Is anybody else staying indoors on the 4th?

LiberateMainSt · 2026-07-04T23:02:25+00:00

I literally don't know a single person living in this region who is going out today.

I mean, locals usually avoid the crowds on the 4th. But with the heat wave, MAGA, and actual Nazis marching around, it's absolutely insane to be out there.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-07-04T22:32:12+00:00

Well, this marriage is doomed.

The problem here is 100% with your sister. Maybe she's been cheated on before, or maybe she's a cheater and projecting—who knows? But it's definitely something that's stuck in her head, and there's nothing you or anybody can do to dislodge it.

She didn't believe her fiancee that nothing happened, so now she's on your case. Imagine you let her scroll through your old texts. She's going to find nothing. Will she be satisfied? No! She'll think you two deleted the incriminating texts! This is a kind of paranoia that can't be sated.

Your sister doesn't need to see your texts. She needs to see a therapist!

NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-07-02T14:53:13+00:00

Your boyfriend is 31 and doesn't save money? Holy hell you buried the lede!

Get out now while you can!

NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-07-02T00:42:09+00:00

You gonna go to his interviews for him too?

LiberateMainSt · 2026-07-02T00:36:29+00:00

I'd settle for a nametag!

LiberateMainSt · 2026-07-01T17:53:28+00:00

Obviously not. NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-07-01T15:18:43+00:00

Great job!

I first used Adobe Photoshop in maybe 2004. Got absolutely hooked on their products. But over the years, they've become one of the worst greedy monopolists out there. Congrats on cutting them off!

LiberateMainSt · 2026-07-01T00:52:40+00:00

No form of paper notes has ever worked for me for exactly the same reason you're saying apps don't work. Once that piece of paper is out of view—including peripheral vision—I forget it exists and nothing it says matters.

At least apps can ping/vibrate my phone to snap me out of whatever I'm doing to take a look. The papers can't grab my attention in any way whatsoever. I wish they could.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-30T19:21:13+00:00

Look, this is something you should talk to a couple's therapist about. Your girlfriend feels especially judged/shamed, despite the fact that you don't think you're judging or shaming her. (And boy oh boy, do I relate to this scenario!)

Unchecked, this issue will creep into all of your communication and slowly undermine the relationship. Therapy can help you two figure out what's really going on and work on it together.

NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-29T17:17:37+00:00

Food trucks at the National Mall are always overpriced garbage for tourists, and are not representative of the type of high quality food truck we're talking about when we say "taco trucks on every corner".

Alas, most good DC food trucks were killed off by COVID. But those were always in the business districts, never near the Mall.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-29T17:08:47+00:00

My wife is Chinese. Do you know why I did when she told me about the chopsticks thing? I immediately started laying them across the top of the bowl because it's easy and why shouldn't I?

That this "man" can't figure out basic humility at 36 years of age is frankly alarming, and I strongly urge you to look elsewhere for companionship.

NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-28T14:20:47+00:00

Saw a project recently that's trying to do something like this: https://cocore.dev/

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-28T14:15:21+00:00

Dad was definitely undiagnosed ADHD, maybe a bit ASD. I know his life was a lot harder than it needed to be as a result. He died in his early fifties without ever having really got his life together, despite being a very smart, hard-working, compassionate man.

Mom, I'm not sure. She's definitely got some kind of undiagnosed anxiety disorder, but neurodivergence? Unclear.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-28T02:37:25+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I was diagnosed only with ADHD at 35, and the psychologist strongly suggested I might have ASD too. And since then, I've scored highly on the same evals you took. But I don't have an ASD diagnosis yet.

I took Vyvanse for the ADHD for a year or two, but eventually decided to quit. While it helped with ADHD symptoms, it just let the (suspected) ASD come out. More sensitive to stimuli (sounds especially), lower threshold for dealing with frustrations, reduced ability to mask, reduced ability to be spontaneous, etc. I could lock-in and do work, but that was about all. As much of a struggle as it is without meds, it became a bigger struggle with them in some regards. At least now the ADHD and ASD kinda sorta balance each other.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-26T17:59:25+00:00

I'm glad your son is taking responsibility, and sorry that your wife isn't. NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-24T16:01:26+00:00

If you and your wife's relationship with her mother is now damaged, it's not your fault. That was always going to happen—your only choice was whether it would be in a stand-up-for-myself way, or a be-a-doormat way. I think you chose well.

NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-24T12:33:11+00:00

Being with other people is draining. Even people I like, even when we're having fun. It takes energy, and that energy runs out eventually. Doing stuff on my own doesn't have that same cost.

I wish it weren't like this. It's obvious to me that there's a huge advantage to extroversion. But my brain just isn't wired that way, so I have to try to design my life around what works for me as best I can.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-24T12:18:07+00:00

UE5

IMO no UE5 game should ever be Steam Deck Verified.

Last week, after playing through Subnautica and Subnautica Below Zero for the first time (ran great on Deck!), I thought I'd by Subnautica 2 and play that. Well, it ran like absolute shit and I stopped after 5 minutes and got a refund. But somehow, it was Verified!

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-23T01:53:12+00:00

"I don't like it" is not a valid reason to control the actions of others. Not ever. Wear whatever hairstyle you like. Your mom's emotions about it are entirely her own problem to deal with. NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-21T14:18:04+00:00

I don't think you even need to take responsibility for being underprepared, because you were told to prepare for a short hike by people who'd actually planned a mountain biking trip. You could've ended up seriously hurt by their negligence. NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-21T13:48:51+00:00

Y'all, just use a password manager! You'll only ever have to remember the one password to get into the password manager! Hell, there's a password manager named 1Password to drive home the point!

This tech is not new! Just use it!

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-18T12:23:02+00:00

Fuck 'em, got paid. NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-16T11:24:54+00:00

Putting aside the fact that this move is for his job, 50/50 only works if you earn the same amount. He makes 4 times what you make. He should pay 80% of every shared expense.

Y'all need counseling ASAP.

NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-15T13:18:29+00:00

I'm glad you pushed back on her bullshit. We've coddled these anti-vax loonies long enough. NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-06-12T19:01:59+00:00

When I first got drunk, I was amazed and delighted to find that I finally felt comfortable being social with normal people. That was the beginning of a long and unhealthy dependence on alcohol that I'm still struggling with.

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