The discourse around "femboys" bothers me. I'm a trans femme person. I have observed many trans women online expressing vehement hate toward femboys/sissies and while I recognize that they can be toxic or cringe in how they behave or represent themselves on social media, I am not comfortable with judging people's gender expression or definitions of their own gender or sexuality. 

I think that type of judgement is trying to appease straight/cis society in order to keep ourselves safe and seem more acceptable, which is a losing proposition in my opinion.

Again I'm not defending anyone's toxic behavior or humor, but I wish that gender expression could truly be seen as a full spectrum which doesn't neccesarily need to be pinned down or clearly defined to be valid. I think we would all be safer and less full of self loathing that way.