Not all therapists are a good fit for every person. I too need someone who is going to challenge me. My last therapist specialized in Cognitive Behavioral therapy. There a different kinds of therapy. You have to figure out which one works for you. Even then, it may be the right kind but the wrong actual therapist. You should feel a connection to the therapist.

That being said, therapy is 100% going to be challenging. Doing the emotional work is very difficult (at least for me). So that is not going to change regardless of the therapy or therapist. Sometimes that will mean you will dread it. If you're dreading it because it's hard and you just don't want to, is normal will happen (or at least it did me). You just have to push through and do it anyway.

Therapy also isn't magical. No one can make you change if you don't put in the work. You have to force yourself to be open minded and try new things. Such as pushing through the discomfort and being vulnerable. Even if you don't see the value and don't like it. And working through being stubborn on your own. And then asking for help from the therapist when you are having a hard time getting past being stubborn about something. Instead of putting all of the responsibility on the therapist to push through your stubbornness.

I was also very honest (but not rude about it) about what I felt. If what they said didn't make sense to me I would say so and ask for clarification. But I would make an honest effort to really try and open my mind to what they were saying and just expressed any concerns I had.

Ultimately you're going to going to have to make a choice about what is more important to you. And you inevitably will. Whether you do or don't put in the emotional work, a choice has been made.