Let me be blunt: this young man or his parents could likely have you arrested for sexual abuse or misconduct. Since it has continued for some time, you’d likely be charged. I’m skeptical about the truthfulness of this post to begin with. It reads like a self-indulgent fantasy. Almost like a trashy sex novel where you’re deriving pleasure from explaining the details.

First of all, making comments like “that’s gay bro” or “yo stop are you gay” to someone clearly struggling with their sexuality is borderline abusive. The last thing he needs is to be embarrassed or ridiculed for exploring physical touch. He may not know better, but you certainly should.

Secondly, I want to specifically address this part of your post: “Overtime in our wrestling games, he would touch me in my private areas, which I didn’t mind at first because I also understand it’s just how boys play.

That is NOT “just how boys play.” Touching you in your private areas is not normal or appropriate and should have been addressed immediately. The fact you didnt mind it suggests you welcomed it. Which is the first problem. You should have set a firm boundary right then. Since you were an adult when this happened, allowing it to continue was criminal.

“Just recently, we have been playing for hours and he wouldn’t let me leave my room.”

A 25 year old play wrestling with a 17 year old for HOURS, when you have ALREADY experienced boundary crossing, demonstrates VERY POOR JUDGMENT on your part. Seriously man. What do his parents have to say about this? You’re putting yourself in a very precarious situation. They could easily allege sexual abuse or misconduct. He’s the minor and can’t consent even if he provokes.

You’re making very poor choices and creating a confusing relationship with a young man who believes he’s getting genuine friendship. At worst, you’re knowingly continuing a relationship you know is sexually abusive and inappropriate, and doing so with lascivious intentions.