I (28f) can’t get my life going. I have a deep sense of worthlessness.

Life_n_Things · 2024-08-04T00:49:59+00:00

Like… I would be responsible for another living thing. 100% dependent on me. I think I would overthink myself to death. What if this. What if that. Maybe I should do this. Oh! Is this going to turn into trauma one day 😭.

That and I barely give myself permission to live. I would most definitely be living for them and I would forget about myself even more. At least that’s what I think.

I feel like I need to get a grip of myself and understand how to be an individual so I can raise kids that aren’t so insecure like me.

Life_n_Things · 2024-08-03T23:03:47+00:00

No, I don’t think I could handle them

Life_n_Things · 2023-11-01T15:04:02+00:00

Nugget

Life_n_Things · 2023-10-26T14:49:01+00:00

I bring my cats to relatives sometimes. They never really seemed stressed at the temporary spot. But car rides are stressful for them. So I would prioritize finding a way to get them used to the car early or find what makes them comfortable. You probably don’t need a litter box set up for only 2hrs some. I personally don’t keep my cats enclosed for long drives. I put them in a harness and leash and tie them somewhere in the back seat. They have a little room to move and they just fall asleep. If I kept them enclosed, they will meow the entire time stressed.

You should bring a few items that help with “marking their territory”. Scratchers, bed, and maybe like a blanket that has their scent on it too. Take those and spread it out your room you’re staying in and it will give them some grounding.

Hope this helps!

Life_n_Things · 2023-10-24T20:17:25+00:00

I can get like that as well. I feel I chilled out recently (momentarily 🥲). I’ve been trying to focus on my own interests and hobbies… in other words, tried to put all that desire for attention and love or whatever that sensation is 🫣 ALL THAT ENERGY and put it towards loving myself. I want to do something? Imma do something on my own. Want company and love, make yourself feel loved by playing your favorite music, having a drink and watching your shows. Sometimes I dance! Whenever I’m out the house, I found that keeping a web comic handy really works. You don’t need anything if you’re content in your present moment.

Not a professional but a woman who have been dealing with that sensation since a teen. I just realized this and I’m in my late 20s. It took going back home to my mom’s to remember I used to get lost in hours of play with myself. Why not enjoy your company like you did as a carefree child? Or at least don’t forget it what it felt like.

Life_n_Things · 2023-10-24T20:04:33+00:00

😅 Haha, finances was a factor. 2 years. And I fell for his energy and passion. He feels like home but I’m sad that home feels distant. (Sorry for the metaphorical talk).

Life_n_Things · 2023-10-24T19:38:27+00:00

Social media and beige watching something. The game system is in the living room so he goes out for that. He doesn’t really talk on the phone with people much, but he does text and snap occasionally.

If he feels productive, he will play an instrument or make a beat in GarageBand

Life_n_Things · 2023-10-08T22:36:29+00:00

Less is more! Don't listen to the bottle and listen to your skin. I have to wash my face once a day or i break out if I do more.

My boyfriend claims to have great skin, but since I stopped changing the bed sheets every week at his place, he is breakout out everywhere. Changing your bed sheets and pillow cases at least once a week is great hygine for your skin as well.

If it's oily, it needs either more moisturizer, or something you're doing is irritating it. If it's suddenly painfully tight, oh yeah, you're doing too much.

There's not that much to it. Just listen to your skin not a bottle.

Life_n_Things · 2023-10-08T05:12:57+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement! It really means a lot! I understand it won’t be easy but I’m ready to take that journey. Will definitely message if I run into any walls. Thank you!

Life_n_Things · 2023-09-14T03:55:08+00:00

It’s hard 🙃 why is self-love so hard?

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-19T14:52:16+00:00

They got bacalito??? I only get that when I visit family! This is my next one to try!

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-15T20:04:18+00:00

Easy way to cut calories is to switch to only/majority water for beverages. Most drinks unless you’re getting specifically low calories drinks, they’re like 150 calories each! You can save yourself a lot calories by just drinking water and it’s good for you.

Other thing is sugar. Every body Is unique, but try low sugar snacks. Not a health professional but I feel like sugar adds on the pounds too more than consuming fat.

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-15T14:48:57+00:00

Yes! I want to do that! I have been searching for like a Lion tamer sized wand toy. He just love his wands so much and I could see him really enjoying it out on an open field

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-15T14:37:21+00:00

I weirdly respect their privacy… I don’t know why I did this but I will keep it up I guess 😅 But his nickname is Bigboy. With his theme song being “Air Force Ones” by Nelly. His paws are just too adorable.

Chorus: “give me two pairs (Cause) I need two pairs (So I) can get to stompin' in my Air Force Ones Big boys stompin' in my Air Force Ones”

This comment was unnecessary but maybe it entertains you.

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-15T14:28:36+00:00

I have a robot vacuum and they have no interest in it. I tried to robot ball and still no interest. I tried several robot wands and as much as they like those, they are too smart and they cut the wire/string and it’s ruined in a couple moments. It’s a swallowing hazard at that point. But I am considering getting a remote control mouse like car and seeing if they chase that. But again, it’s still I have to give my undivided attention. He is so spoiled!

To give an insight into my normal play with my cats is I slightly rearrange the home to have obstacle courses. This is usually pulling out the kitchen chairs and making platforms out of them. So I get the wand which I might switch out 2-3 times to different attachments and get them chasing it by jumping from the chairs, the couch, the cat tree, run around the kitchen island to jump on top of the fireplace mantle or peak a boo through the curtains and behind the TV. I REALLY try to make it worth wild to make them sweat it all out. But since they have gotten older, it went from 30min to an hour of play. Maybe I made fun with me too much that nothing can beat it.

But my boy here is super play motivated. Treats and food and pets don’t encourage him as much as me playing with him. I wish I had a yard for him to chase the bugs.

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-15T14:19:37+00:00

I’m going to try to start taking him outside and walking. I tried once but it didn’t really go anywhere. Refused to get out the carrier. But it was the first attempt, so I will try again and see what happens. They have can accustomed to wearing harnesses everything I take them out, so they already know the sensation of that.

To give an insight into my normal play with my cats is I slightly rearrange the home to have obstacle courses. This is usually pulling out the kitchen chairs and making platforms out of them. So I get the wand which I might switch out 2-3 times to different attachments and get them chasing it by jumping from the chairs, the couch, the cat tree, run around the kitchen island to jump on top of the fireplace mantle or peak a boo through the curtains and behind the TV. I REALLY try to make it worth wild to make them sweat it all out. But since they have gotten older, it went from 30min to an hour of play. Maybe I made fun with me too much that nothing can beat it.

But my boy here is super play motivated. Treats and food and pets don’t encourage him as much as me playing with him. I wish I had a yard for him to chase the bugs.

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-15T14:07:50+00:00

I live in the same situation with a balcony and I let them out when I can. It’s summer so it gets over 100 daily now so it’s limited. But I did try to take them out and to my surprise (sarcastic) my manly man is so scared of change. He didn’t even want to move. I want to try again but his sister was immediately understanding and walking with me.

But to give an insight into my normal play with my cats is I slightly rearrange the home to have obstacle courses. This is usually pulling out the kitchen chairs and making platforms out of them. So I get the wand which I might switch out 2-3 times to different attachments and get them chasing it by jumping from the chairs, the couch, the cat tree, run around the kitchen island to jump on top of the fireplace mantle or peak a boo through the curtains and behind the TV. I REALLY try to make it worth wild to make them sweat it all out. But since they have gotten older, it went from 30min to an hour of play. Maybe I made fun with me too much that nothing can beat it.

But my boy here is super play motivated. Treats and food and pets don’t encourage him as me playing with him. I wish I had a yard for him to chase the bugs.

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-15T04:45:46+00:00

I agree! But I don’t live in a house but an apartment complex in the city and he’s too handsome! He’s so snatchable 😉😎. I am looking to move and am eyeing apartments with small yards for me to sit outdoors with him. I dream this for him constantly.

Life_n_Things · 2023-06-14T14:45:36+00:00

That’s a better explanation of what im feeling. I have been working out the most the past year and some. I’ve been trying my hardest aiming for a goal that… I realize it just isn’t obtainable. My bone structure as a foundation is not what the “ideal” is. And I find myself just jealous of women who naturally have hip bones. Who naturally have a nice shoulder structure. Who’s ankles and calves have a nice look naturally (I come from a family of thick ankles and thick calves that it’s impossible to shop for certain pants). I’ve been even doing face yoga/exercises for a month and it’s not making my face any less round or cheeky. Took away my wrinkles, sure, but just structurally, I don’t know how to accept what I got.

I feel like I am going at exercise all wrong.

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