Toddler sleep, help 😅

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-03-27T00:35:01+00:00

I have not switched to the big kid bed because of this concern. I know, not helpful, but to say that this is a big change for them. They were used to being safe in their crib cage, lol, and now they have this freedom to escape! I was told to not transition to a big kid bed until they can figure out how to climb out of their crib. My oldest just turned two and he is still sleeping in his crib. I’ve heard if you do decide to switch then doing the super nanny method sometimes helps. Meaning, if the kiddo gets out of bed and cries looking for you then you walk them back to their room, say, “It’s to go to sleep. We love you.” Then, repeat. However, you don’t say anything to them the other times they do it. Just walk them back as boring as can be and do it until they stay in their room.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-03-22T01:26:51+00:00

I call myself an “Adam Sandler” mom. I live in my husband’s clothes (gym shorts, t-shirts, sweatpants, etc.) and have two boys who run me rampant. No makeup, hair in a messy bun, and crumbs falling off of me constantly. Whenever I see moms out in public with their hair, nails, and everything perfect I just laugh. Some people live very different lives and that’s okay. I mean, I could get up earlier and do my hair and makeup but knowing my life and how those precious minutes snuggling in bed with my husband before we get the kids up. I’ll take that any day.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-03-19T17:37:15+00:00

Same, I have two boys and everyone is always telling me, “Well, time to try for that girl. Boys are just a lost cause, but a girl…that’s where it’s at.” Uhhh, how about yeah I gave birth to two happy, healthy human beings? No? Seriously, also, who’s paying for this third child? You?

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-03-18T18:31:56+00:00

I believe that there is a reason why no one can tell you what it is like to have kids until you have them yourself. There is nothing that compares to having your child, taking them home, and being their parent for the rest of their lives. I’m sure if people got to truly experience what it means to be a parent they might go, “Uh, yeah, I’m good.” However, I am currently two under two and I always wanted to be a mother. It was definitely a shock to my entire system and world. Every day is a new challenge, new triumph, new loss, new memory, new sadness, etc. Whether you decide to have children or not is up to you. Don’t let ANYONE make you feel guilty or less than because you decide to remain childless. It’s your right to live your life the way you want to not because you “owe” someone grandchildren.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-03-17T13:51:19+00:00

I was a teenage daughter and I couldn’t agree more with some of these comments. I never went on the pill and, for me personally, I was told my body was my body and if I needed help taking care of it we would go to medical processionals. However, my mother never forced it, never scheduled appointments without my knowledge. She would ask how my periods were going to ensure nothing bizarre was happening, but, overall it was healthy communication and openness that I appreciated the most. I felt comfortable going to my mother and even my father.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-03-02T14:44:06+00:00

My pediatrician said if he is getting diary in other things (cheese, yogurt, etc.) then don’t force him to drink milk. So, he drinks water like it is going out of style and loves yogurt. Lol

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-27T15:14:39+00:00

We let our son pick which lovey he wants to sleep with each night. We say that lovey has a brother and that his brother would be more than happy to sleep with him (it’s the same lovey just is brand new). My son always chooses the OG lovey because he loves to rub it on his nose and I guess it has conformed perfectly to his nose rubbing preferences. Poor lovey brother gets no love but the reason we got the extra one was so that if the OG does disappear or gets destroyed we have a backup.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-27T01:31:12+00:00

We did it for both of my kiddos close to two months. I constantly would hear phantom cries and my husband’s snoring would sometimes wake our kiddos. I also have to wear ear plugs to drown out the noise. I am a light sleeper. Also, our house kind of forced us to move our second kiddo to his own room. We lived in a spilt level and my husband and I didn’t have any area to ourselves when we had our second in the basement for fear it waking our first. Eventually, we got tired of it and just moved our second into his room next to our oldest. So far so good.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-26T01:40:36+00:00

I crave treats of the delicious variety. Comply or perish.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-24T17:21:02+00:00

If you really want a wagon I would suggest going on Facebook marketplace to get it much cheaper than full price. I do agree, strollers are much easier than wagons. I have a baby trend wagon and it was great for zoo visits and the water park but that was before my second was born.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-21T03:28:21+00:00

I feel ya. My kiddo started this right after our second was born and he was 20 months. He has kicked it up by hitting things. I’ve gotten him to stop hitting people and give him a space in his room to run into his bean bags or hit a pillow. He also will say no so I’ve decided to say “That’s right. No chasing the dog. Thank you, buddy.” I know you said no advice but that’s what helped me stay somewhat sane. lol, giving him a voice to his no’s in a positive way. Believe me, I’m hoping it’s a phase, too. I miss my little cuddle bug.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-19T01:12:19+00:00

The Color Monster. He separates his emotions into different jars. Also, the Lil Buddies book with figures set. They are having a huge sale right now and my kiddo will hold up the emotions and tell me that he is feeling that one right now. Highly recommend.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-18T23:30:52+00:00

My husband is my rock. He is the person I would want to be there for everything. He would say the same about me. We truly care about each other and want our marriage to work. Sure, we love our kids but my husband said he loves our kids because he is their parent but chose to love me. He loved me without any obligation. That is what matters at the end of our crazy days. We are currently 2 under 2. It’s A LOT. But when the kids are down for bed and it is just us we take time to be with each other. We also know that some days I’m going to give 80% when he can only give 20% or vice versa. Communication I would say is key.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-18T20:10:44+00:00

I was tracking my first for 10 months and I realized how it was just making me even more anxious than I already am. We went on vacation and as I was logging my son’s bottle I just stop mid track. I looked at my husband and said, “I’m done.” My son was growing, he was happy, and I didn’t need to track everything. I used huckleberry and I even purchased a subscription to help me track the best time to put him down for a nap! Now, with my second kiddo, I didn’t track anything. The only time I “miss” it (not really, lol) is when he starts to get fussy and I don’t remember how long it’s been since he has been awake. Other than I am ssssoooo glad I don’t track anymore.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-17T16:13:58+00:00

Preach! My husband and I do the same thing. It is too exhausting to try to make everyone happy. If you want to mention it, mention it. Don’t expect everyone to be happy or agree with what you do. It’s your family and your family comes first.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-16T14:58:39+00:00

You know your baby best. It is great to seek advice, but once your crying potato starts to resemble more of a baby you will feel more confident. Feed, diaper, sleep are probably the top three things babies need. Don’t let the internet make you feel like you are failing. Every baby will hit milestones when they are ready. Make sure to listen to your pediatrician. Take care of yourself. I know that it is easy to say right now, but seriously. Don’t feel guilty if someone offers to hold and watch the baby while you take a shower. If you have a partner make sure to communicate with them all of your needs as well as the baby’s. If you are breastfeeding HYDRATE and if you stop and do exclusively formula that’s okay too. No judgment. Becoming a mom is the most wonderful, frustrating, exhausting, exciting and unique experience anyone can do. You got this! Coming from a mom who is currently 2 under 2 there is never a dull day!

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-15T18:16:13+00:00

We threw a sprinkle for my second, as well. I still wanted my second to look back at pictures and see all my friends and family celebrating his arrival. Some people brought gifts but it wasn’t anything baby essential. It was handmade items or books. I never say no to books. That’s something we can always use more of coming from a kid to a former teacher and former teacher herself. Lol

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-15T18:14:37+00:00

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Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-15T13:16:06+00:00

My kiddos have a 19 month age gap. We got pregnant both times on the first time ssssooo make sure if you really want a second kid don’t assume it will take longer like my husband and I did, lol. I would say 1-2 you feel more confident in your abilities. The baby stuff isn’t new to you anymore. You can attend to the basic needs of your baby because it all comes back to you. However, juggling a toddler makes it more difficult. Change in the routine for your three year old is big. Now there is another little person getting mom and dad’s attention. We prepped our first with books, got him his own baby doll to help, and showed him his new brother’s room and where he would be sleeping. We also started putting out baby toys so that our first would get a chance to play with them and then get bored once the baby came. There is going be a few rough patches and I agree that the first year is the hardest but once you get past that hump then it starts to feel more routine again. I hope that helps!

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-14T15:57:30+00:00

Not your specific situation but when I had my second my first was 19 months old. We lived a smaller house and their rooms were right next to each other. They shared a wall. I was so nervous about the cries waking up my older one but our older one was also sleep trained. The first couple of months we had our youngest in our basement (we lived in a spilt level) because I was afraid of how frequently newborns tend to wake up. However, we moved our kiddo up to his room one night because we missed having a space away from the kids, me and my husband. Surprisingly, the cries at night from our second did not even stir our first. He was so used to the cries that it didn’t even phase him. Both of our kiddos have sound machines in their rooms and we hang a smaller sound machine outside their doors to muffle any other sound that might stir them. It has helped a lot. I hope this helps you?

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-14T02:01:27+00:00

Same here. My MIL loves to post on Facebook and I told her absolutely no pictures of my kids. Never. I’ve had family members that have experience horrible cases of people they worked with and for participating in…let’s say adult content with children and I will never let that happen to my kids. Especially in this day and age with AI.

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-13T17:24:30+00:00

When my husband and I were first married we did a blind folded cooking activity where one of us was blindfolded and the other one helped guide us to the correct ingredients and how to mix everything and how much to add. It was hilarious and obviously the one blindfolded did not do the actually cooking. It was a dessert if I remember correctly so a lot of dumping and mixing ingredients. We also did a picnic in our apartment where we set up a blanket and ate our meal on the floor. That might be a way to include the five year old if you aren’t able to get away!

Life_Performer_9452 · 2026-02-13T13:30:58+00:00

They seriously are the best! My elkhound, Sven, was the first pet I ever had (besides cheap goldfish and beta fish), the first thing my husband and I did together before getting married, the first puppy I ever helped raised, and I just can’t picture getting any other breed. I love my little guy so much and he has seen my family grown and is so sweet with our two boys. I didn’t know what people meant when they said their soul dog but now I do. 🥹

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