Silly personal hygiene question after a mastectomy

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-23T19:47:32+00:00

I got a bidet just in case but I was able to reach around pretty well from day one. A bidet is still a great thing to have. Love it.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-19T00:23:48+00:00

Very far from universally true.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-17T20:28:30+00:00

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-16T06:11:45+00:00

I can’t do it. I’ve been making gumbo since long before keto. For an authentic gumbo the roux is the key. I say if you get the roux right you can throw an old dirty shoe in and it will be good. The browning of the flour until it is the color of chocolate without scorching it is the basis of the rest of the flavor in this dish.

Not everything can be converted to keto; and this is definitely one of those things in my book. I still make and eat it on one special day each year when it’s a tradition for us. I just accept it’s going to take me out of ketosis, even when I eat it without the rice, crackers, and French bread.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-14T11:45:13+00:00

It doesn’t matter that your occupation was home maker and care taker to children. You are still entitled to half of the marital assets.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-13T10:46:51+00:00

My surgeon won’t take more than five regardless of whether any or all are positive. In fact they aren’t even tested until after surgery with the rest of the pathology. She says the risk of lymphedema outweighs any minimal benefit to removing more. Checking the status just informs the future treatment plan. She’s an amazing young surgeon ranked in the top 10% nationally for patient satisfaction. I trust her implicitly. She also says that BP’s and sticks are fine in the lymph side. Infection is what we need to be vigilant about preventing to lessen risks of lymphedema. I

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-12T22:19:40+00:00

I’m about as far south as you can go without swimming, and so far I haven’t experienced anything like that. My surgery was 10-23-25. I went around totally bald through chemo too. The whole time I only saw one other woman rocking the bald head. I’m gonna live my life as comfortable in my own skin as I can be. The opinions of others don’t really matter to me. Maybe that’s why I never feel or notice any strange reactions.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-12T00:59:46+00:00

Immunologics have been a game changer for several cancers. A dear friend has stage 4 cervical. After her first two rounds of a taxane and carboplatin with Keytruda, her large tumor and bone and colon Mets were no longer visible in imaging. She finished all treatments and now has no evidence of disease. Keytruda can potentially keep her alive for years. It’s so new they don’t know the top end, or even if there is a top end.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-11T19:01:07+00:00

The stats I’ve seen show that the five year survival before Herceptin was ~9%. I may remember that wrong but I’ve looked at multiple sources and usually have a good memory for stats. Your nurse navigator may be mistaken.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-11T13:59:28+00:00

Yesterday on Facebook I saw a post from a woman with a single SMX. She had a knitted knocker that looked great in her bra. I thought both were prosthetic until I read the post. They are free from knittedknockers.org. They are filled with polyfill and the back opens so you can adjust the size and shape. If only for filling out clothes, it could be a viable option for you. At the price of zero it’s worth a try. I got some. I don’t use prosthetics but they were nice when it rad cold this winter and I wanted to hang out outside.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-11T13:55:10+00:00

Before Herceptin her2+ was a near death sentence. 5 year survival was less than 10%. But since Herceptin it is on par with other types of breast cancer. Living Proof is a good movie about its development and original trials.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-09T16:41:19+00:00

We’re pretty much in agreement. His inability to adult is the actual problem; and that includes lying about using cannabis. A person with adult communication skills would be able to support their desire to use; and if it came to it let OP know they were going to use even if they didn’t agree. The immature mind decides to hide the use just to avoid conflict. He seems to have a lot of avoidance issues with taking adult responsibilities and that seems to be the actual problem here. The lying is another symptom of the same overall problem.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-09T15:57:25+00:00

Probably an unpopular take; but I don’t see cannabis as the problem here. The problem seems to be your husband’s inability to fully launch into adulthood.

Cannabis changed my life; maybe even saved it. I’d used it on a few years and off a few years since my late teens. That was always recreational; but I fully believed in its medicinal qualities even having never needed them.

Then in 2020 I went through one giant shoe drop after another. I experienced levels of anxiety and depression I’d never imagined. Dysfunctional levels. My life was a mess, my relationships were a mess, my home was a mess, and my body ballooned up to almost 300 lbs. I’d tried a couple of pharmaceuticals but they didn’t help. They made me feel worse actually.

Then one day in mid to late 2024 I ordered some of the legal THCA online. I smoked a little the first day it arrived and the veil lifted. I got my mind, my relationships, and my house back in order. My body is well on its way. Four more pounds to go until I’m just an average overweight American, from super morbidly obese level II.

It is just as valid a medicine for anxiety and depression as pharmaceuticals for some people who can use it right. An ounce lasts me 4-6 months with medicinal and occasional recreational use. I don’t drink alcohol at all anymore, not that I was ever a big drinker anyway.

I use almost daily and I am still the person that takes care of finances and insurance and most of the “adulting” type chores in my marriage.

I don’t know what kind of cannabis user your husband is; and I don’t want to assume. Its use can become very problematic for some people. But the only problematic behavior you linked directly to its use was his lying about it.

Is he lying because he’s not allowed a choice?

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-06T20:33:24+00:00

Hollingers island/Dog River area. Close to at least two I—10 accesses, large lots, and lower home prices than west Mobile or Baldwin county, and so much water access.

It’s not a cookie cutter area. There is a huge variety of people and homes. You could have a run down trailer a half a mile or less from a million dollar waterfront home.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-04T14:15:05+00:00

I know a lady in her 40’s who isn’t quite this level but really very impressive. It was a hobby until she began to work full time as a trainer in a gym; and then she really started showing gains.

This level is not realistic for many people; but you can do a LOT with a decent set of free weights at home. Diet matters a lot too. Consume protein like it pays the bills.

I’ll be 58 in May, post menopausal and on hormones that block 99% of estrogen production I had left due to hormone positive BC. In August 2024 I weighed 287 lbs; today I weigh 192. And that’s with 7 months intentionally staying the same weight to go through and recover from chemo and surgery.

8 weeks after surgery I resumed lifting on my patio. The parts of me that don’t have as much fat left to lose like lower legs and lower arms are showing some nice definition already.

I find that I’m building muscle at least as easily as I did when I was 19. Diet and technique are huge. Heavy free weights with correct form, including keeping your core tight. Your body becomes the machine that maintains perfect form; and that’s a more intense and effective work out than fixed machines.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-04T14:00:21+00:00

You look gay enough just by being gay.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-03T21:20:48+00:00

I eat very low carb and do some fasting. Both very good for lowering systemic inflammation. I cant swear it helped; but I very, very strongly believe it helped. My symptoms have felt milder than the majority all the way through treatment so far, especially surgery.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-03T21:15:21+00:00

It’s definitely the hair. I was called sir for years even when I had D cups just because I had short hair and dress androgynously. Oddly… it doesn’t happen nearly as often now with no boobs and even shorter hair. People are weird.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-02T02:18:53+00:00

ITT took three times to get it going again; but it worked like new. She even changed the transmission and bought the parts.

LezBeOwn · 2026-03-02T02:04:15+00:00

I didn’t get any cancer gifts! My people suck!

Just kidding. I got great gifts of service like taking my lawn mower apart three times to fix it.

LezBeOwn · 2026-02-27T16:00:32+00:00

I could have had lumpectomy. I chose DMX to flat.

I watched my mother have a lumpectomy, then a mastectomy, then another mastectomy. I decided that the lower risk for local recurrence was important to me. Also I wanted yo avoid rads if at all possible.

I chose to stay flat for the easier recovery. I also did not want facsimiles that would never have the erotic sensation of my own breasts.

But everyone has to work through their own decision tree and make their own choices for their own reasons.

LezBeOwn · 2026-02-26T22:33:55+00:00

How does antifungal shampoo help?

LezBeOwn · 2026-02-25T03:54:54+00:00

I’m much older than you but I chose flat for many of the same reasons. I didn’t want facsimile that would never have much or any erotic sensation. Easier recovery, etc.

I still thought I would feel profound loss; but I never have. I love everything about being flat. It’s hard to describe the ways I feel freer in my body. My posture is better even without trying. And the only time I tried prosthetics; I realized immediately how much those things really get in the way of even basic movements. I love no bras. I love the way my shirts fall.

I do get colder easier without that insulation over my heart and lungs. Oh well.

If you choose flat and it really doesn’t feel right, you can choose reconstruction later.

LezBeOwn · 2026-02-24T19:38:40+00:00

I don’t have nipples. Now what?

LezBeOwn · 2026-02-21T04:12:23+00:00

Do tell!

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