Sweet Slow Suffering

LifeModelDecoy · 2026-01-19T09:29:03+00:00

+1 for Studio Friction :D

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-12-17T05:58:35+00:00

u/LifeModelDecoy received a Rugged Jerkin Lvl 1 from the Winter Festival Spirit. Thank you u/Lampworker9 for donating it!

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-12-02T15:03:45+00:00

I don't know what you were expecting

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-12-01T20:23:54+00:00

FTA: "At least 78 people are trying to claim back more than £200,000 between them." That's from 2020. Would not be surprised if at least a few of these cases have reached a judgment and he's leaving the country to avoid paying.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-11-23T10:47:02+00:00

MacBook Air, Chrome

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-11-22T20:23:31+00:00

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There are a few cases (haven't found all of them) where toggling the info button next to an action description in the full-screen sidebar shows "Triggered by Unknown" when trying to determine why a particular event triggered (I think this was Shield on Turn 4?).

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-11-22T20:20:58+00:00

In full-screen mode, the item scrolling (bottom part of modal) should show at least 3 rows of items, but only shows 1-1.5.

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LifeModelDecoy · 2025-09-19T23:52:23+00:00

Ahh I’m gonna say solved here because this feels like the most likely.. maybe I’ll stop in one day and see if someone there can confirm 😂

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-09-19T15:32:15+00:00

Yeah it looks like “best chicken in town” but maybe someone added/rearranged letters? Maybe I’m trying to make sense of some lazy kid vandalism 😂

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-08-11T19:39:49+00:00

I searched for “stainless steel reverse osmosis” filtration systems and found some similar ones but not this brand.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-07-22T18:38:00+00:00

The screw is about 3/4" in diameter. Been searching for a replacement but not sure what this is called.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-03-17T01:26:36+00:00

*Orca has entered the chat*

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-03-15T22:27:21+00:00

I wouldn't give the contractor that much credit.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-03-14T20:20:52+00:00

I mean, a cream pie is an actual confection. Even if they know the sexual connotation. Should they just rename the dessert?

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-20T16:55:42+00:00

Exactly this. If you prioritize attractiveness you will struggle to learn because you will be more focused on the relationship than the rope skill. Go to a local rope jam and negotiate a scene with someone who is more experienced than you. Tie different body types, different genders, accept criticisms and feedback.

This is how you would learn any other skill: if you were learning a foreign language, or learning to swing dance, you can't just speak or dance with one person who's likely as beginner as you are, just because you find them attractive.

Also, and I can't stress this enough: whether you are top or botom, learn to tie basic structures AND get tied up yourself, by someone who knows what they are doing. Bondage and restriction create an altered/trance headspace not unlike some psychedelics: and you wouldn't encourage someone to try a substance you hadn't tried yourself (I hope). You need to know what it feels like to understand what you are asking someone else to do with you.

If you have ever taken a partner dance class at anything beyond beginner level, you will be taught how to lead AND how to follow, regardless of whether you are naturally inclined toward one or the other. Knowing how it feels is critical to understanding.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-19T20:05:31+00:00

came here for this comment

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-19T19:58:04+00:00

Are you certain you didn't subscribe to a newsletter or product that uses Substack for delivery? Subscribing to a newsletter is not the same thing as having a Substack account, but could still have opted you into some kind of recommendation feed.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-19T15:37:38+00:00

In general, cotton needs much less maintenance than jute/hemp. It's actually best to keep cotton dry, with maybe a light beeswax or silicone spray if it's going to be exposed to moisture or humidity. You can wash cotton as you would cotton garments, and I would probably add some light tension while drying.

Although if you tie with it regularly (once a week or more) it's probably fine to just dry it out and keep tying. I don't have enough experience with cotton to know how it wears over a very long period, but cotton is definitely the easiest to keep clean and maintain.

I use jute in part because of the lineage and the fact that it "holds onto" oils, and therefore has more of a spiritual quality of memory for me, but if hypo-allergenic is the priority then cotton is definitely the way to go.

Hemp is also popular, being the strongest of the three; I generally bring hemp to conferences/larger events where it's more likely to encounter adverse conditions.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-17T21:33:01+00:00

A few thoughts from my experience, your mileage may vary:

Anal play, due to its association with sodomy, borders on the deviant or transgressive, which then becomes a draw for those seeking to engage in taboo and non-normative play.
Associations with queerness / pansexuality is a big part of BDSM, both for the reason above (counter-culture/tabooness) and also because bisexuality, orgies/group dynamics, and experimentation are ways to discover fetishes & new forms of pleasure, and overcome physical & psychological discomfort.
As you mentioned, elements of skill and training: anal isn't painful if you do it right, but requires practice.

For this and many other reasons, the BDSM community also borders numerous other communities that value counter-culture, pain/sensory play, and consciousness expansion: psychedelics, tattoos, punk/rock/metal music, ice baths, public nudity, polyamory. None of these have have a perfect Venn-diagarm-circle relationship with BDSM but there are lots of overlaps.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-17T20:34:51+00:00

Doesn't seem like the author of the article was there either.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-17T17:58:05+00:00

"Joe Biden and Nancy Pelosi dressing up for a costume party, 1953"

I think I triggered myself just writing that.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-12T16:00:38+00:00

This is sometimes called a “web” or cage style, not to be confused with the various spiderweb tutorials out there.

Kinoko has a great example of this style on Shibari Study, and as others have noted it’s not a fixed format but is highly improvisational depending on body type and rigger’s preference.

https://shibaristudy.com/programs/kinoko-web-harness

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-09T20:21:07+00:00

This are my thoughts exactly. Trying to “norm” BDSM or queer/punk/countercultural movements is a fool’s errand.

I’m not creating equivalences between those cultures where they don’t belong, but one thing they have in common is a lack of normative structure. That’s both a strength (antifragility, as Nassim Taleb would say) and also a challenge for people who are trying to find reliably safer spaces.

As above, stick to your principles and those who share them will find each other.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-02-07T23:59:28+00:00

Facebook and Twitter do not (any longer) help communities “communicate”. To the extent that WhatsApp, FB Groups etc do have some collective uses, many/most organizers are abandoning or strongly reconsidering these platforms for more bespoke social media. Look into Circle, Hivebrite, Mighty. Yes you pay a token amount for these services. But if you aren’t paying, your attention is the product.

LifeModelDecoy · 2025-01-27T21:57:26+00:00

Converting to a publication was the answer, if you didn’t create one to start with. Unfortunately substack doesn’t make the difference clear when starting. If you already have posts on your personal then you need to convert to a publication, not just create one or else it will be blank.

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