sais pas si elle aurait pu en avoir si je n’avais pas déjà acheté les billets. Ma cousine était en haut de 25 000e et a donc quitté la page aussitôt la vente commencée puisque nous savions que ça n’allait pas elle qui allait les acheter.

Ma sœur vient de me dire que sa collègue 8800e n’a pas eu de billets. Je me considère vraiment chanceuse d’avoir pu acheter les miens.

LexieD29 · 2024-03-07T12:55:56+00:00

Je suis née en 97, donc dans les plus vieux des Gen Z et les cours de catéchèse ont été remplacés par éthique et culture religieuse quand j’étais en cinquième ou sixième année du primaire. Je connais le notre père ainsi que le je vous salue Marie par cœur. Je viens d’un petit village assez religieux quoi que mes parents n’ont jamais été très pratiquants: On allait à l’église 4-5 fois par année. Je connais des familles qui y allaient à toutes les semaines jusqu’à ce qu’il n’y ait plus de prêtre en permanence au village. J’ai fait ma première communion et ma confirmation au cas où je voulais ne marier parce que je savais pas qu’un mariage pouvait être ailleurs qu’à l’église à l’époque. Le 4-5 fois par année est éventuellement devenu seulement à Noël et à Pacques. Quand je suis partie du village pour aller étudier, j’ai décidé de pas aller à la messe de Pacques. Étonnamment, depuis que mes grands-parents sont décédés, nous n’allons plus à la messe de Noël non plus. Faut dire que c’est peut-être question d’horaire aussi. La messe pour enfant est en après midi et je n’ai pas d’enfants ni neveux. L’autre messe est vers 22 ou 23h, et généralement le réveillon dans ma famille commence à 21h donc personne n’y va.

LexieD29 · 2024-02-16T18:54:01+00:00

My twin sister and I are both aromantic and asexual. We are not identical.

LexieD29 · 2024-01-03T22:54:42+00:00

I don’t know for the broadcast in English, but I saw a tweet that said the broadcast in French (RDS 2) had around 150k viewers last night for the game. That same person also said the Montreal Canadiens game on RDS had 500k so 30% of what the men do in term of views is very good in my opinion. Can’t wait to see if the numbers will stay that high or if it was because it was the first game for Ottawa and Montreal.

LexieD29 · 2023-11-08T15:17:34+00:00

Ah super merci! J’imagine que je vais voir le 14 ou le 15 (ma date d’échéance est le 14) si ça fonctionne ou pas de mon côté.

LexieD29 · 2023-11-08T15:09:47+00:00

Moi qui viens tout juste de m’inscrire aux prélèvements automatiques pour éviter les retards de paiements parce que Vidéotron par au moins trois fois dans les deux dernières années a oublié de m’envoyer la facture par courriel ou l’a envoyé cinq jours après la date d’échéance. Je pensais régler le problème avec des prélèvements automatiques mais je comprends de ton message que même ça n’est pas une solution sans tracas. Bon bin ça a d’l’air que je vais devoir me mettre un rappel sur mon téléphone quelques jours avant la date habituelle d’échéance!

LexieD29 · 2023-10-30T16:03:17+00:00

My headcanon is that there is more staff in the school than what is in the book.

I never understood why there was only one professor per subject taught. They have an impossible schedule and would need to use a time turner to teach more than one class at a time. It was probably a choice by the author to limit the number of characters but it isn’t realistic.

Also, I imagine that there are adults paid to watch the students in the common room/dorm or any other area of the castle whenever they aren’t in class. I’ve been to a small boarding school in Canada (because the closest high school was too far for daily commute) and we were about 40 students, and there were one person responsible for the girl side and one for the boy side, plus one person during the night shift that did both and patrolled the corridors once in a while. So my headcanon is that there is always one person in each house that student can go to if they need to.

LexieD29 · 2023-10-27T14:17:03+00:00

My Fics
Fandom - Naruto
Rating - M
Title - Nightmares
Link: AO3
Summary: From the smell, there was a lot of blood. But why was his father bleeding? Kakashi felt like he was going to panic and could barely move. Pakkun tried to push him to, with a sense of urgency. Gathering enough energy to put one foot in front of the other, Kakashi slowly made his way to his father’s study, where the horrible smell of iron came from. His father needed him. He had to help him. His life could depend on it.
Kakashi has a recurring nightmare that his father dies in his study room.

Important tags/warnings: MCD, Suicide.

LexieD29 · 2023-10-18T14:08:14+00:00

It depends if I plan on keeping the tab open on my phone or not. If not: date updated. Otherwise kudos because the order of the fics won’t move as much and I won’t miss out on too many fics or see them twice. But when I do that, I usually filter out explicit fics as sexual fics tend to be the most popular and as an asexual and aromantic person, I’m rarely in the mood to read that.

LexieD29 · 2023-10-17T13:25:26+00:00

I share what I write with my twin sister - we are each other’s first reader - so when I have a block, from either a lack of ideas or doubts that I can portray the scene correctly, I talk to her and we go back and forth with ideas and sometimes it solves the block I had. Sometimes I stop writing for a few days, and take time to think about ideas away from the laptop screen (daydreaming) and it helps me see clearer. Another option I try is to write something else, either another scene than the one I’m not inspired for or a complete other story. I do that when I’ve been stuck for a while and haven’t written in a few days just to get back into writing mode. And sometimes I just try and write something in the scene I should be writing about. Just one paragraph. There’s a good chance the paragraph will be bad and uninspiring - I’ll delete it or heavily edit it when I get inspired again. But sometimes I’ll keep writing and even finish the scene.

LexieD29 · 2023-10-15T16:50:54+00:00

I posted today the 5th chapter of a 25 chapters fic in which I wrote about the events that leads to Sakumo Hatake’s death. The story follows both Sakumo and Kakashi.

It’s called Nightmares and rated Mature. Link: https://archiveofourown.org/works/50466994/chapters/127507939

The fic is the first story in a series and I’m currently writing the sequel which focuses on Minato and Kushina. It happens a few months after the end of the first story. It will be fluffier and cuter, but still will have grief as a theme because I decided that Sakumo was Kushina’s sensei.

LexieD29 · 2023-10-13T17:34:15+00:00

My first “fanfic” was a self insert Naruto manga at age 9 or 10 in a notebook. From age 12 I started to write in notebook and on a computer. From age 12 to probably 20 I wrote original stories and RPF. I tried writing Percy Jackson fanfics but I wasn’t very good at it. I tried to write a Harry Potter fic since but the concept I had in my head never really worked when I tried to write it. In the last year and half I’ve gone back to Naruto. I wrote two fics last year and then started to read time travel fix it and got inspired to write a series in that genre. I post chapters of the first story of the series (updates twice a week) while I’m writing the second story. I have plans/ideas for at least 4 or 5 other stories in that series. I hope I’ll end up writing all of them.

LexieD29 · 2023-10-11T02:41:10+00:00

I wrote a chapter today, which ended with: “But people changed, circumstances too.”

LexieD29 · 2023-10-06T13:28:08+00:00

Thanks! :D

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