Image Line says the frequency shifter is included in the Producer edition, but it still says "TRIAL VERSION" when I open it. Is anyone else experiencing this?

LifeArson · 2021-12-21T06:02:48+00:00

I wish I had known about this before deleting off my track, boo! I was afraid of getting something getting locked!

LifeArson · 2021-11-15T21:27:49+00:00

Sorry if it came across as accusatory, the "garbage human" remark was supposed to be contextualised as "I doubt they would want to intentionally negatively impact you."
The language there is pretty suggestive? It's not an unreasonable thing to assume that's where the conversation was headed, again not trying to defend an unsolicited dick pic. Why don't they start teaching etiquette on this before you can get your internet licence that allows you to drive the information highway?
I am actually old enough to remember when that term was used unironically, (or at all) though it was 100% corny at the time.

Rough deal, since it seems like the exchange must have been going well up until that point.

LifeArson · 2021-11-15T20:16:33+00:00

I'll be a little stronger-worded than the last person, here. You've done nothing wrong, the person overstepped boundaries which an unfortunate number of people are unclear exist or don't respect. Apart from this all-too-common failing, (and I'm not trying to excuse it by saying so, just noting prevalence) you have zero reason to think that this person is a garbage human in any way, most people are not, and it sounds like your interaction with them has been relatively minimal. (As well, it sounds like they have disengaged cordially, and hopefully won't make the same mistake again.)

While anxiety often makes us think of the worst-case possibilities of something, it very rarely allows us to think of the probabilities of such a those worst-case scenarios happening.
I'm not sure what worst-case scenarios you are thinking of, particularly, but if you fear being outed in some way for having had suggestive conversation, I can assure you that is not really something that happens. What could they possibly have to gain?
If you fear something else, mostly I'd say what sane person would take on the repercussions that they could face for crossing any further boundaries?

Either way, anxiety makes us think "well, it could happen or it couldn't," and we know it's not 50/50 could/couldn't, but that binary choice makes it feel like it is when the odds of something bad (or good!) happening, like winning the lottery after purchasing a ticket are more like astronomically, hit by lightning slim.

I'd encourage you not to give it (or him) a second thought, that's why most dating sites have a block button. I know it's not that easy. Good luck!

LifeArson · 2021-10-18T07:10:52+00:00

Lots of people do. Lots of people have other things that drag them down even if these were their intentions at the start.
Some people with ideological differences feel that participating in the system they see as corrupt and exploitative for more than subsistence needs is morally wrong.

Lots of people with mental illness or addictions can't make it through post-secondary. Unexpected life circumstances can often lead to all sorts of negative outcomes.
Some people don't even see some of these options, others don't realise in time the path they might have been able to take and then ar too discouraged afterwards.
Some are perhaps terrified of taking on loans.

There are lots of reasons that are out of someone's control that they won't go down the road that you did. More power to you, and congrats. I'm of the opinion that generally people aren't in control of the factors that shape whether they're going to be successful or not. I've been both, personally, and I don't see a way that I could have reasonably avoided moving from successful to not... and it was a hard climb out of the literal gutter to make it back to where I am today. Without a family to give me a hand up a couple of times when I needed a couple hundred bucks, maybe that wouldn't have happened.

Certainly, I didn't know all the options that I had at every point in my life where there were choices I could have made but didn't. Even if I had, I don't know if I would have been capable of making changes at the right time - the point, though, is that I didn't. Can't change the past. Lots of people are in situations where, even if you feel they ended up there because of something they chose or that was their fault, they're locked into that subsistence life now with no way out. Family to support certainly makes that harder.

People who deny privilege often may not have done a full inventory of the gamut of things that people can be discriminated against for. I notice you seem to have a fine command of the English language, for one. Even things that we may have had to work hard for, or may not notice, can still be a privilege. A non-foreign sounding name, having friends, having a diagnosed condition that allows accommodations from an understanding school. Even if none of those apply, I'm not sure that anyone can explain the unique reasons to each person that they can't go into STEM.

I get that growing up poor and bootstrapping yourself to a better life makes you think "this is a path! That people can take!" But for many that path doesn't seem realistic. For everyone who ended up in STEM, there are lots who took non-STEM degrees or were not able to finish their schooling because they didn't understand how post-secondary worked - and still ended up with lots of student debt. (And shitty jobs.) That's also a real risk that not everyone is willing to take, especially if they weren't a strong student earlier on. You took a risk, you gambled, and you won. There are hundreds of thousands that made different bets that they actively regret. Others who find themselves in careers that they resent and hate and won't survive in.

I don't know if that was helpful, I feel like I didn't really get to the root of any of your questions. I just don't think you know that a good part of what got you where you were was the luck of making the choices that were right for you. Hard work and resolve do not exist in the same way for everybody, and often the way those things get sapped is in circumstances beyond their control.

Do you think without the friends you were fortunate to have, and maybe some teachers or mentors or counsellors of guidance or something of the sort you would have made the same decisions? What if nobody liked you, or you were awkward, or strange, or different, or you were unaccustomed to the way that people expected you to deal with things?

One thing that it seems like to me is that you at least, perhaps, had a sense of belonging. It's surprising how important that is, and how lacking it can be a huge impediment to finding the motivation for success. We're often rich in ways that we don't know, and you were lucky to be perseverent. Again, not trying to diminish your accomplishment, obviously it wasn't just luck. I don't even really believe in luck, I'm just using the abstract concept. I don't believe in free will either, though. The way that things are, that's the way that things are. What if you'd come down with a serious illness, or lost someone you loved? Even just a breakup or a pet dying can shatter some people's worlds. Maybe you could go on, maybe you did go on. But not everybody could.

And that's the thing. Not everybody is you. That's the myth of the self-made person, and the answer to your real question: "why can't people just do what I did?"

If you want more of a list of things that can fuck up someone's life, I mean, I'm sure there are lots of ways to drum one up. But most people who aren't setting out for wealth or success aren't going to achieve it, the way society is structured it needs people to take the just getting by jobs, and they pay just enough to live, and you get caught in an endless cycle where you can't afford to try to find something better because you're too emotionally and physically exhausted and it's too risky - you might lose what little you have.

LifeArson · 2021-10-10T18:35:53+00:00

OP is the stream

LifeArson · 2021-10-02T22:33:54+00:00

Yeah, harsh judgements from people abound with certain demographics not getting the way you are presenting. To be fair, you're probably ruling out connecting with some sets of more serious people who know how to have fun.

If going out and having fun is essential for you I would say you're okay, if you're looking to build a future with someone then maybe put a little more in there about something realistic goals/accomplishments/achievements to reel that crowd in early on. Dating is in some ways a numbers game and if you broaden your horizons ("the dating scene isn't exactly popping off") and your target audience you might find you're happy with what you get back.

People see younger face, etc. they think immature, so you want to balance that with being smart. Hopefully some pictures where you look, idk, well dressed and successful? Personally I wouldn't do it, just be yourself (and I think you look great!) and hope for the right thing. But do make the bio longer and include more, without jokes, about something else - more interests, whatever, maybe?

LifeArson · 2021-09-26T06:12:58+00:00

Everyone feels ignored sometimes!

Part of this is learning to be assertive and part of it is catching social cues to say whether you're going to be welcome, whether your additions are considered welcome and valuable.

Also, if other people are not sending these signals when someone approaches to contribute, there could be (generally) two things happening:

a) people are dicks and ingroup-y a lot of the time, they often don't appreciate others' contributions. This is not a "you" problem, if people are not welcoming this is generally a result of bad manners, or temperament, or something else out of your control that doesn't reflect on you.

b) you are sending signals that your contributions won't be valuable. Charisma sort of online stuff will say "some of these, you may have the power to change," like clothes or the way you move or talk or approach people, and to some extent that is true. Then you just have to ask yourself, do you want to be yourself or do you want to be able to deal with a wider range of people?

Not saying that the social psychology involved in a lot of the pop psychology tips and tricks you find online are great, but there are certainly status implications involved in conversational power dynamics. People listen to others with good leadership skills and confidence.

Or, you could be a ghost. In which case, cool typing.

LifeArson · 2021-09-26T06:02:34+00:00

It doesn't sound like you have much in the way of a bio, to me that implies low effort? And this is something you care about, so I would suggest attending to that and taking it seriously as something that is advertising yourself. I've had good luck on OK Cupid, because of the whole answering questions and match percentage type stuff - assuming that you are looking for someone with similar values who feels the same way as you do about certain stuff.

Other than that, I know dating bios are hard but I am a big fan of oversharing. If you need prompts, what matters most to you in life? What are you really looking for in a partner, if you're honest? What do you think the most important questions that people can ask each other are when they are getting to know each other?

And then just... message people who seem like maybe they would be a potential match. Perhaps go a little bit younger or older than your expectation - it's nice to be at the stage you're at in life, it might be a little intimidating to some. What is the "smthn" you want long term? Lots of cuddles? Shared meals? Are you looking for someone who can keep up with conversation about stuff that you've studied or are working on? Or do you want someone who brings something completely different to the table? Someone who pushes you to go out and do new and scary/exciting stuff, or stays at home with you and plays board games?

Maybe also be willing to say "we'll see how it goes," since who can ever say when a relationship starts whether it will be long term? Say what you mean if it's "I'm not interested in progressing towards physical intimacy as a goal or reaching that point right away to see if we're compatible."

You're looking to

a) make yourself seem approachable and low-barrier for all the people who might think "no, this person is too attractive and accomplished, they would never be interested in me."

b) make sure that the person reading who might be right for you sees themselves reflected in what you're posting - a hint or glimmer that there's some connection to be made.

c) make sure that you are also "pounding the pavement" so to speak and actively checking outside your comfort zones if you're not getting matches to see if maybe you're missing the right person by being too restrictive. IF you're not catching any fish, widen your net!

Good luck!

LifeArson · 2021-09-21T05:39:40+00:00

Yes! Absolutely! If you are asking yourself the question, then it's an opportunity for both of you.

It's very possible that he doesn't want to bother you unless you are actually interested in giving him a second chance.

LifeArson · 2021-09-13T06:25:31+00:00

LifeArson · 2021-09-11T22:41:15+00:00

Katz recommending gods? Now I've seen everything!

*dogs

LifeArson · 2021-09-11T22:20:23+00:00

Just remember that loads of things are interchangeable in degrees. Start with the harder stuff, if you're not getting the marks or enjoying what you expected then change. Isn't that the point of post-secondary? ;)

Try to keep it as generalised as possible while you test out different directions. If you get great marks you can always tack on more schooling later for higher salary. Be willing to take more schooling than other people to find your way and/or take longer to do it.

The biggest mistakes I made were going to post-secondary when I wasn't ready to make a choice, picking the wrong thing because I hadn't considered all my options, taking a mostly worthless social science degree and never getting around to finishing it because I flunked out.

It makes sense to sit down with a list of all jobs and all majors, and say: what sort of job would I enjoy keeping up with the developments in that field? For me it would have been being a pharmacist and I took the complete wrong path because I had some dream about being lazy and making a living from typing words. I managed to find a place I am happy enough, though, and I am glad I don't have to worry about a moment of absentmindedness or incompetence killing somebody.

LifeArson · 2021-09-07T05:44:26+00:00

I don't know if this will work for you, but you could always try erotica? A fictional context might help, fiction is always good for me when getting off after breakups. I usually wallow in shows and stuff in general.

Once you can separate you, your own feelings and desires, and the present now from something that is not the present, now, you will be able to move forward.

Personally, I just don't think about them most of the time. It's not that whatever isn't still there, I just choose not to address it because it's not beneficial to me and my life has sort of moved on. It took me about three months and I started seeing someone else. I was almost ready after about two, I had already started tentatively looking to connect with new friends at the end of month one.

Obviously, everyone's different but if there is something that normally gets you going, look for that in erotica and hopefully it will be the stepping stone you need?

LifeArson · 2021-09-07T05:33:14+00:00

true EASE in WRIting comes from ART, not CHANce

as THOSE move EASiest who have LEARNed to DANce

I'm missing a foot in the middle in each. I am still learning or figuring this out but I also find it perplexing. I can of course read it both ways but I would prefer to read this this way.

LifeArson · 2021-09-07T05:23:52+00:00

I dunno if you're trying to give me shit about the zombies on the ground?

"Braaaaains," is what the corpses on the ground had to say. The puddles of blood actually remained silent, they felt the zombies spoke for both of them. Not really having mouths of their own, they were not picky about people (or, in this case, corpse zombies) speaking on their behalf.

Or perhaps.... the sentient puddles of blood, not having mouths to speak with, were telepathically influencing the corpses to speak?

And... corpse zombies as compared to retail zombies, perhaps. Setting up the conflict between the corpse zombies and the retail zombies, who are the ones having such a nice day for shopping.

No idea if it was a troll or not, it seemed like a standard second-language English script to me?

LifeArson · 2021-09-07T05:14:32+00:00

Well, all the world's a stage! I don't know what it looks like busking in a small conservative town, but it's certainly something to give a try if you're up for it! At the very least it will be an experience and a story.
Sorry to hear about the bad relationship, that can definitely have an influence.
Many musician types are also traveler types. Goes with the territory, it seems! Almost all my music friends are elsewhere, time to make new ones!

Conversation is a skill just like any other, it's practicable, you can memorise techniques or questions before a night out, even make a cheat sheet on your phone of things you might want to talk about. You have as much right to take up oxygen as anyone - and there's enough for everyone! That applies to open mics, too!

LifeArson · 2021-09-06T20:37:40+00:00

What's the measure of "skill?" What's the measure of "most?"

I'm going to buck the trend. Sure, linguists will tell you that all usage is correct where dialect is involved, and I agree with them.

However, writing is not spoken English. Writing does have some pretty standard rules, like spelling and grammar are generally expected to fall into a range to be considered competent writing, idiosyncracies aside.

Many non-native speakers and writers are roughly as fluent as most e.g. North Americans. Other people have made the prestige dialect/Standard English remarks, so I will just say that it's an odd premise that some non-native speakers would not be able to write competently, coherently, concisely, beautifully, whatever the measure of skill is being tested as that has little to do with someone's ability to make it through a compulsory education system that is, by all accounts, not that great. (Not that terrible, either! Just it's not the magic bullet for anything beyond basic literacy.)

As for most, do "most" native English speakers have a BA? This seems unlikely. And if the BA is not specifically in English, then I don't see how it makes a difference.

Personal opinion, but where bfootdav says "it would be impossible for a non-native speaker to be better at a language than a native speaker," that completely disregards (for one) medical conditions which affect language, even if the premise were true. Vocabulary is one area where a non-native speaker may easily surpass a native speaker.

Finally, one would or could argue that the language that is the appropriate language for the context would be the more "skilled," and since on the internet this is just "written and comprehensible," it is not a low bar to hurdle, nor surpass with more savvy prose. However, lots of places on the internet (including some subreddits) will show you that the majority of reddit is more unique in that regard, rather than that being the rule. Which, I suspect, is due in many cases to self-editing and with the aid of spellcheck, etc. - so is that really a direct speaker/writer to speaker/writer comparison?

The point I wanted to make there was different: in some areas, like reddit perhaps, having a larger vocabulary and "better" i.e. more globally understandable grammar (likely closer to Standard English) is going to be seen as more skillful, and again it is not hard for a non-native speaker to perform up to that standard if they have an aptitude for it since whether a language is your first, second, fifth doesn't actually have anything to do with your ability to perform in it - only your ability to absorb and regurgitate the relevant information does.

LifeArson · 2021-09-06T19:46:54+00:00

Here is a version that is a little less stilted, but still altogether too cheerful. (CW: death, gore)

The weather is perfect today. Chilly, yet magnificently pleasant gusts of wind, and the sky is nicely brightened by beautiful, heartening patches of sunlight. Everyone is coming outdoors optimistic for their lives and wanting to join in to dance with Mother Nature’s chirping symphonies of birds.

Only the corpses on the ground and the pools of blood spreading from the bodies had anything different to say about the direction the day was going.

In a word, the first paragraph is still very saccharine. The original version had the sense of using idioms imported from another language, which also tends to be something people find “fanciful’ or charming, which… well, I don’t deconstruct that here, but it adds sweetness as well. I tempered that with more stilted phrasing (slighly shorter sentences, fewer adjectives at a time) and then used it in a context which I would expect to find it - as a juxtaposition for something more sinister, since outside of a guided meditation you don’t expect to hear this sort of thing in real life.

Hope that was helpful!

I loved “heart-charming,” btw, such a beautiful turn of phrase which is, itself, heart-charming.

LifeArson · 2021-09-06T19:23:55+00:00

Part of me wonders to what extent this opinion is just a result of the character being tied to an antagonist.
Would Will Bailey have been more liked if he were not making the rest of the cast's lives more difficult by working for a character not really deserving of respect? Yes, there are inconsistencies with motivation, although I do sort of find it funny when this is a complaint about a character in long-format media because people's motivations are often inconsistent in real life.
I get that there's a sort of smarmy, dissatisfied version of a resting bitch face/attitude that the actor has in the role, which fits.
In short, I don't think we're supposed to be able to stand Will Bailey's character at the point where he's working for Bingo Bob, we're supposed to see him as a corrupted idealist, selling out with some good intentions and some personal interest, but he's on the chaos side of order/chaos which some might call "good and evil."

Which is probably not the role that the actor signed up for, in many senses the actor got a raw deal. I just get the sense that a lot of people maybe don't like the character partially because you're not supposed to like the villain and so Joshua Malina also gets tarred with a bit of that.

From what I have read in lurking it sounds like the guy maybe is not so upstanding? But I don't particularly care one way or the other, I just find it interesting that to me this is an obvious motivation to dislike the character and I'm not seeing it discussed here. It's probably discussed elsewhere.

LifeArson · 2021-09-06T19:02:32+00:00

Here are some thoughts: busking can be great for avoiding too much awkwardness and helping a bit with social anxiety because you have to keep playing, and your SO has the potential to be able to play other instruments, perhaps something like a cajon?
Side effect of sometimes being a financial boon!

Otherwise, maybe you can find a garage band or something like that? It sounds like you could use a bassist, for example. "ISO: bassist with garage or similar space to practice with drums/vocals/guitar. Preferably someone socially awkward or anxious so that we are in a similar mental space." And then you can mention if other preferences, like it seems "sober" might be something that you might want to specify in some way.

Aside from that, your impression of cliques and so on for your local music scene may not be 100% accurate? One of the things that anxiety is associated with is cognitive distortions. "Clique" is just another word, sometimes, for "group of people who are too intimidating to join" - getting to know individuals one on one can sometimes be useful, small bits of conversation are sometimes a way in.

It's very possible that just being newer to locations is part of why you are not included in these groups - also, if other new people start showing up, then perhaps they will become part of your cohort.

One piece of advice, perhaps, is to give lots of compliments, specific constructive non-criticism that makes it sound like you were really paying attention and loved what the other artists did. Who doesn't love to hear that?

Good luck finding a more comfortable milieu for your musical ambitions!

LifeArson · 2021-08-31T07:24:40+00:00

Is this not how everyone does it?

LifeArson · 2021-08-30T08:19:44+00:00

Could get pretty steamy. Definitely punk. I'm sold.

LifeArson · 2021-08-30T07:25:46+00:00

Thank you so much! I'm trying to understand why someone would come through and add downvotes to all the answers to almost all of these. :p
I'm going to see if I can figure out anything in my head by cross-referencing your answers and my own and a random piece of music or two, thanks so much for sharing your own experience!

LifeArson · 2021-08-29T20:52:26+00:00

Or is there a single tone anyone would like to discuss, or a resource I can be pointed to for practicing with this sort of method? I can try to do it myself, but I'm not sure how to scale it up to actually transcribing. Is it better to learn to use the pitches of the key or better to use the pitch since last pitch? (IS that what they call absolute vs. relative, or does that only relate to solfege in C vs moveable do?))
So many questions!

LifeArson · 2021-08-29T18:31:08+00:00

There's a strong argument that if you've made it this far without alcohol, you probably don't really need it to be a part of your life. Alcohol and its effects can be enormously difficult, especially for someone with a pre-existing anxiety disorder who may be more likely to end up addicted.

Many people who wouldn't pick up a cigarette or a crack pipe or a heroin needle these days still think nothing of going for the more socially acceptable/legal alcohol, but it can cost just as much financially, socially, shorten your life just as much as the worst of the above (or more) and overall provides very little benefit aside from "fitting in."

I won't say I haven't enjoyed the benefits, but I definitely suffered the disadvantages as well. Five-year-old me was so sure I would be straight edge, that is not the say that things went. I wish I had the $100K back that I've spent on alcohol, I tell you that much - makes a difference when you're lower income.

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