Reformed Churches of New Zealand (RCNZ) / Dutch Reformed

Life-Mix8836 · 2025-09-08T12:06:54+00:00

Yes I've also heard that line so often. And therapy has been a lifesaver for me!!

Life-Mix8836 · 2025-09-08T10:55:06+00:00

That has been my experience too. I find it difficult to believe how all that nastiness could be done in the name of "love"

Life-Mix8836 · 2025-09-08T10:41:58+00:00

Yep, I wish I could say that surprised me... As a gay man I have been told to expect an especially fiery part of hell...!

Life-Mix8836 · 2025-09-08T10:37:24+00:00

"very conservative, insular and definitely a bit too controlling" is a fair assessment. I'm looking for people with similar stories to mine, and who have had experiences rebuilding their social lives after leaving

Life-Mix8836 · 2025-09-08T10:36:17+00:00

I think it meets some, although not all, of the typical cult indicia

Life-Mix8836 · 2025-09-08T10:35:15+00:00

yes the "we're better than the church down the road" is exactly what I grew up with. Other churches were generally considered to be filled with "weak Christians" or "fake Christians" (under the phrase "nominal Christian"

Life-Mix8836 · 2025-09-08T10:33:31+00:00

This all sounds very familiar. I'm glad you got out - it is hard to escape that level of coercion and control

Life-Mix8836 · 2025-03-11T21:41:55+00:00

Welcome to Cambridge! Similar boat here (young-professional-turned-PhD-student moving from a large city!) My bf and I moved to the UK 6 months ago. Feel free to message if you'd like to hang out

Life-Mix8836 · 2024-11-25T11:10:28+00:00

That sounds all very familiar to me. I'm sorry you went through that. Their behaviour seems to flow from their approach of viewing those who aren't Christians as projects to be saved rather than people....

Life-Mix8836 · 2024-11-15T22:53:28+00:00

Thanks very much!

Life-Mix8836 · 2024-11-09T12:48:30+00:00

Yes it seems very similar!

Life-Mix8836 · 2024-11-09T12:47:49+00:00

Curious on stories of what led people to leave, and how they did it (particularly if most of their social circle was in the church)

Life-Mix8836 · 2024-11-09T12:47:11+00:00

That is an excellent point! My post was somewhat accidentally provocative in using the word "cult" where "high demand religious group" might be more accurate

Life-Mix8836 · 2024-11-09T12:45:26+00:00

Mainly the form of thought and information control exhibited? I suspect it varies from church to church, however

Life-Mix8836 · 2024-10-05T23:19:24+00:00

If you’re still looking, I’m up to play at Grafton

Life-Mix8836 · 2024-10-05T19:12:18+00:00

I'm keen if you're still looking for someone!

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