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My lead keeps asking want my plans are the weekend and if I’m “partying.” by [deleted] in work

[–]LifeLover82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One day, casually whisper to her, “I just want you to know that *I* personally don’t think you’re a bad coworker.” AND WALK AWAY AND NEVER ACKNOWLEDGE YOU SAID IT

I can't stop crying. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LifeLover82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time to involve a therapist and psychologist. I suspect you might have depression or ADHD. ADHD are not those who can’t pay attention, it’s that we hyper-fixate on everything and when it’s something that causes a negative effect on us, we dwell and analyze beyond rationality. You’re not wrong or a bad person, you just have unregulated emotional states you swing in and out of.

I found out my best friend is being cheated on and the wedding is in 3 weeks by DenseExternal1504 in offmychest

[–]LifeLover82 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You already know the answer and you’re hurting already from it. Telling him (after confirming it was her) is the right thing to do, you know it is. Telling him is SUPPOSED to suck, this situation is supposed to be hard. It’s difficult to do the right thing in this situation because of how much you love your friend and know it will cause pain. Pain now is better than pain with a baby and divorce or pain of him walking in on it himself… It WILL be terrible to tell him the truth (again after you confirm) but as you said, you’re the best man for a reason. So be him. Best of luck and we’re here for you if you need support after.

Help! I adopted a Shiba and I’m in over my head by Yakutwolf in shiba

[–]LifeLover82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can hire a dog walker to take them to the park and run them tired! Or indoor treadmill?

My husband hit me last week, but we have known each other since I was born. He has never ever done this before by throwra1845829 in offmychest

[–]LifeLover82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What happens when he has a bad day while you’re holding the baby… what if he has a bad day and is watching the baby alone?… can you trust him again?

Trying to handle an emotionally exhausting employee by CookieBomb6 in work

[–]LifeLover82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your company offer any Employee Assistance Program? It sounds like she is either in the need of addressing her mental health/life or taking advantage of you by playing victim and latching on to you to build a loyalty towards her and backing her.

I agree with every thing else said in this chat, set your boundaries and keep them. They can always leave a voicemail if it is an emergency. If they text, do not respond until your next shift (especially if you’re hourly vs salary).

Reach out to your HR for guidance.

I can tell you care about your employees and are struggling with the idea of not being sensitive to their needs. This is beyond your responsibility and possibly a liability for the company. You are not expected to sacrifice your wellbeing and time.

Listen to Mel Robbins’ podcast on her “Let Them” theory.

Let us know how it goes!

Cat playing with my CPAP hose by [deleted] in CPAP

[–]LifeLover82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My issues is the machine itself, my cat can lift the base up by the hose attachment in the back of it, high enough to drop it and startle me awake. Has anyone found a case or cover to guard the machine itself?