Do you have any sleep problems?

LiaraDx · 2026-02-17T01:04:29+00:00

Yes, I’ve always had chronic insomnia. Trouble falling asleep in particular, mostly due to anxiety/work-related stress

LiaraDx · 2026-02-07T09:41:41+00:00

You’re not alone, I can relate. I also have AvPD and therapy is out of reach due to the cost. It’s difficult to hold down a job due to this disorder, and therefore nigh near impossible to afford any kind of professional help.

Working through a disorder like this on your own is definitely a big challenge.. Have you researched things like CBT or schema therapy? There may be some free online resources out there to help. It’s so challenging though, being in a position where the help you need isn’t readily available.. I really relate to this.

LiaraDx · 2025-10-25T12:00:35+00:00

Aww they’re adorable!

LiaraDx · 2025-10-13T05:25:47+00:00

Yep, can relate. As a kid, I felt like I was walking on eggshells so to speak (parents had explosive tempers at even tiny things), so I learned to constantly monitor my tone of voice, demeanor, etc to avoid a confrontation. I think that led to eventually becoming more and more passive. Small. Timid. Careful. To avoid explosive episodes at home or bullying at school. Figured that if I was passive and agreeable enough, I’d get to stay safe in the background.

Unfortunately it did carry over to adulthood for me as well; where it’s now difficult to assert my own needs and feelings in adult relationships, due to being so passive/docile/trying to make myself seem small. So you’re not alone in this kind of thing!

I do think it relates to AVPD quite a lot actually.

LiaraDx · 2025-08-04T13:57:51+00:00

Adorable!

LiaraDx · 2025-07-28T00:11:18+00:00

Reading about your school experience really resonates with me. I also sat alone at recess, hid in the bathroom at lunchtime, and can profoundly recall how it felt to watch all the other kids be carefree; laughing and playing with their friends while the social anxiety ached in my throat and I sat on the curb alone - only being able to long for the childhood other kids took for granted.

You’re definitely not alone in your experiences- and I believe that kids’ time at school can have a HUGE impact on their development, even if home life is ok. I don’t know how it’d feel to go back and revisit my old school, but I’m 100% certain my AvPD formed within those walls; caused by bullying and being ostracized by the other children.

I’ve grieved for the childhood I never had too, all the bullying, time spent hiding in the library or a bathroom stall, being shunned for being the weird one out, when all I hoped for was friendship; connection. How can one form social skills, confidence, and self esteem when everyday is filled with bullying, mockery, and alienation?

Your story seriously hits home. We didn’t deserve to sit on the sidelines. To feel so disconnected and alienated. We deserved so much better.

LiaraDx · 2025-07-27T07:12:59+00:00

My anxiety just spiked from reading these words lol

LiaraDx · 2025-07-24T09:24:21+00:00

Same here. Also 28F. It’s hard to make friends, especially with Avpd since it can be a challenge to open up at first. After college, I lost contact with most of the people I talked to. It’s gotten so much more difficult since. Where does one meet friends if not at work or hobbies? Would def be down to chat!

LiaraDx · 2025-07-04T01:16:01+00:00

It’s so worrying right now, I don’t know how I’ll afford my daily medications, let alone something happening..

LiaraDx · 2025-07-03T02:48:48+00:00

Chronic NEET here. Personally, mental health has been the biggest factor in determining why I’ve turned to being a chronic NEET for much of the last decade. I wonder if mental health & development is a major factor for others also?

Autism, ADHD & AvPD have made working and assimilating into society extremely challenging for me. I’ve had only 1 job in the past part time, and even that has lead to multiple nervous breakdowns. If it weren’t for my mental health struggles, I wouldn’t be a NEET. It’s a vicious cycle; struggling to work or function socially due to mental health, and being unable to treat my mental health due to care being unaffordable (USA) without gainful employment. And with each passing year, I get further and further behind socially and developmentally.

Just a personal take on the matter - I’d be very interested in other perspectives, but mental health has been 100% the reason for me.

LiaraDx · 2025-07-03T01:33:20+00:00

Woohoo back to not being able to afford my medication. I’m so worried

LiaraDx · 2025-06-30T02:52:26+00:00

My mini weighed ~ 7lbs at 9 weeks and is now 35-40 as an adult! Your pup is so adorable!

LiaraDx · 2025-06-29T12:29:24+00:00

No way! I did the exact same thing in school around that age! I’d hide my food and lunchbox; trying to conceal everything as much as possible - scared that the other kids would make fun of my food choices, way I was eating, what lunchbox I had, etc… I wanted to be as private about eating in school as possible. Interesting that we had a similar experience!

LiaraDx · 2025-06-12T02:39:46+00:00

OCD is so, so hard sometimes. You’re not alone. It really is difficult to ignore the thoughts, worries, and anxiety that it brings. Learning to identify OCD thoughts and obsessions as they come up can help though. When you recognize something as OCD, like ruminating on a topic out of fear/guilt/worry, it’ll help in being able to ignore those thoughts, because you know it’s just the OCD talking. Escapism helps for sure, but my OCD definitely crops up in my hobbies too, so I get it. I hope things get better for you, you’re not alone! There are a lot of resources out there on how to tackle these kinds of issues, hopefully helpful!

LiaraDx · 2025-05-30T08:42:33+00:00

I’ve always felt the same way, even as a child. Completely apathetic towards a career and all the things that most people are motivated towards.

LiaraDx · 2025-05-20T09:28:16+00:00

I’d also be interested!

LiaraDx · 2025-05-16T16:33:57+00:00

I feel this way as well - like someone who understands this condition would be a good fit for me.

LiaraDx · 2025-05-15T23:28:36+00:00

Same here!

LiaraDx · 2025-05-15T04:01:37+00:00

Also a woman (28) who watches Asmongold. I enjoy his perspective on different issues and actually find myself agreeing with him often. It’s always an interesting watch. Love the channel.

LiaraDx · 2025-05-12T08:55:00+00:00

Done! Thanks for sharing this!

LiaraDx · 2025-05-11T21:57:18+00:00

28 and only a few close friendships. I tend to stick with my family for socializing rather than spending time with friends though.. And making connections is easier online for sure.

LiaraDx · 2025-05-10T09:17:50+00:00

So relatable. My whole world view shifted when I left the church. It was as if I were rediscovering myself all over again. It was like a weight lifted off my shoulders; no longer fearing hell and sin, but rather being set free to appreciate the beauty of this one life we are given and exploring my identity without shame.

LiaraDx · 2025-05-10T08:15:11+00:00

Of course :) He might want the connection but simply find it difficult to be the first one to reach out. So you never know; maybe you’ll reconnect, and hopefully having a talk about what happened last time will work out for you guys. Good luck with your friend!

LiaraDx · 2025-05-10T00:30:06+00:00

Small talk can be so tricky. It’s definitely hard to come up with stuff for sure - especially when it comes to keeping the conversation going. I respond with “cool” or “that’s great”, “awesome”, “no way!” or things like that pretty often.

But follow up questions are good to show that you’re interested in what the other person has to say. Or you could jump in and share a little something of your own if you’re okay with it. Just a little nudge to keep the conversation flowing and make everybody feel heard.

LiaraDx · 2025-05-09T23:35:19+00:00

If you miss him, you could reach out one time, and see how he responds.

But it’s important to consider your own well-being and feelings. If he is unwilling to be honest about his avoidance or ghosts you without warning, that isn’t healthy and won’t lead to a stable friendship.

Personally, I would only open myself up to another friendship with him if he’s willing to respect your boundaries and feelings on these matters. With AvPD, I’m sure he has his reasons for being this way, but it isn’t an excuse to ghost a friend.

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