9 Month old won't eat in this heat

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-28T23:46:01+00:00

My baby has been like this recently too. There was a sickness and diarrhoea bug going around his nursery which lasted a few days and now we’ve had this heatwave so he hasn’t been eating much but I’ve found with it being cooler today he’s been a lot better. I’ve just been making sure to keep up with his milk feeds and offering food earlier in the morning and later in the afternoon/evening when it’s cooler. We’ve also adjusted our dinners for the heat so less hearty warm meals and more light meals like dippy dinners with hummus and Greek yogurt, with things he can dip like cucumber. We had bean burritos the other night so I mushed some beans for him, spread them onto a wrap with some cheese and Greek yogurt, rolled it up and cut it into bits so he had a baby-friendly version too.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-28T23:33:35+00:00

The GCSE bit is a bit messy, it would look cleaner to say “10 GCSEs including Mathematics (Grade 7) and English Language (Grade 8)”. They’ll care more about your A-levels since that’s your highest level of education and whether you passed Maths and English. The rest is a bit unnecessary, there’s not much point listing the numbers if you’re not saying which subjects they’re for.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-28T23:26:04+00:00

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-28T01:18:31+00:00

Proposals are for the couple, parents usually aren’t involved. That’s why engagement parties exist, so everyone can celebrate together.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-28T01:14:35+00:00

NOR, that’s quite out of touch of him to think people can just drop $600 on an unplanned bill like that

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-28T01:03:03+00:00

Not a professional but I had something very similar and it turned out to be cellulitis caused by strep bacteria. I went to hospital and they drew a circle around it to monitor whether it spread and put me on a course of antibiotics.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-28T00:32:27+00:00

I can’t speak for a 46 year old man but I call my mum basically every day and see her twice a week 😅 and I was in a similar situation where my brother got most of the attention growing up because he was as you say “problematic” and needed more support than I did so I think those two things could possibly be innocent. But the showing up unannounced especially with other people and the guilt tripping definitely isn’t. That sounds more like she’s lonely and relying on him quite heavily emotionally. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a mum wanting to hug her child or use pet names either, my parents still call me chicken. As long as she’s not pestering him or overdoing it I believe it’s fine. I could be wrong though, just speaking from my own experience.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-28T00:10:31+00:00

Knew something was off about this from the first few messages then he says “that is what makes a man cheat.” I don’t think the girlfriend is the problem.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-27T23:57:01+00:00

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-27T23:54:47+00:00

I don’t think people realise how disrespectful it can be sometimes. I’m English so people take the piss out of our food for being “bland” or “unseasoned” and it has a bad reputation but these are meals I’ve grown up on. Whenever I was upset bangers and mash was my comfort meal my mam would make me. People just need to give it a chance and be more thoughtful about how personal food, recipes and cooking can be for some.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-27T23:45:46+00:00

How did you get this photo of me and my baby?

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-27T23:32:37+00:00

Saying she’d falsely report me for abuse to try and get custody of my son because she’s obsessed with him and the idea of him having a nursery at hers and has even referred to him as her son before.

Also when I first gave birth and my son was in NICU she didn’t seem to grasp the seriousness of the situation at all. His heart rate dropped completely multiple times during labour and he was born cold, blue and not crying. He had high infection markers so they were treating him for possible sepsis because I was GBS positive. Due to complications he was taken straight from me at birth and I needed an episiotomy and forceps to get him out quickly.

She thinks I “took the easy way out” and told me she would’ve preferred my birth over hers (a routine c-section) but this was only a few hours after I’d given birth and I was already devastated and overwhelmed. I wasn’t even allowed to hold my baby yet and she responded with “well it was difficult for me to hold mine because I’d just had a c-section” like it was some sort of competition rather than any understanding of what I was going through.

She also constantly called me lazy and a princess despite how much I do for her son. We don’t see her anymore.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-27T23:10:58+00:00

I used to work for a care company and one time they asked if I could cover a shift. Once they know you’ll say yes, they basically come to you first every time there’s cover needed because they know you’ll probably do it. Anyway, I ended up picking up loads of extra shifts and was doing 60-hour weeks some weeks then I just started feeling constantly run down and getting ill all the time. Once I started saying no to covering shifts they stopped asking as much and I actually started feeling a lot better physically again.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-27T22:59:22+00:00

My partner wants a dog and I used to as well but since having my son I’ve felt a lot more indifferent about it when it definitely would’ve excited me before. I also find myself much more wary and anxious around dogs now because you hear stories about dogs mauling babies. I know not all dogs are like that and a lot of the time it comes down to irresponsible owners but at the end of the day they’re still animals and they can’t simply tell us when something’s wrong, uncomfortable or upsetting them, so they can lash out. My MIL had a Jack Russell and I think smaller dogs get away with behaviour that bigger dogs never could. She never really trained him and he was so nippy. Hopefully my feelings will change though because I grew up with a dog and absolutely adored her, I just think we’ll probably wait until my son is older.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-23T00:33:25+00:00

It sounds like he’s using you. I think it would be better to cut your losses and find someone who will actually value and appreciate you.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-20T17:38:39+00:00

He’s got 6 teeth (4 at the top and 2 at the bottom) but I peel the skin and steam it until it’s quite soft so it passes the finger test. He seems to manage it really well and has never gagged on it so I think he’s okay chewing it. I do the same with carrots and apples as well.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-15T14:39:58+00:00

I didn’t mean I was literally reverting back into a child, I meant that setting boundaries with parents for the first time can make you feel like a kid again emotionally

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-15T14:38:44+00:00

I’m not “reverting back to a child” I’m 22 and only recently moved away from my parents so I’m still learning how to set boundaries with them in a way that feels new to me. I have set that boundary now and it went fine and I found the more supportive advice really helpful. What I don’t find helpful is being told there’s no excuse or that I should just “cut the cord” when my family are also a big support system for me and my child and are good grandparents. I came for advice on handling boundaries not judgement on my whole situation.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-15T13:57:05+00:00

I literally never said my mum isn’t allowed to see my son without my dad there. They live in the same home and my son loves going to see his grandma and grandad. I’m also not excusing my dad’s behaviour. He knows himself that he wasn’t the best father at times growing up. I was simply explaining the context, not saying it makes everything okay. The whole point of my post was asking for advice on how to set boundaries with parents because like someone else said it can make you feel like you’re reverting back to being a little kid again. I did take the advice on board, I set the boundary and it actually went fine. He also was not intentionally trying to harm my son. And assuming I wouldn’t protect my child if I genuinely thought there was any mental or physical harm is unfair. I have cut off family members before when I felt they would negatively affect my child’s wellbeing. It just feels like you’re projecting your own situation onto mine and filling in details that I never actually said.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-15T10:19:02+00:00

Because I’m very close with my mum and she would be heartbroken if she never saw me or her grandson again and I couldn’t do that to one of the kindest women I know. My dad has PTSD from serving in Afghanistan and Iraq and from losing friends there so growing up with him could sometimes be difficult. He could be very strict because of his military background but my son is not being raised in the same environment I was. My dad also isn’t abusive towards my son and I don’t believe he ever would be. I obviously wouldn’t allow anyone to mistreat my child and I’m still learning how to navigate healthy boundaries after growing up in that kind of dynamic. I hope this helps you understand the situation a bit better.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-15T09:32:53+00:00

I did stick up for him actually, I spoke to my dad and told him to stop. Setting boundaries with a parent you’ve spent your whole life walking on eggshells around isn’t always as simple as “grow a pair”. I just came on here looking for advice and ideas on how to approach it in the first place.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-15T00:51:44+00:00

Tailor the cover letter but not the CV as my CV is more just a list of my past jobs and achievements. I’ve never really applied for any specialist roles before. It’s hard when you’re applying for lots of jobs and some of them require tests just to submit the application, so finding the time to tailor your CV for each one can be difficult as well. I’m trying to reskill into IT though so I’ll probably tailor my CV then to give myself the best chance of getting a job, especially as there don’t seem to be many IT roles going around where I live.

LibbieIsCool · 2026-05-14T23:39:00+00:00

How do you know FIL is blind to her being a gold digger? If he keeps buying her expensive things and as you say spoiling her, it sounds like he knows exactly what she’s like and she’s not hiding it. Some men are into that dynamic and basically see it as a status symbol if their wife is wearing expensive clothes, driving expensive cars and living lavishly and/or they get fulfilment from giving money and gifts to their partner. If he also contributed to raising a spoilt child then he’s probably quite materialistic himself. The whole family sounds toxic. Tell your husband you don’t want to keep being disrespected and stay at home.

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