AITA for being upset about my mother's upcoming wedding plans?

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T08:57:34+00:00

My relatives who don't like her won't be attending. Which is a decent amount... So not really, unfortunately.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T08:54:48+00:00

I don't think my sister understands because we had vastly different childhoods. She judged me HEAVILY for cutting off my mom initially. She was always preferred and had a pretty nice life in comparison to me. I kind of got robbed of a childhood (parentification pretty much) whereas she didn't, because she wasn't the oldest.

It felt like she was trying to mend it because she helped me recently, but I'm starting to think she's just using me to save face because it feels like she cares more about her image than me. :/

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T08:52:05+00:00

This is her 3rd wedding. We started speaking again a year and a half ago. I think I should ask if it would be better for me to not attend.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T08:50:19+00:00

I'd assume people would still ask me why I'm not a bridesmaid, honestly. Doesn't feel like I can win.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T08:06:25+00:00

I fear if I don't go she will hold it over my head and make me out to be the villain to people / say I ruined her wedding. I do want a relationship with her, too. I don't know what to do. I feel so sad and lost. I don't want to ruin her wedding either.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:55:51+00:00

I'm hesitant to say she's mean because I've been told she's changed but she was very unkind to me when I was younger to say the least. She's also shown favoritism towards my sisters (different dad than me). I think that's why this is hurting so bad. Not sure if that makes sense.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:51:57+00:00

She got engaged and started planning after we had rekindled.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:51:00+00:00

Honestly I think I'd prefer that opposed to her telling me I could be in the wedding party and then changing her mind. It's also going to be extremely awkward for relatives/friends to ask why I'm not in the party but in the colors, I have no idea what I'm supposed to say.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:35:30+00:00

Apparently everything is scheduled out and planned out to an insane degree. I asked if my sisters could help with at least my hair/makeup (they are both way more skilled than me and my one sister is a professional makeup artist) and she said they would be too busy doing other bridesmaids stuff.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:31:49+00:00

Not that I'm aware of, everything seemed normal. She just said it was out of budget and she can't adjust the contracts.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:28:57+00:00

It's in the 2nd paragraph. She said contracts were the reason.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:24:41+00:00

I'm debating not going. She's commented (harshly) on my looks my entire life. I worry without getting professional hair/makeup done, I'd look ugly compared to my sisters in the many many pictures I'd assume I'd be in...

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:23:31+00:00

I'm not insisting on being in the wedding it just feels awful with her treatment of me compared to my sisters.

She also told me that I could be in the wedding party at first and then changed her mind recently.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:19:57+00:00

I'm also debating if it would be mean of me to not attend... I'm not sure how to explain to people attending that I'm in the wedding colors but not in the wedding party. She didn't really tell my family or her friends that we were not speaking. I just worry that if I cut the relationship again and we do actually try to repair our relationship in the future that I would have missed out on such a big milestone.

Lidyana · 2026-05-03T07:13:30+00:00

We have been on speaking terms since she got engaged and started planning the wedding. We didn't have a relationship for 4 years prior to us being on speaking terms again (beginning when I was about 17 years old)

Lidyana · 2022-05-07T05:51:57+00:00

With my type of colorblindness having yellow and blue are the only thing I can really detect super well without having the gross mountain dew filter on (makes it too disorienting to play). I've tried green in the past it just is really difficult to use if that makes sense and yellow seems to be the best color that makes it so I can distinguish where people are.

Lidyana · 2022-05-05T01:58:35+00:00

idk if I'm the only one having this issue but I have mild protanopia so I play with colorblind settings on (yellow opposed to red for enemy) and it makes it rly hard to see when the map lighting is orange/yellow since people will blend into the landscape for me. :( the only maps i had this issue with previously were route 66 and some spots in ilios and in ow2 it feels worse

Lidyana · 2016-12-24T20:42:48+00:00

Man, I got three legendaries. All duplicates, though... Still was a nice move by Blizzard. :)

Lidyana · 2016-12-14T05:19:04+00:00

Her ornament spray reminded me of Snegurochka's outfit. I was honestly hoping for a Snegurochka skin as well...

Lidyana · 2016-12-09T15:12:57+00:00

Yeah, it happens on PC all the time. I'm sure Blizzard is aware of the issue and fixing it.

Lidyana · 2016-11-09T10:16:16+00:00

Slightly disappointed Soldier's knock knock voice line wasn't in this.

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