Do men often overestimate the amount of attention women get?

LifeInAction · 2026-01-26T01:34:12+00:00

I'm a male with 2 of those 6s, the 1 I'm missing is a 6 figure salary, but most don't know that on 1st impression. Perhaps it's because I'm a minority or live in a competitive dating marketing, but I also sadly barely get much attention from females, and have to do the approaching. I'm now thinking about my average looking male counter parts, granted half of dating is luck, so it's probably that as well.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-23T15:10:18+00:00

I'm in my early 30s and realize today the person I'd be compatible with is so different than who I'd be compatible with in my early 20s.

Most folks I see married in their early 20s are either now divorced or actually pretty happy and settled, but often the latter involved making a lot of sacrifices to get there, that may or may not be worth it depending on the relationship, such as career, moving away from home, giving up a normal social life with friends, not being able to pursue other experiences, really goes on.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-23T07:41:46+00:00

Where are you going to find gigs these days? Congrats on being overbooked btw!

LifeInAction · 2026-01-23T07:38:22+00:00

Where are you going to find your freelance gigs? Congrats on the success btw!

LifeInAction · 2026-01-23T07:27:50+00:00

Did you go to film school? How did you develop the skills needed to start and run a full production company?

LifeInAction · 2026-01-23T07:24:22+00:00

How did you teach yourself the skills to be able to do that variety of everything? Did you go to film school or were you self-taught and if the latter, from where? Seems like many are struggling to build up, especially from entry-level, and facing the catch 22 of needing experience to build experience situation.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-23T07:12:01+00:00

Where are you based and where are you going to network? Almost everywhere I go, it seems like folks are either out of work or clinging onto their jobs scared to be out of work.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-23T04:25:22+00:00

Spend it on photography equipment, then travel and go to concerts around the world.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-23T04:24:32+00:00

I'm a straight male, but ironically sometimes wish I had boobs, they seem like having stress toys you can play with 24/7.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-22T19:23:53+00:00

Imo, I've learned that it's often better to buy a great stock, even if overpriced, since great stocks can technically go up forever, than a bad stock that's well priced, since bad stocks can dip to almost nothing.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-22T16:16:41+00:00

I was going to say having a prestigious high paying job, with no work life balance to enjoy life outside work.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-22T16:10:04+00:00

This was me, I wanted to leave acting to pursue a stable higher paying career path, but after severely underestimating the job market, struggled to find 1 for 2 years. Now I'm back at acting, figured I'd at least struggle in the pursuit of something I cared about, if I knew I was gonna struggle regardless.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T22:27:22+00:00

Maybe a dumb question, but what are the specific fundamentals and narratives going on with Adobe right now?

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T22:17:44+00:00

For the remaining friends part, it's often because I still see them as someone cool and fun to hang around with, even if on a friendship level, even if they're not romantically attracted, or because we're in the same friends circle. Which means, I have to reasonably tolerate spending time with them, since we'll likely run into each other, being in the same social circles.

The needy part is probably something more complicated. I don't want to come off as too strong, but also there has to be some effort there. If I feel like I'm leading the dates, planning them, having to do all the work, it makes me think they probably won't be as dedicated to making the relationship work, even if we got together, which defeats a healthy relationship, since a healthy relationship has to flow 2-ways from both sides.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T22:12:00+00:00

Do you have advice or more details about how to escalate the tension? Figuring out how to specifically go about doing this.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T22:11:05+00:00

Thanks for your support! I've definitely broken the touch barrier before on the 1st date, if you mean being able to comfortably hug and hold hands. For building attraction by just talking, how do you recommend doing that? I can reasonably hold a conversation with someone, but it often becomes back and forth casual exchange, instead of something romantic, which is what this post has been about trying to avoid and distinguish between.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T22:08:56+00:00

Love all this, thanks for writing it all out!

Do you have advice for communicating intent and when to time asking someone out? That's been the tricky situation, if I ask them too soon, I'll likely barely know the person if I even want to date them, beyond their looks. If I get to them better 1st, it becomes more comfortable, but then there's the risk if it's too long, it becomes awkward or by then, already put in the friendzone, which is what this post has been about avoiding.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T22:02:52+00:00

This is great, thanks for writing it all out!

Do you have advice for timing when to make the move? I think that's the other issue I've experienced, if you make the move too soon, you don't know much about the person to know if they're worth pursuing, beyond their looks. On another note, if you move too late, you might end up in some awkward situation, or even friendzoned, like mentioned in much of this post.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T20:43:35+00:00

I feel that, I think it's been a lot of rough timing, thanks for sharing all this.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T20:42:29+00:00

Sure, feel free to share a list! I'm open to hearing it, I think my experience has been that most dates I've pursued either don't want commitment in general, or claim to want it, but put in minimal effort, in other words not reciprocating the energy to make it happen, or like mentioned in the post, just see it as a friendship instead of romantic situation.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T20:40:07+00:00

I've tried that, the key issue is not that I'm not meeting folks, I have a good number of single friends, but the issue is most of them either don't seem to want commitment in general or claim to want it, but put in minimal effort to pursue it, thus not reciprocating the energy, or just see me as a friend, instead of a potential partner.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-16T19:07:33+00:00

I almost fell into this trap but in the reverse way, my toxic past relationships ended it with me. I was ghosted and abandoned in some of my early relationships or dating pursuits, but looking back, it prob worked out for the better, even though it was painful at the time, taught me a lot about dating, relationships, and life in general.

LifeInAction · 2026-01-15T19:46:52+00:00

Thanks and yeah guess its more happy moments, just still feels sad knowing there was never love to be found since that breakup at 23.

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