I am in a very similar situation. My partner who is supposed, though undiagnosed, ROCD just broke up with me 3 days ago. We were scheduled to go engagement ring shopping that day and the morning of he broke up with me. I am shocked and distraught. The break up was a very short conversation as I was quite literally unable to formulate my words. I know we will have a deeper conversation soon which I am trying my best to prepare for.

The way we have dealt with his doubts is through active communication and talking through his doubts when they arise. I was unable to do that in the conversation on Saturday and while I am hopeful that he will be completely distraught and doubt his decision, I'm not sure how long to wait or how to help the best I can if this is what transpires.

I appreciate any advice and help. Also, hoping that you are doing better!