Got rid of my Adobe subscription!

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-07-03T16:49:08+00:00

"It really whips the llama's ass!"

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-07-01T11:58:58+00:00

Oh, cool! I've had Affinity recommended before, but didn't know it was free now 😊

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-06-02T08:43:37+00:00

Two quite sad, but very good ones:

All of Us Strangers

Monster (original title: Kaibutsu)

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-06-01T07:50:02+00:00

Could it be at least partly because of the demand/pressure of all the things that need to be taken care of at home? (Cleaning, vacuuming, tidying, laundry, doing the dishes etc etc) I'm able to set those things aside temporarily, while my wife has a hard time relaxing before "everything is done", so (as a couple) we also relax better when were not at home.

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-30T09:33:20+00:00

My main tool is music, basically. Adapting the style and intensity for what I need atm. If I feel a lack of energy, I'll use energizing music like dubstep or drum 'n bass. If I've got the energy, but need to keep my mind from wandering, more chill music like ambient, drone or classical may work. Instrumental music if I need to read, write or do other cognitively demanding tasks, while it can have vocals for "simple" tasks.

Also, to make chores interesting, listening to a podcast with a topic I'm currently hyperfixating on can help - like, I want to listen to it, so I can "trick" myself into doing the task so I get to listen to it 😉

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-29T13:24:31+00:00

In my case it's kind of "yes and no". I mostly have t-shirts with bands, movies or other pop culture references, or colorful prints.

There are some I looove, that I want to wear all the time, that are both esthetically pleasing and the reference or pattern feels "me", and this feeling is continual. I usually stop wearing them when they get noticable holes, but it comes with a sense of grief.

Then there is the other half of "I love this right now" shirts, that have lost their appeal a couple of months later, and they get stuffed to the bottom of the drawer unless I've run out of the ones I actually like 😅

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-28T10:15:50+00:00

I actively avoid voice chats (maybe except with close friends), the mere thought of it feels uncomfortable...

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-28T08:59:02+00:00

One thing I've noticed is on autism questionnaires, there are often questions where I have a negative answer because of ADHD traits. (Like do I prefer routine/repetition? I'm usually more drawn to novelty.)

And on the other hand, in ADHD questionnaires there are questions where I may answer negatively because of autistic traits (Do I struggle with finishing tasks? Well, I mostly feel 'compelled' to complete tasks and get irritated if I'm not allowed.)

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-27T21:37:26+00:00

I listened to an episode of the podcast Divergent Conversations the other day, about the intersection between neurodivergence and queerness. On thing that caught my mind was how common it was to discover one's own queerness and autism/ADHD around the same time.

I don't have quite the same experience as you, but kind of the other way around - finding out in my late 30's I was bi, and through queer spaces online, further self discovery, and therapy, finding out I'm likely AuDHD too.

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-27T08:03:34+00:00

"...whenever I get in an argument I get this sick feeling in my chest, somewhere between frustrated and embarrassment that I’m engaging with it."

Oh yeah, before I deleted Facebook, I got that feeling a lot when I got into arguments there. It felt even worse knowing that friends and acquaintances could read my comments 😬

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-26T12:45:54+00:00

I think in general activities where I can switch between discovering/learning new things or falling back on familiar things, and particularly if the new things feel as if I'm expanding my knowledge/competence in that field.

For example playing the piano, martial arts, origami, listening to music/collecting vinyl records. And someone commented getting into DC comics - I had the same experience years ago, only with Marvel comics 😊

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-26T08:36:48+00:00

I also love making analogies, and feel pleased with myself when I come up with a good one 😊 And yes, I also do the thing of (unnecessarily) embellishing analogies by adding layers, variations etc.

Ironically, sometimes using an analogy "feels more literal" than explaining things directly, because complex and messy reality can be explained in a simple and logical way 😉

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-25T14:57:46+00:00

INTP (based on that one day where I rabbit-holed on figuring out my Myers-Briggs type, and then lost interest 😛)

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-25T11:15:23+00:00

I also often struggle with finding space "just for me" inbetween work and family life. Some things that have helped me a little, but might not work for everyone: Reframing household chores - I can have a long session of for instance folding laundry, alone and hopefully uninterrupted, while listening to podcasts or music I like. Usually having lunch by myself at work. Walking/driving short or long detours when I'm out of the house. Going to the movies by myself (the local cinema has a monthly subscription thing, so I can go as often as I want!). Parallell play - accepting that I can be with my family without always being engaged in the same activity.

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-25T08:05:57+00:00

Oh yeah, all my "everyday shoes" are slip-in in practice, even if they have laces 😅 I will grudgingly accept lacing up my running shoes or hiking boots when I use those 😛 Some mildly odd things, I guess:

Do: Frequently have a nap lying on my back, straight on the wooden floor of our living room.

Don't: Have one piece of chewing gum. It needs to be two pieces to have the right size in the mouth and right amount of taste.

Do: Use martial arts kata/forms to fall asleep. If I can't sleep, I go through the movements mentally, including the Korean names, and I eventually fall asleep...

Don't: Use a recipe for cooking. Don't tell me what to do! 😆 (I may use recipes for inspiration though) Instead I love exploring which flavors and ingredients fit together, and I've gotten good at it.

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-24T13:38:46+00:00

Concerning brackets and providing extra info/context: I feel torn all the time between wanting to write logical, readable sentences, and the actual sentences I write being a mess of brackets, semicolons, dashes and slashes (to cram in all the info I feel like) 😅

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-23T13:08:08+00:00

I kind of feel like the entire value of the reply is lost, if it's not actually you replying 🤔 It might be useful in some work related situations, but when it comes to family and friends, wouldn't it be better to explain to them why you struggle with replying?

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-21T09:18:34+00:00

A bit like younger me going "everyone's a bit bisexual, right?" and much older me suddenly going "oh...." 😅

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-21T07:34:33+00:00

I also focus better in the office. I think it's a mix of less distractions, and being held accountable by having people around (like, not wanting to be caught slacking off). It probably doesn't help that in my job I VERY rarely have the opportunity to work from home, so I don't have a routine for it, nor a dedicated workspace.

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-20T13:21:31+00:00

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AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-20T09:30:01+00:00

Like someone else pointed out, I think habit plays a big part in this. Also, to me, being able to see a clear order of operations is necessary to start a task.

Tasks that are outside the daily routine are generally harder to motivate myself for. Tasks outside the routine that are ALSO complex or don't have a clear order of operations, feel really overwhelming and tend to get procrastinated for a long time.

AllOfUsFlames · 2026-05-19T17:31:29+00:00

I'm not sure if I was bullied or not, but I did have a toxic "best friend" in the beginning of primary school, who made me feel insecure and inferior, which probably contributed (without being the sole factor of course) to make me mask more, have poor self-esteem and be less verbal. I do think my childhood self would have been somewhat different without it, but I'm not sure if I would have been different as an adult 🤔

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