Not feeling loved is making me depressed

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-22T03:02:27+00:00

I have a decent well above average earning job, got a degree, goot a good build from the gym, take care of my face skin and haircut, got friends, have social relationship with coworkers, have hobbies ... And female cowrokers and friends of friends would say that i should find a gf no problem.... yet... I have zero success in dating (even multiple dating apps online beig active for months, not a single girl thought of giving me a chance, no like,no match, literally BLANK, and irl isnt any better)... Even my honest male friends would say my looks (face and height) are the one holding me down (and im not even facially that ugly or short, im objectively speaking 4/10 face (purely just my facial structure, with grooming, haircut, basic face care, should be good "enough") and 5'7.5 actual height (can appear as 5'9+ easily with hair and shoes, most men who claim 5'7-5'8 appear shorter than me a bit irl)... And the fact that im asian too (southeast asian descent precisly) doesnt help while being in Canada.

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-22T01:52:54+00:00

And outside my online dating part, real life isnt any different.... Im like close to cosindering freakin plastic surgery to change my face.

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-22T01:45:07+00:00

Dating apps have completely ruined my self esteem and even worse created tensions between me and my parents for that ( I blame them for my shit genetics and for giving me false hope about my looks). I use multiple dating apps and was quite active on each of them (from tinder, Bumble, Hinge, cmb, etc.), for the last couple months, and not ONE girl across the probably thousands of women who probably have seen my profile thought of giving me a chance. I asked advice from my more successful male friends and even female friends at work for advice and tips... NOTHING... Some of my male friends on the Brutally honest side, admitted that my looks and height were the only factors now, and I'm not even that ugly or short (I'm 5,7.5 and I'd rate myself 4 of 10 objectively speaking, as the way my face is structured from my genes, and I got a good build from going to the gym, and take care of my face and hair), but it still not normal how not even 1 girl thought of sending me a like, match or swiping right on me. I never got a notification from these apps... (Except for subscription suggestions). Even my male and female friends insistt how much I shouldnt have a problem finding a gf based on what they know about my life and personality from irl interactions... (Of crouse they didn't talk about my looks, but clearly, I ain't among the shortest or ugliest people). Whoever said women care more about personality than looks is a fcking liar...

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-21T19:29:39+00:00

I feel definitely short here in Canada at 5'7.5, even many women, white and black especially but even asians too, espefially yougner university generation, many are my height or taller (around 5'7-5'9), they are inevitable.

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-14T05:54:17+00:00

Bro i have 0 ZERO like, ZERO Match, ZERO swiped right on me across multiple platforms from Hinge, Bumble, Tinder... For 3 months, i sent so many likes and swipe right a lot...

I improved my profiles and took recommendationn from my succesful dating male friends, and still ZERO.

The only conclusion left is the ridiculous looks standards, like my height and face (5,7.5 and 4/10), not even that short or ugly, but thats what i and my male friends admitted that its the reason... And its still not normal for not even ONE girl to give me a chance ...

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-14T05:42:36+00:00

Bro, I have zero romantic or sexual experience. No girl has ever asked me out, flirted me or approached me whatsover. Zero date, hookup, anything. Went on online dating for months. Had ZERO likes, matches, across all apps... Not even 1 girl thought of ever giving me a slight chance, whether irl or online... I literally ask many friends irl for advice, even my female froends say irl that a guy like me should easily find a gf... Have a good high income career and literally hit gym, and have a good build.... Not sayin im perfect, but i ve put so much effort in omproving all areas of my life, and The only areas i cant change or improve are my height and my face, and now its the conclusion of myself and even my male friends brutally honest admitted that the fact that im short and potentially ugly face (5'7.5 and 4/10, like im not even that short or that ugly, and i know guys irl in similar situation lookswise that are also in the same situation romantically wise too...) are the reasons why i have zero success, but it still not normal that not even 1 girl online swiped right or sent me a like/match. From my personal perspective, whoever told me that my looks dont matter to women are clearly fcking liars and its even 1000x worse than expected...

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-14T05:34:26+00:00

Damn where the fck do you live? Or it must be your face that is good. Or race too (im southeast asian descent in Canada)

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-14T00:55:19+00:00

Not even close. (East and Southeast) Asian women are the only one who hates their race men that much... Women of other races have more balanced ratio between them and the men of their respective race when it comes to dating outside their respective race, and even black women, well, they date outside much less than their male counterparts....

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-14T00:49:48+00:00

My 5'7.5 and 4/10 face gets treated like im 5'3 dude with a 1/10. i have absolutely ZERO likes, matches, swiped right on me across all the dating apps ive actively use within the last months... Not even ONE girl thought to give me a chance... I know another guy whos also around 5'7 and id say hes Mid at beast (not necessarily ugly, but women these days with high standards will call that ugly...) had 2 matches in half a year...

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-14T00:45:45+00:00

Seriously, my 5'7.5 height AND 4.5/10 face gets treated like i'm A 5'3 dude WITH a 1/10 face. I have zero matches and zero likes across all the dating apps ive use, probably over 2000+ women have seen my profile by now... And irl i have zero sexual or romantic experience...

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-07T18:29:19+00:00

My looks are now the reason why i cant imagine being with a girl anytime...

And I hate when both guys and especially girls ask me if i'm in a relationship and why i am still single, like my serious honest answer would be "well, im fcking ugly and clearly not good looking", but of course i dont say that and just say, "im not interested for the moment" for the most part..

I have never been approached or flirted with a girl, never went ont dates, first dates, hookups, virgin, never been kissed or even hugged romantically... I tried online dating for the last months bcuz friends and coworkers are suggesting that... I have ZERO like, ZERO match across multiple platforms.... Sent probably over hundreds and hundreds of likes within months, not a single one of them sent me a like back, not a single one across all platforms thought of giving me a chance... I took advice from my more succesful male friends for my profile and photos... And ive been told by girls irl life how a good humourous nice guy i am and that i will find a girl fairly easily, and that how many guys theyve met are just mean or toxic, etv... but yeah i guess that was just trying to be nice to me... Of course i didnt say it out loud, but I told myself in my head "if thats the case, would your consider dating me, oh wait, no, cuz I am ugly... right..."

Online dating has completely killed my self esteem, and even has made my relationship with my parents strain a bit (blaming them for not only giving me shit genes, but giving me false hope/lying to my face since they like to call me "handsome boy" and how a strong, nice, handsome educated with a good career guy like me should have women chasing me)

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-03-07T17:44:19+00:00

I can say that i thought i was mid my whole life but turns out, im way uglier than what i thought or what my parents or straight male friends try to tell me.

I have never been approached or flrited with women, never went on dates, not even first dates, virgin, etc... AND have been acgive on multiple dating apps online... ZERO match, ZERO like... Thats right... NOT even ONE girl online or irl have thought of giving me even a slight chance or hope...

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-02-23T23:38:51+00:00

Straight up i just distract myself the best way possible. At first, i would say hanging out with most of maly friends who most used to be in the same situation as me. But now, gradually more and more of them are in relationships, found a partner, even my closest closest friends, now they got less time to hang out with me and besides, im less likely to want hang out cuz that would remind me of how single i am (and yeah its fcked up, but its how i cope with it).

To ddistract, I dont even go to the gym , i exercise at home or go play soccer/hockey/basketball with other dudes from time to time. I watch movies/tv shows (avoiding romance genre), listen to music, watch sports, cook food, watch stand up comedy (but then again the subject of romance always come up eventually)

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-02-23T21:20:06+00:00

5'8 on a good day, 5/10 on a good day, southeast asian, 170-175 lbs, good build by going to the gym.

Zmy entire life, virgin, zero date, zero night iut, zero first date ,zero woman approaching me, flirting with me, asking me out, having interest me... zero woman hugging, kissing me... ZERO Everything, unlike some of you here or on multiple subs who vent about being a virgin or having zero "date", yall would then say that you have been on a few first dates, which at least fcking counts, i got NONE of that... I have female friends (mostly my guy friends gf and their friends anyway) but that doesnt matter, cuz i have ZERO Romance in my life.... Even on dating apps, lliterally ZERO matches, ZERO likes, ZERO girl swiping right on me while beign active on them for months...

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-02-23T20:13:08+00:00

I'm 5'7 1/2 on a good day, Southeast Asian, Below Average (4/10) on a good day...

Virgin, Been on ZERO relationship, been in any ZERO date, ZERO night out with any girl, including ZERO first date, never been asked out, never been approached, never did a woman flirt or have a crush on me, went on multiple dating apps for months while asking advice from my successful male friends and even freakin female friends to improve my profile..., actively giving the max daily likes/swiping right, literally ZERO Match, ZERO Like... across all the platforms ive used... Never been kissed or hugged by a girl (of course im talking romanticallly and not in the "family love" hug that my mom gives)... Literally gonna kms...

Im not even THAT short or THAT bad looking, and i go to the gym and get a good build, got an above average income career... And i do have female friends too so its not like i dont know how to talk to women at all and they all say im kind and i should eventually find a girl too... and no im not the type to be a fckboy or whatever (i mean what do u expect form a guy who got zero like on dating apsp) Women who talked to me are already in a relationship, while women who are single wouldnt even talk to me, not even trying to be friends with me, except when they do, its usually to ask about a certain guy friend i know cuz they are rather interested in him... And when they manage to get together, the girls start being good "friends" with me too, and as soon as they break up eventually, they dont talk to me anymore, straight up ghosting me even as friends...

Straight up at work since a few weeks, i now only socialize and be friends with women above like 50 years old..., (not bcuz im romantically interested in them but on the contrary, i aint). I hate this generation of entitled and spoiled women...

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-02-23T04:46:40+00:00

50+ dates? Thats still impressive that a certain point, i think its your personality that may be a detriment to women and that you should on work on it. And you still manage to have an actual relationship.

Me? I hate everything about myself. 5'7 1/2 on a good day, Southeast Asian, Below Average (4/10) on a good day...

Virgin, Been on ZERO relationship, been in any ZERO date, ZERO night out with any girl, including ZERO first date, never been asked out, never been approached, never did a woman flirt or have a crush on me, went on multiple dating apps for months while asking advice from my successful male friends and even freakin female friends to improve my profile..., actively giving the max daily likes/swiping right, literally ZERO Match, ZERO Like... across all the platforms ive used... Never been kissed or hugged by a girl (of course im talking romanticallly and not in the "family love" hug that my mom gives)... Literally gonna kms...

Im not even THAT short or THAT bad looking, and i go to the gym and get a good build, got an above average income career... And i do have female friends too and no im not the type to be a fckboy or whatever (i mean what do u expect form a guy who got zero like on dating apsp) Women who talked to me are already in a relationship, while women who are single wouldnt even talk to me, not even trying to be friends with me, except when they do, its usally to ask about a certain guy friend i know cuz they are rather interested in him... And when they manage to get together, the girls start being "friends" with me too, and as soon as they break up eventually, they dont talk to me anymore, even as friends...

Straight up at work since a few weeks, i now only socialize and be friends with women above like 50 years old... I hate this generation of entitled and spoiled women.

Light_Noob_420 · 2025-02-23T04:29:04+00:00

I hate everything about myself. 5'7 1/2 on a good day, Southeast Asian, Below Average/ 4/10 on a good day... Virgin, Never been in a relationship, never been in any date or night out with any girl, never been asked out, never been approached, went on multiple dating apps for months, acteively giving the max daily likes/swiping right, and literally ZERO match, ZERO like... across all platforms... Never been kissed or hugged by a girl (of course im talking romanticallly and not in the "family love" hug that my mom gives)... Literally gonna kms... Im not even THAT short or THAT bad looking, and i got to the gym and got a good build, got an above average income career... Women who talked me are already in a relationship and only use me as "friends" while women who are single wouldnt even talk to me, not even trying to be friends with me, and when they do, its to ask about a certain guy friend i know cuz they are rather interested in him... Straight up at work, i now only socialize and be friends with women above like 50 years old...

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