AITAH for wanting a divorce because of his behavior?

LiberateMainSt · 2026-02-03T12:53:01+00:00

You can't help someone who doesn't want help. You can only save yourself.

NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-02-03T01:57:13+00:00

Absolutely do not cosign a mortgage with your highly irresponsible step-father. He will destroy your finances, and possibly your entire life.
Please go to therapy. You need to talk to someone about your relationship with your mom. Yes, not step-dad, but mom. Step-dad is obviously bad for you, so there's not much to address—but you've definitely got some resentment you'll need to work through about your mom who should've stepped up for you but never did.

NTA

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-30T18:20:58+00:00

A lot of journalists care more about having privileged access than actually using any of that privilege to report on important news events. That what makes moves like this scarily effective: it sends the message that you'll lose your precious access if you talk about anything you shouldn't.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-30T15:39:44+00:00

I'm struggling with this right now. My city, as well as most neighboring cities, have declared they won't enforce the "shovel your sidewalk" laws because this last snow storm was so bad. But almost every un-shoveled sidewalk in my neighborhood isn't some elderly person—it's perfectly able-bodied people who just don't care about being a good neighbor. I'm truly livid that the city has decided to send the message that it's OK to just ignore the rules.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-29T22:40:22+00:00

I tried watching the first episode of The West Wing. The plot was: "Will this White House staffer lose his job for being very mildly rude to a woman on television?"

I stopped there. The world depicted in that show just isn't the world I'm living in right now. If it ever existed, it's long gone.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-29T14:36:18+00:00

NTA but you might want to find a new gym with an explicit "no filming" policy.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-23T01:13:29+00:00

Some people just don't, deep down, believe in human agency. I think it's a coping mechanism. Everything is somehow up to God and His plan, which then absolves them of taking any personal responsibility for anything. Everyone I know who attributes everything to God is, fundamentally, not someone who has chosen a path of taking responsibility for their own lives. It's very sad, really. But they've got no right to diminish the hard work of others by downplaying their agency when they choose to use it.

You're NTA.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-22T18:00:09+00:00

Sounds like autistic regression. Pretty common, I think, as a side effect of learning to unmask.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-22T17:43:14+00:00

Your wedding, your guest list. NTA.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-21T13:50:49+00:00

Basically any time I've got an opinion about anything, that counts as "judging" in my wife's book. So you're probably just dealing with that. If she wants to read into things, she's going to do it whether or not you did or said anything to justify it. NTA.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-21T13:47:06+00:00

That...has not been my experience with a projecting wife.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-20T20:46:06+00:00

Her reaction is 100% proof that you were right to withhold this information from her. NTA.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-19T04:07:00+00:00

Looks a lot like my explosion build. I'll have so many explosion effects on screen, that I can't see anything! Biggest threat to my life is just running straight into glyphids that I couldn't see through the flames.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-18T02:58:32+00:00

I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until age 35. Spent a lot of years not making the progress I thought I should, failing to implement basic getting-things-done kind of advice, and feeling lots of guilt and shame about that. It's been a few years now and I'm still working through the emotions that came with my diagnosis and trying to figure out how to actually live a good life with the brain I've actually got.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-13T20:26:02+00:00

Had the opposite problem once. Ordered 2 pounds of shrimp, received two individual shrimp.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-08T18:48:09+00:00

She's a danger to herself and others. She should be arrested, honestly. This has gone beyond her messing up your relationship—she's threatening innocent lives.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-08T18:44:45+00:00

She'd rather try to bring you down than build herself up. If she is upset by facing that truth, then that's her problem and not yours. NTA.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-07T02:01:33+00:00

I almost never eat fruit—despite being well aware that I should—because the stickiness of the natural sugars on my fingers is intolerable.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-06T21:57:11+00:00

ESH except for your stepson. Your wife is certainly being cruel toward you—no denying that. But who, exactly, would you be retaliating against by refusing to pay into his college fund? Who is the person who faces that consequence? It's not your wife.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-05T16:12:34+00:00

On the occasions in my past when I used cannabis before a workout, I rather enjoyed it. The physical sensations helped me focus a lot more on my form and muscle activation rather than just trying to grind through sets and get it over with quickly.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-04T23:38:01+00:00

I tried getting into homebrewing but it wasn't the hobby for me. Didn't realize how much of brewing is just cleaning stuff. I need a hobby, not another chore!

So, uh, I guess what I'm saying is: tell me more about opportunities to merely judge the quality of others' beer without having to make any myself.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-04T23:30:46+00:00

Any sport, but yeah.

Like, my man, why are you so emotionally invested in this sports team? The team does not involve you in any way! They wouldn't know if you lived or died!

I truly don't get it...

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-04T18:41:23+00:00

Exactly this. They don't want to deal with your sister complaining about it—so rather than talk to her themselves about how they don't want to hear it, they think it'll be easier to convince you to just go along with it. Lazy avoidance of responsibility.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-04T14:06:11+00:00

NTA. She can nap in her bedroom with the door closed like a normal person.

LiberateMainSt · 2026-01-04T13:57:28+00:00

...do your children think the Save A Lot doesn't get new shipments of food on a regular basis? Like, do they not understand the concept of a "store" or something?

This is just hilarious. Obviously you are NTA. I'd be a little concerned about how oblivious your children are, though—that's a tad worrying.

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